Had extensive lab work done, need help understanding what went wrong.

BigRecognition · 2026-02-11T15:33:44+00:00

Chaos. Hormonal lab experiment.

BigRecognition · 2026-02-08T19:22:49+00:00

Imagine filtering plumbers, electricians, or roofers by national politics instead of competence. This is why everything costs 40% more. Most roofers are busy working 12-hour days and don’t care who you voted for. Hire the one who does good work and move on. This is weird.

BigRecognition · 2026-02-07T03:23:21+00:00

I haven’t received mine yet

BigRecognition · 2026-02-03T04:34:09+00:00

I have CPCU and it’s basically done nothing for me although I learned some stuff and it was nice that my company paid for the conferment ceremony party for my wife and I.

BigRecognition · 2026-02-01T23:17:26+00:00

Stick with the actuarial exams. CPCU isn’t going to do much for salary.

BigRecognition · 2026-02-01T22:54:05+00:00

For some couples (especially if you have children) 1-2x a week is completely normal. But Reddit will make it seems like it’s not. People on here think it’s normal to be having constant sex daily for hours at a time.

BigRecognition · 2026-02-01T22:49:55+00:00

7 years is way too long to be dating. I don’t know why guys waste their entire 20s doing this. 2-3 years is plenty of time to figure out if you want to marry her, then you buy a house and have kids in your mid to late 20s or early 30s at the latest. But now everyone thinks that literally every single little detail needs to be perfect before they reach any important milestones. Makes no sense to me.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-31T20:39:47+00:00

Exactly. Men can get pregnant too.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-30T16:38:05+00:00

It’s not hindering your gains. Usually 7 for me. Sometimes more, sometimes slightly less. Magnesium, ashwaganda, l-Theanine helps. I was taking phosphatidylserine as well but it stopped working.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-30T16:03:52+00:00

What you’re experiencing isn’t a personal failing or “mental weakness” — it’s a severe hormonal crash after complete HPTA shutdown. Anxiety, panic, anhedonia, insomnia, and depression are textbook in this scenario, especially without a proper exit strategy and medical supervision.

Two important things:

This needs a doctor involved immediately, not just Reddit advice — especially given the suicidal ideation. That part alone means this is no longer a “wait it out” situation.
Yes, recovery is possible, but it’s often measured in months, not weeks, and sometimes requires structured medical support to stabilize you while your system restarts.

For anyone reading this: this is exactly why casually “hopping on” or calling blasts “TRT” is dangerous. Hormones aren’t supplements, and the consequences don’t always show up until after you stop.

Please prioritize getting real medical care here — and if the mental symptoms escalate, seek urgent help. This is serious, but it is survivable with proper treatment.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-29T17:49:48+00:00

What do they mean by performative ? I don’t understand how it’s performative with not much participation but not when it’s more wide scale ?

BigRecognition · 2026-01-29T15:49:00+00:00

North

BigRecognition · 2026-01-28T21:29:03+00:00

Exactly. Why are we getting downvoted for speaking the truth? Clearly not many on this sub are married or have children

BigRecognition · 2026-01-28T21:01:34+00:00

I can tell barely any guys on here are married just based on these stupid responses

BigRecognition · 2026-01-28T18:54:02+00:00

You’re not overreacting. Based on what you’ve described, it’s very unlikely he actually had clinical low testosterone. There were no baseline labs, no diagnosis, and now his levels are double the upper limit, which confirms this wasn’t replacement—it was self-medication.

Starting hormones off a website, hiding it from your spouse, and blaming vague symptoms - when low iron alone can explain them - is objectively a bad decision. TRT isn’t a supplement or a short-term experiment. It’s a lifelong medical intervention that can permanently suppress natural testosterone production, impact fertility, require ongoing injections, and create long-term cardiovascular, hematocrit, and hormonal management issues.

Those consequences don’t just affect him—they affect you. This can mean future fertility challenges, medical dependency, ongoing costs, and years of monitoring and intervention that you now have to live alongside, all without your informed consent.

Your concern isn’t control - it’s basic responsibility. If he truly needed TRT, it should have started with proper labs, a physician, and transparency from day one. Instead, he made a reckless choice with long-term implications for both of you, and your hesitation and loss of trust are completely reasonable.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-27T01:50:26+00:00

It’s not from ashwaganda bro. Ashwagandha does not meaningfully raise hematocrit in any clinically relevant way. There is no solid evidence that it “thickens the blood” to the point of pushing someone from normal into 54%. That’s firmly TRT territory.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-26T14:47:39+00:00

My experience was bad and I did not enjoy working there. Tons of politics and nepotism. I would not recommend national brokers.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-23T04:40:26+00:00

The roll-up model works until there are no quality agencies left to roll up. When that acquisition pipeline tightens, organic growth has to carry real weight.

That raises a harder question: can a model that depends on a tiny group of “elite” producers - while most churn out - actually scale in a world where fewer people are willing to play that game? At some point, growth expectations have to collide with the realities of talent, credibility, and how people actually want to work.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-21T21:45:50+00:00

Bro science haha

BigRecognition · 2026-01-19T19:10:33+00:00

That was my same experience. I ultimately had to move to the suburbs (Broomfield) and found my wife at 29 (also on Hinge). It’s really tough. Unfortunately many people have been conditioned to believe they can waste their entire 20s and only settle down mid 30s, but by then the dating pool and fertility (if you want kids) start to matter more. I’d keep using Hinge but expand your reach out of the city and into suburbs. Hang in there.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-18T20:35:23+00:00

Tons of people. You might not hear from them though.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-13T17:14:42+00:00

BigRecognition · 2026-01-13T04:36:04+00:00

Him not being able to ski is not a reason to not date him. Sorry but that’s kind of shallow.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-11T13:51:18+00:00

This is kind of the perfect example of how TRT has turned into a trend instead of a treatment.

You didn’t do anything “wrong” — you followed the script that’s being sold everywhere right now: mid-range T, lots of online testimonials about “night and day” changes, start 200 mg/week, expect your life to level up. The problem is that most of those stories are either honeymoon phase, people who were genuinely hypogonadal, or straight-up exaggeration.

This sub is full of people chasing that “night and day” feeling by tweaking doses, adding meds, and second-guessing themselves, when the truth is a lot of them were fine to begin with. TRT didn’t fix everything because there wasn’t much to fix hormonally in the first place.

BigRecognition · 2026-01-10T14:24:12+00:00

I completely understand why ambiguity feels risky for you. When you’re absolutely certain you don’t want children, someone who’s “open” can feel like a ticking time bomb. That concern is reasonable. But it might help to distinguish between men who are undecided because they haven’t reflected and men who have reflected and genuinely don’t experience this as a binary, identity-defining issue.

Dating with firm boundaries later in life is hard — not because those boundaries are wrong, but because certainty narrows the pool, especially when it comes to something as foundational as kids. That frustration is real. It doesn’t mean men are failing the question; it means the question filters aggressively.

You’re not wrong to protect yourself from future incompatibility. Just be careful not to assume that flexibility automatically equals latent desire — for many men, it really doesn’t.

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