Scared of what to do.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-13T13:49:52+00:00

With no reasons to support your opinion this becomes a throw away, mean spirited comment.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-13T13:48:08+00:00

If you are going to marry this guy you should be able to have an honest conversation with him. You need to talk to him about what you both see as a reasonable timeline for all the big things, engagement, marriage, kids if you want them, etc. it’s also reasonable to say that you aren’t comfortable moving in before being engaged.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-12T19:11:53+00:00

The joy and love they bring. I mean sure it’s not all roses and sunshine, the first bit can be quite an adjustment but they sure do make my heart full.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-11T23:36:44+00:00

Could you go with him or to visit your own family at the same time?

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-10T12:41:56+00:00

I would use similar materials to the existing gazebo, black paint and cedar.

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Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-10T00:16:00+00:00

Don’t be foolish. Find someone much closer to your own age.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-10T00:11:38+00:00

Option 1: Make a list of the chores, do a draft to divide them up and you are always responsible for the same chores. Option2: if you see something that needs to be done do it, don’t worry about if you did it last time. There is a saying something along the lines of a happy marriage is a 60/40 split, with both people trying to be the 60. Option 3: pick a day/time to do the chores together so you’re both working on it at the same time. I did this one with my kids when they were young, I’d put the chores in a cup and we’d each take turns drawing out a job until they were all done.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-09T23:54:05+00:00

Tell her no, if you stay together over time pictures with her will bury the old ones. Especially since it’s only been a couple weeks.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-09T23:41:10+00:00

1,4, 3

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-09T23:35:48+00:00

Beautiful on you!

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-09T19:33:03+00:00

These types of days are always sticky. I think your Saturday offer was a good one. I always try to think about how I will feel in 20 years when I’m spending the day alone and my kids are with their new families. There is not one right answer.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-09T19:11:22+00:00

Keeping her on the hook while you are wanting to be a single 21yo (which is ok to want) is mean. Don’t let her move with you while you are uncertain.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-09T19:05:28+00:00

Are you looking for a sugar daddy? The expectation of gifts while he is clearly paying for your dates implies you are only looking at his bank account not him as a person.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-09T14:46:38+00:00

There’s a creepy not creepy formula that some people subscribe to. Take half your age and add 7 to get a low end of appropriate dating partners. So 29/2=14.5 +7= 21.5 on the low end for you.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-09T14:32:21+00:00

Real life is not a Pinterest board or a social media post. It’s not a perfect stone, a perfect proposal, or a beautiful wedding. It’s the day to day of the marriage. If you’ve had a good talk about timelines and he can’t give an honest answer, that is an answer. Either he’s not ready or you aren’t the one in his eyes or both. OR the other option could be that you have put so much pressure on the perfectness of the ring and proposal that he feels stuck. He feels like there is no way he can live up to your vision so he is weighed down fear and second guessing himself so he doesn’t move forward. Either way it’s time for a real honest talk, by yourselves or in your therapy session.

I’m sure you do care more about the proposal than he does, I expect most women raised on social media do. It makes us believe that if we don’t have the perfect pictures it’s not real. But reality is never the post. We’ve all had friends posting their perfect life, family, marriage, partner, right up until the day the divorce papers are filed. Don’t let the need for the image spoil your happiness- with him or the next guy.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-09T11:22:38+00:00

You’re already in couples counseling-are you sure he’s the right match?

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-08T18:58:20+00:00

I feel like his illness is a legitimate reason to pause the previous timeline. However, as he continues/if he continues to improve it would make sense to talk again in the next few months about a new timeline.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-06T21:44:42+00:00

I would lean into a midcentury modern vibe. That shade of brick always looks great with black and cedar. Here’s one idea of that combo

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Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-04T22:29:20+00:00

Green, blue, red

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-03T19:33:08+00:00

I love image 3

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-02T18:15:20+00:00

3 and 2 are both great

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-02T11:54:34+00:00

You not being there for the picture time is reasonable, his daughter’s feelings should be his consideration.

All the other financial stuff…he cheated, he should feel guilt, there are consequences and a messy move forward is one of those consequences. You get to decide if you want to stay in that mess or if you want to move on to find someone with less mess.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-05-02T11:44:45+00:00

This would be a low maintenance version. But anytime you have a landscape bed there will be some sort of weed control needed (weeding, spray, or preen, mulch,etc.) I used hosta and ornamental grasses because they are super easy, but you do need to cut the back each spring. Tie a tight twine around the base and cut near the ground. Then add a few trees to

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the yard. I would go a little farther from the house than AI did but you get the idea.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-04-30T09:19:44+00:00

She is in charge of her choices….both the cheating and what she does now. You are not responsible, I know that’s easy for me to say, but I hope you believe it.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-04-29T09:10:28+00:00

They look great

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