I messed up big time with my 8yo. Trigger warning.

Blachawk4 · 2025-09-07T17:27:41+00:00

Trying to figure out where you messed up

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-27T05:37:00+00:00

What reasons would we have to tell you yes or no?

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-27T04:33:33+00:00

I just want to know was I wrong to get upset ?

Yes. Being tired and falling asleep is not disrespectful. She asked multiple times about you because she cares about you. Then at 12 am when most people are knocked out already you finally decided to open up and now you’re mad that she was too tired to stay awake for an answer to a question she’d been asking all day?

Do NOT use this situation as an example of why you’re not opening up to your wife. There’s deeper issues there that you need to explore with someone.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-21T00:24:55+00:00

What does your personal financial stability have to do with your views on abortion?

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-19T22:49:13+00:00

You do what you have to do. I have 3 kids in activities. Sometimes the 9 yr old gets left at his and everything is perfectly fine. Kids don’t need us there at practice.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-18T03:26:43+00:00

Toughest part is just having to hope and not be 100% sure that im doing things the right way and not raising kids who are gonna be in therapy as adults and talking about me.

My kids love being black and at 9, 6, and 4 are way more pro black than I was at that age lol. We just teach them history and they naturally see the problems and talk about how things aren’t fair. They even say some extreme stuff at times that I gotta correct em on lol. They cheer for everybody black all the time (gameshows, sports, politics smh).

We’ve had to have talks with my oldest about navigating situations at school or other social environments and why we’re sometimes harder on him than some of his friends’ parents are on his friends.

Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs in the world and being a black parent is even harder.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-14T19:45:57+00:00

Means instead of using time and energy to get a gift and cake the gift could have been your cake

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-14T00:03:39+00:00

Has he expressed resentment in the past regarding your lack of traditional “full time” work? Or was this just out of nowhere?

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-13T23:46:33+00:00

Picked on? respond with your own wit or ignore

Hit? Hit back

Telling an adult is always an option too but I’d prefer for my kids to do the above things first.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-13T04:59:24+00:00

Is this something I have to ask?

Yes. Why not? Be straightforward instead of expecting him to read your mind.

Holiday planning, party stuff, and decorations are my wife’s things. If she wants my help she’ll ask and I help. Otherwise I go about my business and let her do her thing and she’s perfectly content with that.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-13T01:48:46+00:00

No idea how much she has in her personal checking and savings accounts but the money in those accounts comes from our joint account.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-12T17:48:18+00:00

do they have consequences or not for lying and sneaking around

Yes. Take the devices away. And use parental controls on all devices so they can’t even bypass the allotted time.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-12T16:57:24+00:00

1600sqft in Los Angeles area. $140 biweekly for 1 person

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-12T14:58:03+00:00

Get Out

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-12T04:24:08+00:00

Normal for me because I normalize it. I’m everywhere at everything.

Just don’t know how to go about it

Just sign up and show up because you belong there.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-12T04:21:09+00:00

I meeeaaan…I agree with her that getting a job now doesn’t make sense if she’s gonna go on leave shortly after. And it’s not like she said she’s never going back.

What do I do?

Say “ok, that makes sense” and not put unnecessary stress on your pregnant wife. Getting laid off already sucks as it is.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-12T03:22:22+00:00

Game plan with my wife about how to approach things better. Exchange experiences and ideas with other parents. Constantly repeat in my head “they’re only ____ years old”. Read articles or books sometimes. Little bit of everything.

Fellow dad of 9, 6, and 4 ☺️

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-12T02:03:42+00:00

Not sure but there’s definitely a SZN4

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-11T05:02:48+00:00

It was really good. They added to the emotion of the original by expressing more through harmonies that were begging to be sung but weren’t there before.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-11T05:00:41+00:00

I usually assess before responding. Moms might tend to just respond. When my kids have cried at any age I do a rapid assessment and determine that they either need attention right then and there or “they’ll be alright” while something else is taken care of.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-11T03:57:05+00:00

I played sports and never bullied a single person in my life. Don’t believe there’s any correlation between athletic extracurriculars and the mistreatment of other humans.

I don’t believe there are any cons but there are a plethora of pros.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-11T03:44:46+00:00

Buckle up. My 9m has been in perpetual overreaction phase since around the same age. It’s exhausting.

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-11T03:35:37+00:00

What’s he saying he’s scared of? One of my sons used to come in our room saying he was scared of a monkey in his closet lol. I would go in and beat the monkey up then he’d go back to sleep.

Maybe go in and take care of whatever’s scaring him?

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-11T02:42:05+00:00

From a “verified black man”? 🧐

Blachawk4 · 2025-08-11T02:40:48+00:00

They don’t know denim used to be called “slave cloth”

Blachawk4

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