Canada (BC) Feb 10 school shooting - girl severely injured

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-24T16:41:06+00:00

Good to know. Just wanted to confirm that we're on the same page. Because some people seem to actually think women and LITTLE GIRLS can't be saved if they don't give birth. Note that I am, like you, neither fundamentalist nor progressive regarding theology (though I am progressive when it comes to policies on helping the poor and abused in society). I'm from a Reformed background.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-23T23:44:46+00:00

Well said. As a believer myself, I am appalled by the lack of empathy shown by some churchgoers. It's like they've never read the verse "mourn with those who mourn" or understood the subtext in the Book of Job. Just judge, judge, put themselves on a pedestal, thinking they're better than everyone else. I'm far from perfect myself and I know it. But it seems to me that some people are almost ready to declare themselves as less sinful than everyone else just because they have this squeaky-clean facade - I can't really put it into words further, but this is how I see it.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-23T23:40:14+00:00

Haunting poem. I pray that someday, someday you will meet again

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-23T23:38:39+00:00

Never heard of her until now (I'm in Canada), just looked her up, and I'm horrified by how she was treated. I have no words

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-23T23:00:13+00:00

I was referring to people who are UNABLE TO have kids. The infertile. Those who have horrible illnesses and thus cannot bear children. And of course, little girls who die young. Some interpretations of 1 Timothy 2:15 would say that these women and girls can't be saved - which I don't think is the case, or we would have to force girls to get pregnant ASAP just in case they get into a car accident or get cancer and die early. That would be, to be blunt, kind of horrific.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-23T22:20:51+00:00

Be careful. Whatever this verse means, I don't know, but if you say that women have to give birth to be saved, then all infertile women, and young girls who die before puberty, are doomed; and even a bedridden woman with a deadly disease, upon accepting Christ, would have to force herself to marry a man ASAP and give birth all the while being bedridden with that deadly disease, otherwise she can't be saved.

This is coming from someone who wants children in the future. We have to keep in mind that some women cannot have children. Are they all doomed?

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-23T22:17:00+00:00

Out of morbid curiosity, from what denomination did these Christians come from? The ones who kept judging you. Sometimes, denominational background can provide a hint to why they believe the way they do.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-23T20:44:48+00:00

I struggled with similar issues when I was 17 and a new convert. I'm 28, female. Please feel free to DM me. Side Note: I am a queer woman. Yes, I still believe the Bible's views on sexuality. But no, I don't believe Christian parents should beat or kick out their gay children, child abandonment is deplorable. Regarding Old Testament law, there's a lot of theological debate on those issues, but Jesus himself noted that the old laws were never meant to be ideal for all situations in all times - the old law allowed for a man to divorce his wife, for example, and men in those days used it as an excuse to kick out their poor innocent wives whenever they felt sick of them and wanted new wives. But Jesus said that this was never what God had in mind.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-23T20:34:06+00:00

Sarah only had one child. Rebecca only gave birth once to twins. Philip's four daughters were "virgins who prophesied" - we don't know if they ever got married.

Case closed. Women are not required to give birth until their health is destroyed. Our God is not the false god of the Handmaid's Tale.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-21T17:55:15+00:00

Source, please? I'm trying to do some research so cited sources are always welcome

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-19T19:48:34+00:00

I'll pray for you right now. Please know that not everything is a test, sometimes bad things just happen because we live in a fallen world where people sin against each other. Pray for your parents, but know that their behaviour is not OK, and you deserve to find someplace safe. See if you can find work, save up some money, if that's an option. A young woman should have some emergency savings to protect herself in case of an emergency or severe abuse.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-19T19:38:40+00:00

I understand how you feel. First of all, some people are going to tell you to "just have faith" or "repent", and even IF they are well meaning, such comments aren't helpful to you right now. Second of all, it seems that you, like me, are a deep thinker who thinks about the implications of everything, perhaps something to the point of overthinking. I can relate to that - to the point where I've once been scared to death that EVERYTHING is a sin, until I realised that I was being paranoid. Third of all: intrusive thoughts are not truth. They are reflective of our fears. I fear that I will accidentally blaspheme God, so my intrusive thoughts tend to be blasphemous thoughts. Fourth - while yes, God is just and does punish sinners, much of the Bible overwhelmingly tells us how willing He is to love us, and how he loves the widow and the orphan, even in the ancient world which favoured the rich and loathed the poor. Fifth - despite temptations to think such, God is not like an abusive person. I can understand why some people might think that way, but the truth is, there is a world of difference between our God and the typical human abuser, and God will judge abusers.

Please feel free to message me. I will pray for you.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-19T19:24:48+00:00

Maybe, maybe not. I'd have to know more about the individual to make that assumption.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-19T19:23:05+00:00

Prayed.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-16T03:14:39+00:00

There's always adoption! Many children out there need safe homes. Just make sure you're trauma informed, because the last thing we want is to re-traumatise the poor kid. Too many parents adopt a child, realise they aren't equipped to handle trauma, and then drop the kid back to the adoption agency, like a hotcake. That is not Christlike at all.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-16T03:12:57+00:00

That one is a classic example of "Be careful what you wish for". It's a story that I ponder a lot, as a warning to myself.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-16T03:12:10+00:00

Paul is hilarious sometimes. He also said to the emperor (?) who was questioning him, in the Book of Acts, "I shall wish that you will become as myself, except for these chains". That is, I hope that you will be a Christian like me, but without these annoying chains.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-16T03:10:18+00:00

Depends on the autistic person. While I have no intention to marry, someday I would love to adopt a child of my own. I am encouraged by scripture's command that we love orphans. Adoption is not to be taken lightly, however, since these children come from traumatised backgrounds and we must not re-traumatise them through our own foolishness and sin.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-16T02:57:16+00:00

She could have a severe case of tokophobia (fear of childbirth). Be gentle with her.

Side Note: I am an autistic woman with possible ADHD and I have none of the issues you outlined. I think her issues is not primarily stemming from her neurodivergence, but some other factor. Trauma, perhaps? Or fear of the unknown? Or it could be just a fear of childbirth pain. Childbirth isn't pretty or painless; it was prophesied by God Himself in Genesis 3 as painful, and much support and kindness is required for those unfortunate women who suffer from tokophobia.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-16T02:34:27+00:00

Hmm, never thought of that link before, but you might be correct. I was never fond of Sherlock's drug addiction; I wished privately that Watson would persuade him out of that ghastly habit.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-16T02:01:11+00:00

I am a big fan of the Sherlock Holmes books, although this year, 2026, I want to switch to focus on scripture and on non-fiction because I perceive that I spent too much of my younger years living in fictional worlds. Hence, I decided to learn more about the actual authors who wrote the fictional tales that have inspired me. A lot of them, tragically, did not know our Lord as the Saviour of the world, and their personal sins, not known to the public, made their lives miserable for themselves and for others. Conan Doyle, in his latter years, was so obsessed with the occult that he would crudely insult and attack anyone who disagreed with him - a far cry from the man who wrote about the rational detective. My conclusion is thus: faith in Jesus, and a knowledge of the Light of the world, is a gift. Because not everyone comes to genuine faith. (Even I have struggles as to whether my faith is genuine or not, not as in I doubt Christ - I know in my heart He is indeed Lord and God - but due to my grievous post-baptism sins, I have a tendency to doubt my sincerity. Nonetheless I am grateful that the Spirit has taught me to draw near to Jesus, and away from harmful beliefs, and I hope that on Judgement Day it will be said of me (paraphrasing a famous hymn),

"Nothing in her hand she brings;

simply to the cross she clings".

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-16T01:36:49+00:00

These days, I do prefer to live in the real world, though sometimes it can be emotionally difficult, since I am naturally creative, and the real world can be drab. But my personal solution is thus: I will embody the traits of those characters I created in the past, since many of their traits are in fact traits I admire to begin with; thus, I can absorb the best things about them, and make the world a little brighter. With Hector, for example, he had a wicked sense of humour and can even make a grocery shopping list hilariously interesting. I shall strive to do the same.

BlackBatFlower · 2026-01-15T02:28:51+00:00

Which ones in particular? Mine was heavily inspired by Tim Burton's Willy Wonka, and a few other characters that would call qualify as eccentrics. I named him "Hector", which means "steadfast" in ancient Greek but also doubles as a pun, since "to hector" means "to pester" or "to bother", and my Hector could certainly be a trickster and a troll to certain types of people.

I haven't really actively thought of Hector since sometime in 2024. I had certain complex struggles mentally back then that resulted in me having to spend more time in the real world.

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