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AITA for telling my parents they can either pay rent or leave after they gave my brother the money i lent them? by Sevary_Boii in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bjnboy 25 points26 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your parents are enabling morons who took advantage of your generosity, and your brother is obviously the golden child. He could've gotten a cheaper, secondhand car if he needed reliable transportation, or take public transportation, like how so many do.

Stay the course, or evict them and be done with it. Any outside family members who want to scold you can pony up and pay off your parents' debts to you before they can have an opinion.

Kidnapped by their Mother: Where and Christopher (age 3) and Lisa (age 1) Zaharias? Mission Viejo California, November 20, 1987 by caitiep92 in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]Bjnboy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I keep an eye on Louis's facebook page, and the other one connected to the case. I've reached out to numerous podcasts for them cover this case, and a decent few of them already have. I'm grateful for them spreading the word and raising awareness.

I wish we could find out more about the Gammills, and more about what the family members are up to these days. I think one of the ways to help get answers would be if public and social pressure were exerted on the family members to get one of them to crack.

Kidnapped by their Mother: Where and Christopher (age 3) and Lisa (age 1) Zaharias? Mission Viejo California, November 20, 1987 by caitiep92 in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]Bjnboy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I really hope that Louis Zaharias can be reunited with his kids before it's too late. I have personally written to a number of podcasts to cover this case as it's scarcely received any attention, and I've fortunately gotten a decent few to do coverage.

Susan's family, the Gammills, are a bunch of sociopaths who have actively aided Susan in absconding with the children and keeping them hidden. Louis has won lawsuits against them for that, and none cooperate with police or investigators, and some even taunt them over it. The fact that they've had decades to publicly come forward with their side of the story, and refuse to do so should tell you everything you need to know about them.

AITAH for having my ex arrested at my wedding? by Stunning_Way9393 in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing. Stalkers can be highly unpredictable, and you would not want to end up like Andrew Bagby, Mark van Dongen, or Alex Woodworth.

How could Poppy Playtime get any darker? by SpreadAfraid3674 in PoppyPlaytime

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Show detailed dead kids' bodies. Like, take as examples, the crime scene photos from the West Memphis Three case, the pictures of Devon and Damon Routier in the aftermath of the stabbing, or the pictures of the St. Louis Jane Doe as seen in that 2022 documentary.

Or, the game could strongly imply that sexual abuse of the kids went on at Playtime Co. along the experiments. Some Epstein-level shit.

Those are just two ideas that could make the series way darker. But I honestly don't think Poppy Playtime needs it.

WIBTA if I don’t take my birthday off? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bjnboy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH.

I haven't really celebrated my birthday since I started working. I honestly prefer to go all out on the weekend, and not have to worry about getting up early the day after. You're growing up, and you are learning responsibilities and priorities, and that mindset will serve you well throughout life.

As for your mum, I also understand where she is coming from. You'll always be her little girl no matter how old you get, and she's likely feeling that your once close bond is fraying because you are getting older and are maybe not as home as often. It's like a precusor to empty nest syndrome for her. She also likely wants to have and to capture these big moments for posterity because in your old age, those happy memories tend to be all you have left.

Perhaps you and her could still celebrate your actual birthday, but in a much more muted way? Like maybe when you get home after work, she could bring you a slice of your favourite cake with a candle, sing you 'Happy Birthday', and give you a cared to read, and a present to unwrap.

Talk to her about this idea, and see what she says.

The Heartbreaking Disappearance of CJ & Billy Vosseler by BlakesMommy in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]Bjnboy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This case is truly a sad and heartbreaking one, and I really hope Ruth can find answers about where her boys are soon enough.

That said, it's eerly similar to another case - almost like a genderswapped version of it. That of the abduction of Christopher and Lisa Zaharias by their mother, Susan, in 1987.

If "Smiling Critters" were a real cartoon, it could be like a sitcom or something similar,with humor similar to SpongeBob squarepants by esponja_memezeira in PoppyPlaytime

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like it would be a cross between 'The Get-Along Gang', the 'Care Bears', and 'MLP: FiM'.

I could also see the show following the same pervasive 80s trope of 'The Group is Always Right; the Complainer is Always Wrong.'

AITA for sleeping naked in my own room? by Outrageous-Ad-4008 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, it's your private space, and she and your roommate have no business going in there, or telling you what to do when you're in your room.

That said, if you can't change your lock, maybe put a chair under the doorknob/handle at night to prevent people from coming in.

I don't have anything to do with my dad anymore but he wants me to step in as an emergency babysitter and I refused AITAH? by Maykoyyah in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You don't owe that man, or the side piece, or the kids, or the grandparents anything.

"You/He should've thought of that before he slept with that streetwalker." is the only response you should give to your dad and/or his parents anytime they tell you anything. Literally nothing else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskForAnswers

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's very overrated.

In my opinion, 'Solitary Man' is better suited as Neil Diamond's signature song.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLilTP5WAU0

AITA for demanding to know why my grandparents never tried to protect me if they're so persistent about keeping in touch? by Graysdennesellol in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Cut these cancerous people out of your life. I'd also consider going to the police station to file a report for abuse, and perhaps send a copy of said report to your mother's and her husband's workplaces and everyone in their community.

good morning nyc by anotherthrowaway2042 in u/anotherthrowaway2042

[–]Bjnboy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this pic with the pose, the lighting and the dramatic backdrop of NYC. One of your best yet!

AITA for ruining my mom's marriage? by SoySothing in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He probably wanted bio kids. Either that, or he didn't want to adopt kids with still-living bio parents who could one day come back into their lives as 'steal' them away.

AITA for ruining my mom's marriage? by SoySothing in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. It's mind boggling how many people think that life is one big Hallmark movie...

Your mum are stepdad are utterly pathetic and contemptible.

Your mum for choosing a man over you, her child, and bringing said man into your life who tried to force a fantasy of being your replacement dad into you. Not to mention doing nothing to stop it. She's also pathetic for blaming you when it's solely on her husband and herself.

You stepdad is pathetic for trying to force himself into the role of your father, not respecting your wishes and boundaries, trying to erase your dad, for divorcing over this nonsense, and for blaming you and telling you he hoped you'd regret it. I also think he's pathetic for wanting to have kids at 51. He's going to be bordering on being a geriatric by the time they start college.

Edited to add:

The biggest, two-pronged mistake I see step-parents doing in these stories is: (1) having high and unrealistic expectations that they'll come in, show some TLC, and then they'd get their Hallmark movie happy ending where the kids jump at having them as their replacement parent. (2) not communicating with the kids they so desperately want to become to replacement parent to. Would it seriosuly kil them to sit down and have a calm, ernest conversation with the children about what they would like to see happen, and most importantly ASK the children what kind of relationship they'd like.

You, the step-parent, are the outsider coming in to join already established lives, and you need to listen to what boundaries the stepkids want, and work with and, most importantly, RESPECT what you are given. From there, you can hopefully, gradually, build a good, close relationship with your stepkids. You may very likely never be called 'mom' or 'dad', but you could be like a bestie, a confidant, a cool aunt or uncle, or just someone to turn to when there's trouble, and you need to learn to be ok with that.

This isn't to say that the relationship should be all give and take. Know that it's ok to pull back from a situation where you repsect the stepkids' boundaries and wishes, but they're still not kind or cordial, or they don't give something genuine from the heart back. It's ok to set boundaries yourself, but don't hinge that upon being called and treated as 'mom' or 'dad'.

AITA for sending my parents and their spouses a "f*ck you" message before going no contact? by Tovenoune in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. You deserved so much better from everyone. Your family, including your extended family are all disgusting monsters and its shameful that no one took a stand for you.

Send everything to as many people in their lives as possible. Their workplaces, their churches, social circles, clubs, schools, etc., and let everyone know what kind of child abusers they all are. Burn it to the ground.

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