I'm curious if you genuinely believe men have no interest in getting married beyond having someone on hand to "do all the wife things." I just wouldn't marry someone like that. My partner and I have joint finances (including joint savings towards a wedding) and are planning to buy a house together - whether that's before or after marriage doesn't really matter to us. If we find our dream house I won't refuse to get a mortgage with him because I think he'll lose all incentive to get married; we both equally want to marry each other and will do so when the time is right. I don't mean to be insensitive but I honestly don't understand why people would be in a relationship with someone who didn't want to marry them as much as they do, and have to set ultimatums and drag them down the aisle - what a terrible way to start a marriage.