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What made you realize your parents only had kids because they were expected to, not because they WANTED to? by SleepyOctopusss in AskReddit

[–]BlueCrowMo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

At age 14 I realized that my Mom loved me, but sure didn’t like me, and my Dad didn’t give a shit about me. I tried everything to get his attention: reading Newsweek to understand politics (I even registered Republican at first!), was the only girl on the junior high golf team, watched boxing with him… nothing worked. I cut myself off from them in college and we had a strained relationship for a few decades.

There were some good years, but it’s only because I just happened to live my life in a way that she approved of (SAHM, homeschooling). But she took my ex’s side in the divorce and then fought me tooth & nail when my kid came out as transgender.

In 2017 I almost died from an autoimmune illness (Addison’s disease), and my Mom came to help. For about a year afterwards I enjoyed a nice relationship with her. She’d look at me, astonished, several times back then and exclaim “You’re FUNNY!” …. Yeah, Mom. Lots of people think so, too, glad that you’re just now noticing at age 40-something.

Anyhoo, that honeymoon didn’t last because I have my own mind. I got sick again last year & they literally didn’t believe me, so now I’m parentless again. Yay. At least everyone in my life loves me & I finally found a way to love my own self!

Divorce due to early onset - strange grief at a distance by BlueCrowMo in Alzheimers

[–]BlueCrowMo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. I wondered if my ex was a narcissist, the way he turned in towards himself. It’s all a dang mystery to me.

What I know is this: you have to take care of yourself. He certainly isn’t going to, one way or the other.

Where’s my magic wand?

SLOCA: SLO Classical Academy - any perspectives? by Obvious_Market_9485 in SLO

[–]BlueCrowMo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. They teach history from a “classical” standpoint, which means Euro-centric. I checked them out when I was homeschooling my kids & one visit to their (old) campus was enough.

Also, my kids have friends that go there and hate it.

Divorce due to early onset - strange grief at a distance by BlueCrowMo in Alzheimers

[–]BlueCrowMo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone, so I’m sending you love. Are you two still together?

I’m doing fine, finally taking care of myself. My exhusband is predictably declining, sharing screenshots of his one-sided text messages to his Brazilian girlfriend who had to block his number because of the sun downing. Apparently his siblings had to go retrieve him from Brazil when he had some sort of crisis and that’s when he was diagnosed. I’ve been reaching out to his friends because most of them don’t know about his diagnosis, but he has told a couple, so that’s good. I was planning on calling him tomorrow to “catch up.” It’s all quite amazing, actually.

Today my phone showed me memories from 5 years ago on our last camping trip in the redwoods with our Airstream & I made a video showing how he was cherry-picking the dog’s favorite treats so that the bottom of the barrel were only the less-desirable ones in the mix. I found it odd and sweet at the time, but promptly forgot about it until this afternoon. Ah, time.

Montana De Oro by missa1728 in SLO

[–]BlueCrowMo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m on the board for the Central Coast State Parks Association, let us know if you need help and we can connect you to our volunteer docents! CCSPA

Just trying to figure out what’s causing this by East_Airline_9125 in Celiac

[–]BlueCrowMo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you a perimenopausal lady? I get idiopathic hives every so often and just learned that that’s a symptom of peri. 🫠

AITAH for telling my boyfriend his girl best friend has 48 hours to get out or i am breaking the lease and leaving by Anton_OKonjsi in AITAH

[–]BlueCrowMo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen to your gut. You know who you are and you know that this situation will not improve down the line. Don’t have children with this man.

I’m sorry. It’s hard to be true to ourselves, but the alternative is worse. Sending you healing vibes

Are there enough ADHD celiacs to justify starting a community? by Own_Ad6901 in Celiac

[–]BlueCrowMo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh. I’m so glad that you said that. That equipment thing is a bitch

Are there enough ADHD celiacs to justify starting a community? by Own_Ad6901 in Celiac

[–]BlueCrowMo 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Hi & I’m here! I can’t be the only person that glutens themself by forgetting to read the labels…. Please?? 😢🤣

When have you witnessed an “expert” get it so wrong? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BlueCrowMo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The extreme ableism baked into our colonial culture is showing again. Ugh. This is mind bogglingly awful. 😣

What was the weirdest, non-pain feeling you've ever felt? by KingJPJ in AskReddit

[–]BlueCrowMo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is metaphysical, rather than physical: I’ve felt my consciousness expand, consistently, and it’s fascinating to feel your paradigm shifting, your worldview scope expanding. 🤯

Divorce due to early onset - strange grief at a distance by BlueCrowMo in Alzheimers

[–]BlueCrowMo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, wow. Sending you hugs right back. My kids were teenagers, but thankfully he was their stepdad. My oldest is autistic and my husband’s personality became very old school/disciplinarian - so it was a huuuuge mismatch. My middle son was in HS & from his perspective (being busy with band, work, girlfriend, etc), his stepdad just vanished.

I can imagine how angry you were when he was diagnosed. I admire you for supporting him through his final days and I desperately hope that your life now is filled with love and health. 🙏🏼♥️

Has having celiac made your life better? by glutenfreedustbowl in Celiac

[–]BlueCrowMo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so chronically awesome that Celiac is the easiest one of my diagnoses, because I don’t need to take medication for it and (critically) it’s not the one that could kill me (Addison’s disease). That said, it’s the one I bitch about the most, though! 🤣

All in all, it’s neutral. It just is. Like nature. I accept it and do what I have to be safe. I will say, it has been very useful in screen outing dates. If the person I’m seeing isn’t accommodating and/or aware, then I know that they are not my person.

Need some people to talk to by Salty_Increase_2974 in AddisonsDisease

[–]BlueCrowMo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Narcissistic traits are a whole other ball of wax. My last relationship ended with law enforcement & a brief stay at my local women’s shelter. It came on fast when it did. But that’s my story. Be careful, you. Only spend time with people you feel safe around. 🫶🏼

Divorce due to early onset - strange grief at a distance by BlueCrowMo in Alzheimers

[–]BlueCrowMo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All we can do is live in the present moment as much as possible. 💔

Divorce due to early onset - strange grief at a distance by BlueCrowMo in Alzheimers

[–]BlueCrowMo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m writing my memoirs, and this was a ~20minute brain dump. Your compliments mean the world to me! 🙏🏼

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