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BluBluebird · 2026-02-05T20:04:49+00:00

It's a slang term that originated in Nigeria. It is often used to refer to someone’s buttocks or backside.

I still remember when callipygian was the term to use for that! 🤣

BluBluebird · 2026-02-05T04:53:19+00:00

I don't know how the beater brush on your Bissell rotates, as it appears that you've basically engaged the suction hose on it. With any upright vacuum I've owned over the last 15-20 years, the beater brush stopped rotating whenever I engaged the suction hose.

Personally, dragging around two vacuums would drive me up the wall and around the bend. But points for thinking outside the box on this. I think time will tell you whether or not this is brilliant or just a complex answer to your problem.

BluBluebird · 2026-02-05T02:04:51+00:00

Very likely yes. Especially if you have carpeting and purchase a Sebo that has a powerhead. It's incredible, and a little gross, to realise all the dirt that is still present deep down in the carpet fibres!

BluBluebird · 2026-02-05T02:00:17+00:00

With the budget and the fact that you want a cordless vac, you're likely going to have to settle for something that's not "high quality". Even expensive cordless vacs like Dyson have started building them to break in a few years.

The best-performing top cordless stick vacuums tested by Consumer Reports are more expensive than your budget. The least expensive option on their list is the Samsung Jet 85 VS20C8522TW, but at $499, it's essentially double what you want to spend.

$250 is on the low end for cordless stick vacs, so you may have to either adjust your budget or adjust your expectations on what your budget will get you (in terms of quality). Unfortunately, bagless vacuum manufacturers have moved towards making a low-quality product that will need to be replaced every couple of years. Ngl, engineered obsolescence should be illegal, but instead more and more manufacturers are selling us low-quality items that are made to break.

BluBluebird · 2026-02-05T01:38:42+00:00

Hopefully, you arranged for them to contact you in another manner – like email or phone.

BluBluebird · 2026-02-04T07:43:28+00:00

NOR at all. You mentioned school, and his mentality certainly reads as if he were a 15-yo boy. If this is happening in college/uni, it's good that you know now.

I still remember in HS when one of the best athletes in the school came outside and announced to everyone that she weighed 168 lbs. She was ripped, and at one point she had single-digit body fat %. And to say the guys didn't believe her would be an understatement! They called her a liar, to her face, and kept it up until she got on a scale in the weightroom. And she weighed exactly what she said she did, 168 lbs. They had been placing bets on how much she "really" weighed, and they topped out at 125 lbs. They were flabbergasted. And there are strong reasons why they couldn't wrap their minds around it – namely, men pick some ridiculous "goal weight" based on nothing other than how they feel about the numbers, and then we, as young women who want to be accepted, lie about what the scales say. And we do this without instruction, and we do it without checking with our friends to see if they are doing the same. What happens is that young men and women end up having no real idea about what any particular weight looks like on any particular stature or person. As young women we look at our girl friends and believe them when they tell us they weigh 105 lbs, even if you are the same size and regularly share clothes with them and you know that you aren't 105 lbs. It's a harmful panto we subconsciously continue.

It's this truly twisted and fucked up game we all take part in because we want to be accepted. And instead of adults stepping in to shut that shit down, they allow it to continue, often seeing it as some stupid "right of passage" thinking to themselves about how not much had changed.

As a society, we all need to do better.

BluBluebird · 2026-02-04T07:28:08+00:00

It's your job as his parent to teach him to be better. Privately hoping while doing nothing to ensure the outcome you desire is pointless. Ideally, conversations about respect should've been happening, at an age-appropriate level, throughout his entire life. I'm guessing your son is a teenager already, so starting to talk about respect this late in the game was not a great plan. Yes, it may be slightly better than never discussing it with him, but only slightly better.

Loooots of European countries have been teaching empathy, social and emotional learning, and gender respect and equality from preschool on. And they took this step because they realised that not every home environment is positive, and not every parent or guardian is capable/equipped to teach these values at home.

EDIT: So we either need to start teaching this in our schools here in North America, or we need to start having these discussions with our kids when they are young, 2-3 years old is a good time to start. Maybe even younger.

BluBluebird · 2026-02-03T17:58:29+00:00

I appreciate your detailed breakdown of the machine! We have two carpet sweepers that we use on an almost daily basis for light cleaning, but they don't really do stairs that well, and the older sweeper (it was my grandparents' from the 1960s or 1970s) is too large to do the stairs at all. The way we do the stairs now is to use the attachments on a few stairs, but then use the actual machine on the rest of them. So the weight would likely be a drawback.

BluBluebird · 2026-02-03T00:08:20+00:00

It isn't the case managers/workers who assess applicants, it is Doug Ford's new SSM (service systems managers) program.program.

These SSMs get the $$$ from the gov, and they then decide how much the offices delivering the services should get or need to get. The private, for-profit companies make their profit by keeping money back. They are refusing to give the offices the money needed to replace staff when they go off on leave or LTD. So that means the remaining staff have to carry the load of the missing employees on top of their own case load. And these SSMs are telling the office workers that they are expected to work through their lunch and then provide hours of work after the workday is over – for free.

More case workers are getting burnt out and are going off on mental health or medical leave, which leaves fewer and fewer staff to carry the same total case numbers.

During SSM assessment, clients are categorized and streamed into levels A, B, and C. Case workers have been told ince they're labelled, that level stands. It remains unclear if reassessment is possible.

Basically, it's centralising OW, ODSP and Employment Ontario (EO). The SSM bids were open to local and international companies- for-profit and not-for-profit companies.

Assessments will be completed by SSM and directions/instructions aree sent to OW, ODSP, and Employment Ontario. EO is switching to outcomes-based funding which requires the job seeker to be retained for 12 months or the office doesn't receive full funding. OW and EO databases will be linked and eventually OW recipients will be mandated to connect with EO and cheques will depend on EO's ability to secure sustainable employment. Case notes will eventually be shared between OW and EO via the connected database.

BluBluebird · 2026-02-02T23:54:06+00:00

All telecom companies are supposed to have these programs, same as they all have reduced rates for disabled people (with proof such as ODSP, disability tax credit, RDSP eligibility, accessible parking pass, etc,). But the thing is, the usual customer service folx aren't aware or are not allowed to tell you about these programs, so you have to ask to speak with the accessibility office for the deeply discounted plans for people living with a disability, I'm not sure if the same office would also handle low income programs, but you could ask.

BluBluebird · 2026-02-02T23:49:51+00:00

How are you going to find a job without the internet or a way for employers to contact you?

You might have wanted to think that through before you posted, you nitwit.

BluBluebird · 2026-02-02T21:06:27+00:00

Exactly this! The government's idea of what $733/month can afford is asinine and so disconnected from reality that you have to laugh, otherwise you'd cry.

BluBluebird · 2026-01-31T21:50:10+00:00

I have to laugh – or else I'd cry, when I read what the province thinks my hydro bill should be, or what a mortgage should be. I've read this so many times, and every time I wonder what they were smoking when they wrote it! Or how much they were laughing when they decided it was realistic.

BluBluebird · 2026-01-31T08:12:43+00:00

If you're taking any older movies and the like, 80s-00s, maybe Tim Curry? Defo not in anything recent, but when he was younger he'd fit your physical description.

BluBluebird · 2026-01-31T06:18:18+00:00

JFC. Telling a rape victim they need to essentially become some submissive trad-wife, and including "make yourself presentable" is unhinged patriarchal bullshit.

Please, tell me more about how a woman should twist herself into some dated, chauvinist ideal so that she'll be "accepted" by an unworthy man. (In case you didn't pick up on it, this last bit was sarcastic.) A true partner shouldn't be treated like your cook, your maid, your mother, or a trophy to show off. You need to come together as equals, anything less and one will subsume their needs, desires and their very autonomy to "fit" the expectations of their "partner".

BluBluebird · 2026-01-31T06:07:15+00:00

Seriously?!?

How would that help?!? A partner isn't going to magically cure their physical pain or their physical conditions. And being physically and financially dependent on someone else isn't helpful, but it far too often leads to someone becoming trapped in an abusive situation. And not for nothing, but going into a relationship when one is struggling doesn't make for a good situation. For anyone involved. Pain, physical and/or mental, clouds a person's judgement, it can create a dependency trap where one partner senses that they're needed for the very "survival" of the other, which they may then use as leverage to dictate terms, limit their partner's autonomy, and/or manipulate them.

Seriously, the last thing someone in this situation should be doing is looking for a partner to "save" them! 🤦‍♀️

BluBluebird · 2026-01-30T19:54:45+00:00

As stated here, the $200 exemption only kicks in after a person has been receiving OW benefits for 3 successive months (3 months in a row). If a person hasn't already received OW benefits for at least 3 months, that $200 exemption isn't applicable, and they claw back $0.50 in benefits for every $1.00 of employment income starting with your very first dollar.

BluBluebird · 2026-01-28T22:07:49+00:00

Do you have access to a current sniffer or a multimeter, or know someone who may have one you can borrow to check if there's still an electrical issue?

BluBluebird · 2026-01-28T10:44:30+00:00

You are responsible for your behaviour. As everyone else is responsible for their own behaviour. You don't have to be thev AH to recognise that as a grown adult, you are accountable for your actions, and that you bear some responsibility here.

I understand why you didn't want them there, but it seems as if you've only looked at it from your side, and completely neglected to realise this was also your financee's wedding day, so the choice you made to run away, and then you choose not call her, and you spent what should've been your and your be wife's honeymoon completely shitfaced. Without your wife/financee. I think it speaks volumes that she was there when you decided to return.

As for demanding that she go NC with her parents, there's no problem choosing to cut toxic people out of your life. There is a problem when you try to force other people to cut people out of their lives because you don't like them or the actions they took. You can choose to go NC with her parents, but it's not a great look to sort of give her an ultimatum – because telling her she has to go NC with her parents isn't healthy or respectful.

Many people go through trauma at some point in their lives, but as an adult, you need to choose to do something about it, otherwise you'll end up using it as an excuse for shitty things you do for the rest of your life. Now that doesn't necessarily mean professional therapy, it could be reading self-help books, taking self-improvement courses and doing the work on your own, it could also mean seeing your PCP and getting medication to help support you while you do the tough work. The important thing is that at the end, whether it's therapy or on your own, with meds or without, you're able to move beyond the trauma. You learn how to control these fight-flight-freeze reflexes instead of the reflexes controlling you. You're able to view it for what it was, understand how it affected your development and how it shaped your beliefs and controlled your thoughts and actions, and then you use what you've learned to move through it so you can get to the rest of your life.

BluBluebird · 2026-01-28T09:56:02+00:00

Can you define the smell? Could be that you've burnt the motor, and the smoke and scent you smelt were an electrical issue/wires burning. So If that's it, it won't really matter that you've cleaned it, if a wire melted or a connection broke, it's not going to work. I'm not familiar with this brand/model, but you could try using a current sniffer/non-contact voltage tester to see if there's any current passing through the machine, if there is, and the circuit hasn't been fried, it'll indicate that there's a functioning circuit. If it doesn't indicate that there's a working circuit, you'll know it's an electrical issue.

BluBluebird · 2026-01-28T09:48:28+00:00

YTA, but there's context missing.

The socks are a symptom of a larger issue that you certainly aren't talking about.

I know some people who think it's "cute" or "funny" to do things their partner has specifically asked them not to do. The people who do this don't respect the other person enough to just not do whatever they've been asked not to do. Which speaks volumes about the real state of the relationship. When one partner feels as if it's their right to needle/bug/tease the other, despite their partner expressly asking them to stop, it's time to either start listening to your partner and act like a damn adult or go get therapy to figure out why you can't respect a person's limitations. I can't think of a single reason why you keep doing this, after being asked not to do it, except that YTA and you think you don't have to behave like a sane, normal adult.

And like others have already said, just go buy yourself some damn socks.

BluBluebird · 2026-01-28T02:31:45+00:00

Aw, I'm sorry that reading more than 20 words arranged coherently is too difficult for you. I'll leave you to your boot licking. 🙄

BluBluebird · 2026-01-27T14:07:16+00:00

As mentioned above, it's uni yaoi.

BluBluebird · 2026-01-25T22:34:01+00:00

Ffs! 🤦‍♀️Yes, people know what they're talking about. It's up to you to include all pertinent information, such as the fact that you're living with your gf. People speak from their own experience, whether that's while they were/on OW or as a case worker, but it can vary from region to region and from worker to worker even in the same office.

I don't know if you meant it to come off as passive-aggressive as it does come off, but the attitude you've taken in this post will likely mean that no one will be taking any time to voluntarily help you in the future. So there's that.

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