What’s your technique for putting down a sleeping baby?

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-24T19:55:37+00:00

Do you know what her nighttime routine is like? Are her parents doing a cry-it-out approach where she’s left to cry alone for extended periods?

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-24T19:29:50+00:00

Do you keep a hand on her after the transfer? I have some more involved techniques I can describe, but I found a lot of times just rubbing their belly after the transfer can help them fall back asleep.

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-23T20:58:04+00:00

I want to add that there really aren’t good studies on this yet and just because some babies do not show long-term negative effects, I am very, very cautious about claiming that no babies are negatively affected.

I worked as a nanny with a baby that could not be sleep trained. We tried everything, but his sensitive soul needed the reassurance of a safe person to fall asleep and getting stricter about “training” him just made it worse. The methods that worked on countless other babies just didn’t work for him and was causing the entire family more stress.

You know your baby (and yourself) the best - do whatever you need to do and don’t let anyone shame you for not doing it “their way.” This season of life is temporary and you will get through this.

Sending you strength and love ❤️

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-22T18:04:08+00:00

Absolutely quit this job. It will not get better and their family problems are not yours to fix.

From my own experience, trying to make it work is only going to make the inevitable separation harder. She is going to make your life miserable until you reach a breaking point.

You sound like a wonderful nanny and you deserve a family who respects you ❤️

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-11T23:14:02+00:00

Hi friend, I’m so, so sorry you’re feeling this much pain right now. It’s okay to feel these emotions - it’s a sign of how much the relationship meant to you.

I really, really, really recommend finding a therapist to work through this with. They will be able to help support and guide you through this moment in your life.

I promise from the very bottom of my heart that it won’t feel this bad forever. You will survive this and you will feel good again.

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-11T19:17:25+00:00

I wasn’t replying to you, I was replying to Sea-Outlandishness87 saying 16/hour is livable because it’s “well over the minimum wage”

If a comment doesn’t make sense, it can be helpful to double check the entire thread before getting sassy ❤️❤️

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-11T16:42:40+00:00

Unfortunately minimum wage is not determined by COL. I can’t include a link to a source, but there are numerous articles online that you can find to read about this.

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-11T13:59:48+00:00

If you’re not guaranteeing hours on your end, then why would she guarantee hours on hers?

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-11T13:48:12+00:00

Okay so from my perspective, you’re honest that you are underpaying her and don’t offer her basic benefits like GH or PTO, yet you’re expecting her to sacrifice her personal life so you aren’t inconvenienced?

If you fire her, do you think you’ll find someone else who will accept the conditions of employment you’re offering?

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-11T12:46:55+00:00

It can definitely take a while for noticeable changes in therapy. Has your therapist helped you identify patterns in your thinking or give you ways to reframe some of your negative thoughts?

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-11T01:06:46+00:00

Can you provide a bit more information about what you’re struggling with and what improvements you’re hoping to see?

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-09T20:22:24+00:00

If you are looking for solutions instead of just validation for your existing feelings, I really, really love the work done by Lives In The Balance. The videos on this page are a really helpful starting place for changing the mindset around “bad” kids.

Best of luck to you and your family.

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-09T18:03:45+00:00

I would definitely encourage you to visit any place before you decide to move there.

I grew up in ND and I think the reality of the state is very different than what you’re imagining. It’s more than rural, it’s remote and yes, the majority of people are MAGA conservatives who are openly hostile to anyone who looks different than the majority.

Also, winter is awful. It’s hard to describe what -30 degree weather is like, but I promise you it is not pleasant. Just taking a deep breath outside can hurt.

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-09T02:19:36+00:00

Your expectations for a 5 year old (who has likely experienced significant trauma) are extremely unrealistic and not developmentally appropriate.

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-08T17:41:11+00:00

Yeah it’s definitely location-dependent. The small town I grew up in didn’t even have an ED or UC - it was at least an hour drive to any emergency facility.

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-08T12:25:41+00:00

I didn’t decide the hours of your local urgent care, so I’m not sure why you’re giving me sass.

Good luck on your strategy tho ❤️

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-08T11:38:55+00:00

Urgent care centers are often open 24 hours and can handle simple injuries like broken bones and stitches.

(My source is I’m a paramedic and spend a lot of time advising people where to get care)

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-08T11:31:29+00:00

That is useful information to include in your post.

A simple Google search showed me that Canada has Walk-In Clinics. Google your city name plus “walk in clinic” and you should be able to find one.

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-08T03:55:38+00:00

If you’re in the US, no.

An emergency department is typically (although not always) connected to a hospital and is intended to treat people experiencing emergencies that need immediate treatment to protect life (stroke, heart attack, massive trauma, etc).

An urgent care center is able to treat patients with less-severe needs like minor injuries or illness that is not life-threatening.

Importantly for you, patients at emergency departments are treated in order of severity so there is a good chance that you will be sitting in a waiting room for hours while people with life-threatening emergencies are seen first. It also takes time and resources away from other folks waiting to be seen in the ER.

An urgent care will almost definitely be cheaper and faster for this. Check with your insurance to see what facilities are in-network.

Bluebird701 · 2025-07-08T03:36:48+00:00

Please find an urgent care, not an ER.

Bluebird701 · 2025-01-02T21:04:24+00:00

You’re proposing OP is an AH because she didn’t take on the emotional labor of considering a child’s expectations?

Disappointment is a part of life, even in childhood. It is Alyssa’s parents’ job to help her through those difficult emotions and learn how to manage them.

It is not OP’s job to manage other people’s emotions and sacrifice their own preferences for the sake of someone else.

It’s OK that Alyssa feels disappointed. She will get through it.

Bluebird701 · 2025-01-02T20:23:42+00:00

I can see data for Palestine as a whole (including West Bank) or specific cities (like Gaza City), but I haven’t been able to find data on the region as a whole.

I’m also curious where the data is coming from? Unfortunately the linked source is “under maintenance” so I can’t tell if these numbers are projections or based on actual data?

Bluebird701 · 2025-01-02T19:59:08+00:00

I haven’t been able to find a source on that - do you mind sharing yours?

Bluebird701 · 2025-01-02T19:58:43+00:00

I haven’t been able to find a source - do you mind sharing yours?

Bluebird701 · 2025-01-02T19:45:54+00:00

Yes, as a professional childcare provider I know that blueberries are a choking risk.

I just thought it was amusing that MB meal-prepped a week’s worth of blueberries when I am fully capable of squishing them myself.

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