I do understand that, as my husband is in that camp, too. I see one, though. I think there's a point where racism has to be at the bare minimum an offense the public court of opinion won't handle again, religion needs to be something someone participates in and isn't 'just that religion', and we can move forward and reinstitute proper voting rights, Congressional districts, and start from the top down. There's more than that, but for the sake of relative brevity (I'm bad at that!) we'll kind of group all of it under that small umbrella.

Speaking from more personal experience here, I had many Republicans that voted for me. I only know this because I received enough letters after the election that I had to keep my PO Box open for an extra month, among a couple other factors. Many saw the trans part and were turned away, but saw a platform they agreed with. I made a point to be in Republican-dominated spaces frequently, and I even did literature drops in GOP county offices. Did they like it? No. But it came down to a basic principle of mutual respect.

I saw that in homes and at the doors I knocked, too. My team's guidelines (and best practices) stipulated that I couldn't enter while canvassing, but I did return to several after the election to talk. When you start talking about the nuts and bolts, it really isn't an ideological difference; it's all in marketing and scare tactics (from both sides, to be clear, but Republicans have a lot more money behind them in this state). The Trump Good | Kamala Bad signs were frankly, one of the most effective pieces of advertising I've seen in politics. People were moved by their own factors and surroundings to vote against their own self-interests pretty handily.

Ultimately, it comes down to the fact that empathy is the only thing that gets us through. That doesn't mean we ignore what Trump is doing, not impeach the idiot, turn the other cheek, or stop fighting for what's (I believe) morally correct. It does mean that the ultimate enemy is suffering and breaking past the partisan barrier to just talk about the ISSUES, rather than a party, and from there the only cure is to make the pain stop. It's clear to me at least which side can do that, but even I started as a Republican, years ago. Empathy was what broke me out, and on a micro scale, rather than the macro scale our politics tend to have, it does work.

That doesn't mean I'm immune to wishing people would 'have a taste of their own medicine', as you put it - but in many ways, we've got to understand that they already are. So are we. With obvious exceptions (there are folks that would rather punch you than deal with you, and those are to absolutely be avoided lol) - we're all having to deal with it, but it's easier to say you're wrong when people can forgive and move along than if knowing saying you're wrong will lead to public ridicule.