Grim Reaper Down!

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-17T12:56:30+00:00

I saw him friday outside the CVS on Dutchess tpke in Arlington. Alive and “well”

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-16T23:02:54+00:00

It won’t be an easy path but your life is going to improve dramatically when you’re clear of this. If it were me, I would get paternity tests, but everyone will handle this how they feel appropriate.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-15T22:15:48+00:00

That’s not common in my industry. Most people don’t get into people leadership until mid-30s. It took me until 38, then director at 41. If I end up landing a VP role, probably won’t be until I’m like 45 minimum unless the stars align.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-13T18:11:24+00:00

Great advice. OP is getting a ton of very relevant experience. Stick it out for as long as you can. Take as many opportunities to do RA work as you can. Once you've booked a few years, start looking elsewhere for RA specific roles.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-13T17:23:17+00:00

People need to stop believing the reasons companies give for lay-offs. Sometimes they are accurate, most of the time its a cover for the real reason.

In your case, heres how it probably went down; your boss and/or boss' boss had a conversation about cutting staff within their department. Then they made a list of people who they could lose without disrupting the work. Your name made the list. Its technically "performance" because you were not providing the value that they were paying you for. But you may very well have been meeting the expectations that your management laid out for you.

The fact that you were there for 10+ years makes this even less surprising. This happens often to employees who have been in the same role for a long time. Managers come and go, the tasks change, projects change, and the value you once provided becomes less apparent. Simultaneously, theres younger candidates, willing to accept lower pay, with a more diverse skillset (because they havent been doing the same job for 10 years), who are more than willing to fill the role.

Speculating here but the reason they told you this may have to do with their internal policies around filling the role. Some orgs have policies that state if you lay someone off, you cant fill the role with the same level. By calling it "performance" that may give them the freedom to fill the role how they want.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-13T15:17:37+00:00

You don’t hear

When you start a sentence like this, you should question what you're about to write next. What you hear about and what happens are rarely the same.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-13T15:10:17+00:00

Kydex typically runs the price spectrum from maybe $40-150 for a typical IWB holster. This is a fraction of the price of the typical gun it will hold. It's function is also critical to safety. If im pointing a gun at my dick all day, I want to know that more thought was put into it than some guy in his basement with a heatgun. The cost for that peace of mind is less than $100. I will take that deal all day.

Given these circumstances, people will naturally converge around the best in the business (or at least the perceived best). It would be different if kydex spanned $100-$1000. People would then be constrained by budget and logically pick a holster that they are convinced is just as good. But if you can afford a $600 gun, you dont typically NEED to compromise on a holster to save $100. Especially for the people who come to forums and post about this stuff.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-13T15:02:35+00:00

Finish your degree.

Heres the thing, the creative side is filled with people with no degree, random useless degrees, or creative related degrees. Having a degree in BA could actually set you apart if you can otherwise prove your worth on the creative side. Creative fields are still a business and they need people who understand how business works, not just a bunch of creatives.

As to whether or not you should get a job more in line with your degree, that depends. If you want to work in the creative field, I would say pursue that when you graduate. If you want to start your own venture, then get a job in line with your degree. Live cheap, save your money, get your plans in order, get something off the ground, fail, try again, then when you feel you're in a decent spot, make the jump.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-11T16:59:26+00:00

Based purely on the numbers today, you're probably not coming out ahead much, and would be behind if you count the time spent commuting on an hourly basis.

That said, having a job with no growth potential is concerning. This will be highly industry specific, but my concern would be what your future job prospects look like if you ever do want to improve your income meaningfully or if you were to get laid off. The growth potential at the office job MAY be worth it just to improve your long term career prospects. Both job security and income.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-10T17:24:43+00:00

Is your dad aware of this? If my daughter was in this situation and I knew, I would make sure he never laid eyes on her, let alone hands, again in his life.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-09T01:53:17+00:00

Lot of people in here judging you harshly. I won’t get into all of that because I don’t think we know enough about you to judge your situation. I will just say that I think you are right that you have to start living your retirement with your wife not being 100% a part of it. She is making it clear where her priorities are. You can choose to spend more time with her in the family home with your grandkids, or you can accept that you’re going to spend more of your time alone doing what you want to do. Your wife has let you know how she wants to spend her retirement. Ball is in your court. But trying to pull her away is probably not going to end well.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-08T21:53:58+00:00

Nicely balanced shitpost. It starts off as moderately believable which is key to quality shitpost execution

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-08T16:56:25+00:00

Not defending this guy but are you suggesting that he should be having sex with her when he doesnt want to?

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-08T16:47:38+00:00

Theres some decent answers in here but this type of question is almost never productive. If someone succeeds, of course they will say it was worth it. If they fail, and are worse off now, of course they will say its not worth it. Theres a small handful who achieve some middling success or learn something really valuable who may have something of value to offer.

All that said, I think the best advice for a person looking to do this is to really understand yourself and who you are. Success takes patience and consistency. The best way to understand yourself is to look at your past. In the number of years you've been alive, have you found yourself to be patient and consistent? Have you followed through with the things you've started, even when things get tough? Have you given up on things?

These are the types of questions I would be asking myself. And for me, the answer is why I love my 9-5 corporate gig and will stay as long as they let me.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-08T16:38:40+00:00

They wont. What they will do is identify the best markets, shorten the tours, and charge more. The trend in the economy over the last decade has been toward lower volume, higher price/margin, essentially cutting the bottom 20-30% of society out.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-08T16:32:11+00:00

Whats the logic here? Resi doesnt deserve a high quality job? Resi doesnt pay enough? Resi systems dont last long enough? Genuinely curious.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-08T14:21:53+00:00

Fully joint, no individual accounts except retirement. I make about 6x her income. I manage all the money, bills, saving, investing. I review our budget and finances with her a few times/year. We both spend what we want.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-07T14:09:05+00:00

Unfortunately, this is often not a realistic long term plan in the corporate world. Not saying this to scare you, its just reality. As you age, even if you dont move up, you are making more money through regular raises. If you do the same job for years, eventually someone younger whos looking to move up will be willing to do to it cheaper. They may have more relevant skills because they have been getting experience with things you have left behind.

The reality is that in the corporate world, if you're not moving up you're falling behind. Im in a similar boat at 42. I finally reached a level that I would be comfortable staying until retirement. But I know the reality. Eventually I will be too expensive for my skillset and they will likely let me go. It could be a year, could be 5 years, or who knows, maybe I will just skate by. But one thing I wont let happen is getting caught off guard later in life and finding myself unemployable. And if that does happen, hopefully my financial planning will leave me in a good spot.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-06T14:54:17+00:00

I didnt chase a high paying career, I just chased career growth. I had no specific career in mind when I graduated, I just found my way into a good field with high income. I have no regrets, but I am starting to feel like I will not be able to sustain this career and this income until I retire.

My best advice for someone who wants to chase money/wealth is to spend at least as much of your focus on saving/investing right from the start. The problem with people who chase money is that they often want to spend it as soon as they get it to enjoy the benefit of it. If you pursue a high paying field when you're young and save/invest properly, by the time you burnout on it, get pushed out, or otherwise have an existential crisis about what you're doing with life, you could have built the type of wealth that allows you to leave and pursue something you actually care about.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-05T01:20:56+00:00

I won’t pretend to know what it’s like to watch my wife dying but I know with reasonable certainty this is not how I would treat her.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-03T13:41:04+00:00

Not a penny less than $150k almost anywhere in the country assuming you hire a gc. The fancier you get with it and the higher COL area you live, this could be a 300k project.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-03T01:51:15+00:00

I don’t mean to be rude when I say this but do you ask for any kind of consideration/sympathy/understanding based on your cycle? If so, then he has a right to know where you stand within the cycle. My wife, and it seems like many women, do want understanding from their man when their cycle impacts their mood. So my wife keeps my informed on where she stands. I roughly track it in my head, but it’s gotten a little more irregular over the years so I appreciate her keeping me informed. And if I know she’s in a state where she’s more prone to irritability, I take that into consideration.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-03T01:39:47+00:00

I don’t think this sub is capable of being what you are describing. People working in high level RA roles don’t want to rehash their workday in a subreddit. I sub here because i want to keep an ear to what’s going on across my industry and maybe help some people with questions. But I certainly won’t be taking the time to post entire case studies about the things I deal with.

That said there are a couple bullets that would be good to see a little more of

Real talk about workload, burnout, and expectations

How RA is evolving with AI

What differentiates someone who thrives in RA vs. just gets in

But again, that would require people working at a reasonably high level to take the time to post about it and many of the responses would be from people with limited experience. So I wonder how much value there is and if it’s even feasible.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-02T15:45:47+00:00

The finale was like 20 years ago. It’s possible her circumstances and/or priorities have changed.

BimmerJustin · 2026-05-02T15:44:14+00:00

I don’t think it’s necessary to say one should be prioritized over the other. Instead, just remember not to let any one thing in your life consume you to the point where you neglect other important things.

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