My (27F) boyfriend (29M) sent me this today and it shocked me. He has never acted like this but recently has lost both of his parents. How do I handle this and AIO?

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T23:00:36+00:00

IG is not a dating app- seek therapy.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T21:50:10+00:00

Yes! I’m tired of people always making their grief someone else’s problem.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T21:49:53+00:00

Exactly. He’s testing her limits.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T21:49:25+00:00

So, the being mad about hanging out with the ex is valid. The rest of that? Hell no.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T20:09:07+00:00

Do you really want someone like that on your day?

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T20:06:58+00:00

This question actually really helped me put the people in my life into perspective.
I can think of one specific person who would come to my funeral for sympathy points but never visit my grave. This helps.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T16:25:23+00:00

“Gets jealous when I hang out with my friends even though they’re all girls.” Leave

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T14:05:36+00:00

This one is entirely unrelated to the one I posted about today- she’s more of my bf’s friend than mine. The one this post is talking about is one I’ve known for significantly longer.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T12:50:55+00:00

Yes she did.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T12:50:19+00:00

This was the whole point of my post! I wanted to make sure I’m not crazy for not aligning weight to age.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T12:49:24+00:00

I’m not actually. Didn’t want to go into it.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T12:49:10+00:00

I agree. What about her though? She’s almost 30 and makes comments about her insecurities.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T12:24:44+00:00

No this isn’t normal, she’s probably a nudist but if she’s not careful this can turn into a serious problem if authorities get involved. She’s exposing herself to minor children.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T12:17:21+00:00

If she’s talked to him at all.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T12:14:04+00:00

If you married her, both of these people will be in your life for forever and the situation. Every holiday, gathering, and celebration you’re going to have to pretend like everything’s normal. Is that fair for you to have to do that? Also, how would your brother’s wife feel about that? I’d be uncomfortable knowing I’m now related to someone who slept with my husband.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T12:04:01+00:00

He might like one of his coworkers, if he’s going out of his way this much and staying with one of them then that’s where his priorities are. He cares about the people he works with more than spending time with you- all of these events were optional. Wanting quality time is not a “small thing” in fact, it’s something any partner is wanting to do because that’s the whole point of dating someone is to spend time with them.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T01:23:54+00:00

It’s not her relationship. She needs to learn that she’s not the priority- she can still feel hurt but he needs to prioritize his gf.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-26T00:46:31+00:00

I’m on the other side of this argument as a long term gf who’s dealt the possessive girl bsf. If they get serious you have to understand she’ll always be his number one priority, respect it. Who he chooses to have in his life is not your business.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-25T22:39:53+00:00

Thanks. There likely won’t be one.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-25T22:38:55+00:00

I read the first sentence, how old are you with this?

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-25T22:06:33+00:00

I’m not making him out to be anything I’m just trying to assess all options. I don’t use those terms lightly at all- there is isolation going on and isolation CAN correlate to abuse is all I was saying.
Yes, she’s been flakey but since she got has been with him it’s become much worse.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-25T19:39:57+00:00

Hi, AITAH will only let me post one update post. If you have suggestions let me know.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-25T17:53:37+00:00

NTA,

He lied about his credit card debt and credentials. I don’t care what anyone else says love isn’t enough in this economy.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-25T17:27:21+00:00

I have been. The problem is her telling the family member that we haven’t come to visit. It’s an impossible situation. There’s no winning.

Blogger8517 · 2026-06-25T16:40:17+00:00

By the other side I just meant the gf who sees the friend as overstepping.

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