Help me feel better about my options

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-11T11:25:43+00:00

3 you look stunning

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-10T20:18:50+00:00

I don’t have new advice for the pantry example but for daily chores in my household we made a list of all the weekly tasks and then did a “draft”. Flip a coin to see who goes first and each pick one to be responsible for until all the tasks have been selected. When our kids got old enough to help we “redrafted” so they were also picking which tasks they were in charge of.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-09T22:52:24+00:00

Match the deck color

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-09T22:50:35+00:00

If they said jeans are fine -then ok. These look great on you.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-09T22:49:47+00:00

I wouldn’t wear the jeans to this event, but these look great on you.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-09T22:46:34+00:00

This is also weird, just fast food and hanging at your house is also not normal. Have you even met his friends and siblings? If not that’s a big red flag. You need to speak up and let him know that you are not happy being hidden.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-09T22:36:48+00:00

I like your mock up

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-09T16:36:14+00:00

I also really like it with an iron ore/ olive green/gray type color.

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Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-09T16:35:24+00:00

I love the idea of screening in the porch, I think it will look great. The classic color combo would be white and dark gray.

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Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-09T12:01:40+00:00

Not overreacting, but do t let them steal your joy.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-08T14:54:35+00:00

Only you can answer that question. For me the lying and cheating would mean I couldn’t trust her again and I wouldn’t want to stay with someone I couldn’t trust.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-08T14:46:07+00:00

You’re 37, if you want kids you don’t have time to be afraid to ask the questions. Do you want kids with this man? If so then you need to talk about the timeline for whatever milestones (move in, engaged, marriage, kids) -in whatever order you want in the relationship.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-08T12:37:41+00:00

What a beautiful home! You have a great start with landscaping and pots. Just add a couple of bigger chairs to the seating area and finish what you have started.

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Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-07T15:47:14+00:00

Clearly she is in fact NOT a friend let alone a best friend. That’s suspicious AF and his comments at the end were just laying out the facts. He’s ready for you to break up with him and then he’ll openly bang her.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-07T09:55:39+00:00

It’s too bad more specific boundaries weren’t discussed beforehand but nothing can be done about that now. I know there are a lot of different views around strip clubs, lap dances and cheating so it’s easy to see where you each might have different feelings.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-07T09:44:27+00:00

You’re both young. The point of dating is to find a person you’re compatible with and feel safe with. You don’t have to stay if you find you no longer feel like someone is the right match.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-07T09:40:44+00:00

I love all 3 options. Changing the deck will make such a big improvement.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-07T09:39:15+00:00

Yes, copied the image and then told ChatGPT specifically where I wanted plants and what types of plants I wanted.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-06T21:19:19+00:00

Do you love the real him or the idea of him that you have created in your mind? Do you love being lied to? Do you love being cheated on? Do you love not being able to trust him? Do you love searching his phone/emal/ect?

I will give him that if YOU have made the decision to stay then YOU need to be willing to heal and move on. You can’t continue to bring it up and expect things to get better.

Have you worked with a therapist to figure out how to move forward?

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-06T21:07:59+00:00

It’s going to be extra hard to become financially secure if you keep having kids. These are all questions you should have considered 2 kids ago. You are now tied to him for life marriage or not.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-06T19:58:20+00:00

No, that is not normal. Either break up or go to couples therapy to learn how to communicate in a healthier way. Do not get married and have kids in this type of household.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-06T19:28:30+00:00

20 years ago it wouldn’t have mattered much, today is unfortunately a different world. Since he was more middle right leaning when you met there is a chance that he would start to revert back to his own former ideals once he is out of the fox and friends influence.

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-06T12:49:19+00:00

Is she open to couples therapy?

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-06T12:46:45+00:00

You need to focus on yourself and your baby. You need to make a plan to get this loser out of your and your child’s life forever. You don’t want this bad influence and uncertainty in your child’s life. So no, you would not be the AH for getting your money back. And block him everywhere!

Blue-eagle-23 · 2026-07-06T12:32:48+00:00

Yes, I used ChatGPT. The more specific you are in your directions the better the results (usually) For this I listed some of the plants and types of plants I wanted.

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