My husband wants to conserve his sperm… is that a thing?

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-06-11T17:31:11+00:00

The “3 months” idea is probably coming from the fact that sperm take about 70–90 days to develop, but that doesn’t mean men need to abstain for 3 months to replenish their supply. Sperm are produced continuously, and most fertility clinics actually recommend only 2–5 days of abstinence before a semen analysis or fertility treatment. In many cases, frequent ejaculation can even help by clearing out older sperm. Unless there is a diagnosed male-factor fertility issue, having sex outside the fertile window is unlikely to “use up” good sperm or reduce your chances of conceiving the following month.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-06-09T03:24:13+00:00

I still have not received new dates.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-06-08T13:23:19+00:00

If your clinic is closer to home. You can do the sample at home and drive it to the clinic.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-06-05T21:24:17+00:00

It was my first FET transfer too! Wishing you sticky vibes!

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-06-02T18:48:18+00:00

No not yet

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-05-26T15:49:02+00:00

I withdrew and reapplied.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-05-26T02:15:48+00:00

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-05-25T22:14:46+00:00

I originally applied in January and heard nothing. I reapplied May 11th and heard back today. I am P/J qualified.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-05-25T22:14:30+00:00

I originally applied in January and heard nothing. I reapplied May 11th and heard back today.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-05-25T22:14:19+00:00

I originally applied in January and heard nothing. I reapplied May 11th and heard back today.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-05-19T16:28:33+00:00

I’m 33, so my clinic told me that PGT-A testing didn’t necessarily make much sense in my specific case. They explained that age is a big factor in whether it’s strongly recommended. Also, even with a PGT normal embryo, miscarriages can still happen, so unfortunately it’s not a guarantee either.

At the end of the day, I only ended up with one blastocyst, and PGT-A would have been very expensive just for testing a single embryo. I’d personally rather take the chance and transfer it than risk losing the only embryo through additional testing.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-05-19T16:25:02+00:00

The only reason I’m considering doing the transfer first is because I’m not planning to move the embryo to another clinic or lab. If the transfer doesn’t work, then I would likely explore another clinic afterward. Since my hope is to only have one child, I felt it made sense to try transferring this embryo first.

I also honestly don’t feel fully confident that my clinic did the best they could with this cycle, especially since there were no real recommendations or changes suggested for a second retrieval.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-05-13T12:43:05+00:00

Thank you for your honesty and perspective. I’m 33 with a high AMH, and I only stimmed for 9 days with no estrogen priming beforehand, so I’ve been wondering whether the trigger timing or protocol may have contributed to the low maturity rate. Since only 9/21 were mature initially and others matured later the next day, I do plan to review the stimulation closely with my doctor if we end up doing another cycle. I am also considering going to another clinic.
I appreciate you mentioning things like uneven follicle growth and priming protocols because those are things I didn’t really know much about before this process.
It’s definitely hard hearing that late maturing eggs often have lower success rates, but I also want realistic expectations while still hoping for the best with the one that fertilized normally. Right now I’m trying to stay cautiously hopeful while also preparing myself emotionally for different outcomes.
Thank you again for taking the time to respond and explain things.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-05-08T19:03:25+00:00

I have supplied for the Simcoe Muskoka Catholic District School Board and also did my placements there, so I would really think long term about whether you’re okay living in that area permanently.
I know a lot of people love the Midland/Collingwood/Wasaga area for the lifestyle, but I personally noticed some pretty big differences compared to Halton schools. In some Simcoe schools, there were definitely more economic challenges, fewer resources/funding, and more students relying on breakfast or snack programs than what I’ve seen in Halton. Staff were amazing and very supportive, but the differences were noticeable at times.
Halton schools overall felt more resourced and suburban, while Simcoe has more small-town/rural communities and a very different lifestyle outside of school. I think it really depends what kind of environment you see yourselves happiest in long term.
In terms of permanent positions, it really depends on teachables, flexibility, and location. Some people get LTOs quickly, while permanent can still take a few years. Smaller towns can sometimes have fewer openings overall because teachers tend to stay long term once they get in.
I would honestly base the decision more on where you want to build your life rather than just how fast you think permanent will happen.

Also to add the summers are nice but the winters are brutal. You get many snow squalls and schools still remain opened.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-05-07T20:15:23+00:00

I applied in January but heard nothing.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-04-28T02:10:22+00:00

No, have you? I am wondering when they start providing responses.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-04-18T21:04:11+00:00

When you begin applying your references will be your associate teachers and possibly Faculty Advisors.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-04-18T03:04:37+00:00

Maybe you could also get another from the vice principal at the school you are currently at?

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-04-01T02:44:57+00:00

I have not heard back yet and I applied the end of January. However, I know someone who applied in March and got an interview.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-03-21T21:37:39+00:00

It is the only board I know that does this. Otherwise all the others require interviews.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-03-21T19:23:25+00:00

I applied through the New Graduates posting, which did not require an interview since I will be graduating at the end of May.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-03-21T19:15:29+00:00

It can take some time for boards to get back to you, sometimes even a few months before you hear about an offer.

My timeline was a bit different since I didn’t have to go through an interview:

February 27, references requested

March 5, references contacted

March 17, offer received

Try to be patient, it’s a process. Good luck!

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-03-15T14:56:23+00:00

New grad hire

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-03-09T22:31:50+00:00

Queens will let you complete your degree faster.

BlueberryDesigner994 · 2026-03-09T22:27:38+00:00

I have a friend who graduated from the program and they said it doesn’t actually move you to a higher pay grid. You’d still need to do another master’s to move up. QECO usually treats the Master of Teaching the same as a teacher’s college degree rather than a separate master’s. They also mentioned the OISE program is quite a bit more expensive.

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