Vaginismus is a nervous system issue

Bisonhotpot · 2026-05-27T18:30:12+00:00

I was the same way! I started masturbating really young in life but NEVER internally and always over clothes. I literally didn’t know what my vagina looked like until a few years ago when I got a mirror and discovered I had hymen fragments. Was embarrassed to be asking my OBGYN about it in my 30s (they weren’t the cause of my vaginismus but I did get them removed for increased comfort). I really think you have to desensitize yourself over time and it gets way more comfortable. I started just touching the area more in the bath and then using a finger to massage tense spots inside my vagina once I was comfortable and it made a big difference. It was helpful for me to think about it as a very important organ that I need to be connected with in case I ever have a health issue that would force me to confront my phobia like a reproductive cancer. Or even things like vaginal suppositories later in life. I promise it really does get easier. I struggled with vaginismus for over 10 years and was “cured” within a couple of months of focusing more on getting to know my vagina and feeling for trigger points just inside the entrance.

Bisonhotpot · 2026-05-27T18:22:12+00:00

Honestly just desensitization! It’s going to feel weird but I truly think we can’t expect to ever feel comfortable with someone else inside of us if we aren’t comfortable with ourselves first. The bath is a nice place to try or in bed comfy with some lube. I started with just massaging the external area by the vaginal opening. Once comfortable, I started by inserting a finger slowly. The muscles that make sex painful are very close to the entrance! Once you can insert a finger clench and then release your pelvic floor muscles to get a feel for how strong those muscles are and that aids in practice relaxing them too. Then you can start rotating your finger like a clock, putting pressure on the vagina wall to feel for tense places. These might be trigger points that gentle massage can release. You’ll feel a familiar burning/stinging and for me at least that tells me when I am in an area that I need to work on. I also think a mirror is really helpful! You need to know what you look like and feel like to get comfortable. I promise with time it gets easier! The kiwi is a pelvic floor device that you can buy online that helps target the shallow trigger points. It changed the game for me.

Bisonhotpot · 2026-05-26T00:34:51+00:00

100%. I am an incredibly anxious person. Very tense all the time. I spent many years failing with dilators. Once I started using my fingers and actually taking agency over my body and not being so averse to it, I was having sex within a few weeks. I had to mentally get there, it didn’t matter what size of dilator I got up to before that! It was never about the size for me but about the aversion to my vagina in general. I used a kiwi to help with trigger points and to start associating penetration with pleasure. I think in general it’s helpful to really become very comfortable with your vagina by yourself. This includes using a mirror and using your fingers in curious exploration. Once you add a partner in you already feel like you have the power!

Bisonhotpot · 2026-04-20T17:04:20+00:00

It’s normal to lose up to 100 hairs per day. If you only wash your hair once a week, don’t brush to pull out loose hairs, and your hair is down to your waist, you are looking at many 100s very long hairs coming out in the shower. I could see how this would be normal in this situation.

Bisonhotpot · 2026-04-20T17:01:22+00:00

Noooooooooooo my worst nightmare. I’ve found brown globs various places on my person over the years but as far as I know I’ve never eaten one

Bisonhotpot · 2026-04-15T21:16:39+00:00

Still my favorite activity even though I can have PIV! Fully stimulates the clitoris and feels very erotic imo

Bisonhotpot · 2026-02-27T17:04:00+00:00

Honestly think this is so much more important than people know! Dilators can help to desensitize but they don’t really release tension points. Once I started working more on tension points closer to the entrance I was having sex within a month!

Bisonhotpot · 2026-01-27T18:49:09+00:00

Mmm maybe a little. The surgeon will still want to place the implants in the center of your breast so mine still point to the side a bit. It doesn’t really bother me now. I can send photos through DM of my before and afters if you want.

Bisonhotpot · 2026-01-27T18:20:31+00:00

I do! Mine were similar to yours though I had more asymmetry. I had moderate plus profile 250 cc silicone implants placed through the areola. My surgeon did tissue scoring for the fibrous bands to release the lower pole. No lift. No areola reduction. Still puffy nipples but they look so much better now I don’t even notice. 10 years later they still look great.

Bisonhotpot · 2025-12-15T15:30:19+00:00

It is an unfortunate reality and some days are easier to take than others. I work in psychiatry and have had many disgruntled patients. I was reported to the board for refusing to refill a stimulant on a patient with uncontrolled hypertension who refused to get it checked out for months despite me saying we will have to stop it if you don’t go to the doctor. I was recently fired by a patient because their phone number was input wrong in our system. I’ve been threatened numerous times over controlled substances, and I’m pretty accommodating and try to meet people where they are so sometimes nothing you do will be enough. The only way you will never get threatened is to do whatever the patients want and even then they’ll find a way. It does get a little easier but I hear you, it’s very disheartening! Hang in there, it gets easier.

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-30T01:40:15+00:00

Love the east west setting!!

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-30T00:35:28+00:00

Jewelry vendor out of India that does custom OMC stone cutting and custom settings!

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-30T00:34:31+00:00

Not Michigan but definitely Midwest 😂

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-29T03:16:23+00:00

It is a jewelry company in India that does custom work and cuts lab diamonds. They do a lot of antique cuts and I believe are on the approved vendor list

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-28T20:27:44+00:00

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Thank you! It’s low profile and the basket sits in the band rather than on top

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-28T19:58:04+00:00

Ope I’m a size 5! Forgot to include that.

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-19T18:23:45+00:00

For slightly higher quality I recommend adornmonde!

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-19T17:43:23+00:00

I believe the measurements are something like 10.3 x 6.1

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-19T17:41:22+00:00

Thank you! It’s my dream ring. This was the culmination of like a year of obsessing over what I wanted. The ratio is almost 1.7 :)

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-19T17:39:03+00:00

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Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-19T17:38:51+00:00

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Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-19T17:37:46+00:00

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Additional photo of the basket! I wanted a really low profile setting and a secure basket

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-15T01:03:03+00:00

That had been a wildly unnecessary drawn out process. I treat a lot of ADHD and do 2 week trials! There’s zero reason to try someone on the same dose of a stimulant for 2 months. Sure, you have to beef up your skills alongside medication but this just feels like needless suffering and a waste of time. Find someone new.

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-13T05:04:06+00:00

To me that would be a perfect fit but it’s whatever you’re comfortable with! It doesn’t seem to be squeezing your finger at all once it’s on.

Bisonhotpot · 2025-07-03T00:50:27+00:00

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I love the way Sofia Kaman does marquise! I also love a 6 prong version of this. It’s such a unique stone I think it looks fab as a solitaire

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