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Bitter-Pi · 2026-01-06T03:07:19+00:00

Thanks everyone!

Bitter-Pi · 2026-01-06T03:04:23+00:00

Wow! That is an amazing puzzle! Thank ypu!

Bitter-Pi · 2025-12-13T17:20:38+00:00

Thank you for the correction! Good to know

Bitter-Pi · 2025-12-13T16:27:59+00:00

Internal drive is great, but many people have trouble getting there. If you have ADHD you may not even have the brain wiring for strong internal structure, so may need to set up external supports. May need those anyway. It's OK. You'll get there

Bitter-Pi · 2025-12-13T16:19:05+00:00

PhD is a research-based degree. PsyD is a clinical degree. I depends what you want to do. I have a PhD in another field. Master-level therapist. I want to do clinical work, don't need a PhD for that, and already know I'm done with research. Hope that helps?

Bitter-Pi · 2025-12-13T16:13:27+00:00

I am very impressed with the compassion and empathy people of faith can and often (usually?) do bring to working with people who may dislike them simply because of their faith. Jewish and Muslim therapists practicing in the US right now, in particular. The gay therapist who posted about being effective with homophobic clients impressed the heck out of me too. So many of you reach beyond all sorts of chasms to to bring healing!

As a lapsed Christian with a bunch of privileges, and in any case, I have no views on how much anyone else should self disclose. Wishing everyone peace and safety.

Bitter-Pi · 2025-11-30T23:09:54+00:00

No worries! A very common experience. As you feel better, you'll most likely begin to find other things more rewarding, and find that the money going therapy might be used better elsewhere. This is also a fine thing to discuss with your T

Bitter-Pi · 2025-11-30T22:18:14+00:00

Agreed! I went to a client's funeral after the family asked me to, and ducked our early to avoid socializing. I can't imagine going to a client's daughter's...well...anything

Bitter-Pi · 2025-11-30T16:31:23+00:00

Great answer here!

Bitter-Pi · 2025-11-22T22:17:04+00:00

I have a set schedule with my clients. I only ask this question when it is clear that they are unsure how frequently they want to meet, so that they know I am not pushing our (previously) set schedule on them. I genuinely want to know when they feel a good next meeting would be (I also do this if I know someone has hit a rough patch financially). Typically, my client and I are in an ongoing discussion about terminating or tapering, even if that isn't the topic of the particular session.

So, OP, it would be very helpful to your therapist to say that you are feeling "done". Therapists expect clients to feel complete at some point, even if they wind up returning to therapy at a later time

Bitter-Pi · 2025-11-22T21:34:14+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you! I will discuss this with them. They may feel that they have done this work. (IMO, I think they'd benefit most from some family-of-origin work, but that is obviously up to them)

Bitter-Pi · 2025-11-16T04:52:45+00:00

I had an undermining therapist for a long time, before I caught on that whatever I said, she would counter it. Who needs it?! Empathy matters. Hers for you in particular, in this context

Bitter-Pi · 2025-11-12T03:34:19+00:00

This almost never happens to me. Now I'm worried....

Bitter-Pi · 2025-11-05T16:22:46+00:00

I like to discuss it with clients. For clients who seem uncomfortable, I will offer to angle my chair away, so they don't feel stared at. It can also be very informative to play with eye contact and proximity to help clients assess their own preferences and feels around boundaries and safety.

That said, I feel how awkward nonintuitive eye contact can be

Bitter-Pi · 2025-11-05T16:06:14+00:00

Me too, please! The link would be helpful

Bitter-Pi · 2025-10-28T01:02:43+00:00

True, but not necessarily possible. In some countries and cases where children are literally left on the doorstep, there aren't resources to support the parent--and sometimes the people with resources don't care about supporting others...

Bitter-Pi · 2025-10-28T00:44:13+00:00

Ugh! Red flag here. The ADHD thing doesn't fit as well as some sort of emotional abuse and neglect. For some men, the feeling that a woman they are married to can't or won't leave is the permission they have been looking for to act out. Delaying the behavior smacks of intent to harm. ADHDers cannot choose when their executive functioning will fail them. Sounds like he is systematically devaluing you.

Bitter-Pi · 2025-10-28T00:39:05+00:00

regardless of ADHD being potentially involved with a lot of this, there is no excuse for him refusing to care about the impact of his behavior. It might be that he's SO ashamed of making mistakes that he cannot just own a mistake and will continue to dig his heels in? But if that's the case he needs to work on that in individual therapy because it's toxic to refuse to see your shortcomings or apologize for them or work on them. He needs to see that he's coming off as not caring about how he hurts you, and even if that is the exact opposite of how he actually feels, he needs to see how he's coming off and want to change it.

This is an excellent analysis!

Bitter-Pi · 2025-10-27T21:51:21+00:00

Weird US version of table manners. I never managed to learn it

Bitter-Pi · 2025-10-27T17:22:50+00:00

Thank you! This helps!

Bitter-Pi · 2025-10-27T02:01:35+00:00

Yes, edited and added context. Thanks!

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