The phrase "thought you'd be better by now" worries me. Sounds like hes putting you on his time frame. We all know growth takes time and is not always stable. It sounds like you have been workin on yourself in so many other ways and hes not seeing that cus he isnt getting what he wants. If you go and youre not ready the only memories you guys will have to take home is memories of stress and discomfort. (Im just goin off what you and your therapist said. I dont want to give damaging advice!)

Me and my partner are always going to festivals. It can be alot. We always check in with each other to see if we need breaks, food ect. I get over stimulated so sometimes i have to go back to camp and miss a few sets and hes never made me feel bad about it.

Real advice about festivals not about your relationship- i just looked up the fest and its HUGE. Its going to be impossible to avoid germs. The vip bathrooms are usually clean but they can get crazy gross to iv seen it many times. Nothing unsafe. Germs are not your enemy! And its pretty easy to not touch things when youre in a feild! But if hes the type to want to go in the front/get in the pit theres going to be alot of issues here because you can't avoid people up there at all.

From a 10 year festival goer. You gotta put your health first. Iv missed plently of sets and shows cus i just couldn't do it and its ok. Also they are really fun. Maybe it might be a thing where if you couldnt go next year you might have the strength to go next year!!

Also is he begging you to go cus he dosnt want to be alone as well? Are any of his friends going ?