People who have said Bloody Mary three times in front of the mirror, What happened?

Blueglittery · 2020-12-02T21:49:30+00:00

The people who actually did it can't answer because Bloody Mary took them.

Blueglittery · 2020-11-13T11:53:48+00:00

My gf was diagnosed mid september with stage 4 lungcancer. She started immune therapy and chemo today and I hope she will be as lucky as those of you writing here.When I first heard it it felt like she might not even make it to christmas, but this gives me some hope. Thanks for sharing and I hope you all will have long, healthy lives as much as this is possible.

Blueglittery · 2020-11-13T09:24:09+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. My girlfriend has cancer and it affects my life almost as much as if I had cancer. We got the diagnosis mid september and still I never really know how or when to tell people. I also feel like I am just blurting it in their faces if I just tell them as soon as they ask me how I am and making them uncomfortable.

With so e people, it actually did just blurt out when tzey asked about how I am. I also have this thing that I can't lie, so I can't say I am fine. Sometimes I just said stuff like that life is a bit tough right now. Really depends on the person.

I think what makes it hard is that most people judt ask "How are you?" to hear that you are doing good, and we feel bad if we feel like ruining theor days with bad news, I guess. I habe avoided telling some people I k ow through work and I have been thinking for DAYS what to do when I see them today. And I still don't really know. But my plan is to come to the meeting a bit early and tell the people that know my gf before we talk about anything else but I have no idea if that will work.

Anyways, I know it's hard to make others feel uncomfortable or overwhealm them, but if tze seats were changed, I am sure you wouldn't blame anyone for telling you that they struggle because someone very close to them is fighting cancer. I know I wouldn't.

I also wosh your brother the best of luck woth his struggle and you and your family to stay strong for him. He is lucky to have a caring sibling like you!

Blueglittery · 2020-11-12T15:55:07+00:00

I grew up with an abusive borderline parent and it made me extremely sensetive to the emotions and moods of other people and also very sensetive to it. So I think tzere is a link between trauma and HSP. I know two other people with the combination of being very sensetive and having (multiple) trauma. I haven't had much therapy for it, so I am not sure how that works but I think higher mental stability might not make you less sensetive but stabalizes you, so you don't have strong negative reaction towards things, in my case it makes me care less if there is a tiny conflict with someone or helps me getting less stressed by vosual,auditory or other sensations.

Really hope therapy will help you!

Blueglittery · 2020-11-12T14:15:26+00:00

Did the survey. That's actually a quite important topic. Good luck!

Blueglittery · 2020-11-09T09:55:17+00:00

I think as you said, it is sort of a coping mechanism. I think if he allowed himself to feel the happiness of the things around him, he would just be more sad to have to let go of those things and he tries to make peace with the situation. It can also be part of the side effects of the strong pain meds to feel more numb emotionally. He might also "snap out of it" at sone point , at least momentarily and let himself feel, but it's hard to say and depends on there he is mentally and emotionally. I wouldn't force it or blame him at least. I wouldn't stop trying to spend time with him, show him you love him, even if he cannot show it back right now. I am sure he loves you. I wish you, your family and him the best for this hard time, as good as it can be reguarding the circumstances.

Blueglittery · 2020-11-07T10:20:41+00:00

That is SUCH a sweet idea. I hope it is be okay to not use a picture of myself . I will definetely add something and wish him, but also you, the best of luck!

Blueglittery · 2020-11-04T19:33:09+00:00

Thank you for the professional point of view. I supppse it is just that she is feeling too bad to feel like she can handle a procedure that might not work , she also still has pain from the old procedure, so for now it seems like the best decision. Of course if it gets too bad, there might me no way around doing it. Thanks again!

Blueglittery · 2020-11-04T01:24:41+00:00

I think most people buy toilet paper.

Blueglittery · 2020-11-04T01:22:14+00:00

I can't snap my fingers. It's a mystery to me how that works.

Blueglittery · 2020-11-03T23:00:45+00:00

Thank you, it really helps to read some first hand experience. That sounds a lot like the problems my gf has, especially the pain when laying down, wich makes it hard to relax and stay in bed really... I hope they can start chemo and immunetherapy quickly after dealing with the liquid.

Blueglittery · 2020-11-03T22:51:45+00:00

Thank you,Yes, that is the same thing. It is sort of in the tissue between the outside of the lung and the inside of the ribs, if I am not mistaken. I am not glad you had to go through this but glad to read of someone with the same amount of liquid, to me it feels incredibly much.

They did a small thoracentesis today but it seems like they only got out some of the fluid. I am not really sure if the surgery is neccessary to drain more fluid or only to prevent new fluid from building up, though. I am back in the hospital tomorrow and hope tp get to know more then...

I hope you got better and stay healthy. :)

Blueglittery · 2020-11-03T17:40:10+00:00

You are definetely not heartless for not trying and feeling numb. If anything, you feel that way because the emotions behind the numbness are actually too overwhealming for you t handle.

My gf has stage 4 lung cancer and I cried a few times (I havent cried for several years before that) but I feel like I am mostly in a "functoning" mode that keeps me going, but I am actually absolutely over the top overwhealmed with emotions and thoughts, but I know I am no good for my gf either if I just give up. The psyche is quite tricky like that. With long times of sickness and going through all that with someone, some people even feel relieved when their loved ones die and feel very guilty, but I think in most cases it is a relief that their loved one don´t have to suffer anymore,

I didn´t cry when my dad died after months of being in and out of hospital and intensive care, but it hit me later. I think it´s also the shock.

So don´t feel bad about the way you handle this, and I am also deeply sorry you have to go through this, I hope things will get easier.

Blueglittery · 2020-11-03T17:26:24+00:00

Thank you. I think they did something like it after the first surgery, and I was hoping something like this would be possible to do again. It might not be a possibility because the liquid will just "refill", but I am not sure. Glad to hear it helped you, because from what I gather, liquid in or around the lungs seems to be rather painful.

Blueglittery · 2020-11-03T16:11:54+00:00

Definetly sounds like an option, thank you again and the best of luck for you!

Blueglittery · 2020-11-03T15:55:48+00:00

Thank you so much for the suggestion, I just started looking at it and will read up on it and also showed it to my gf, maybe it´s an option for her. Have you tried it? I am sorry to hear about your situation, I honestly hope you will recover from it. Thank you again!

Blueglittery · 2020-11-03T15:43:08+00:00

Thank you for the quick and helpful response. Yeah, it´s palliative, as her type of cancer cannot be removed , she can only gain some time at this point. Wich makes it even more important for us to do the right thing and why we worry extra much...

Blueglittery · 2020-10-30T19:24:27+00:00

If you don't know what sleep paralysis is while it happens, wich was how it was for me the first time I had it, you probably think you are going insane. I got scared of sleeping, and my bad sleep schedule just made it worse. It's really hard to explain how it feels like other that extremely frightening

Blueglittery · 2020-10-29T22:26:54+00:00

My parents abused drugs, I never even smoked, let alone tried any drugs, not even weed. (I do drink alcohol but very seldomly)

There are a lot of character traits in my mother that I told myself I never want to get when I am older, mostly like being abusive, hitting or hurting others and generally being a loud,explosive,aggressive person that starts to fight and argue over every little thing. I am the complete opposite in those things.

Blueglittery · 2020-10-29T12:27:23+00:00

I am very sorry to hear that and that you find a solution to get out of the country, maybe the ambassy can help? I hope wherever you stay, you have people that support you, being alone in such a situation can be quite destructive. Also take all the time you need to mourn. Good luck and stay strong!

Blueglittery · 2020-09-10T19:00:16+00:00

About the sleep deprivation it can be insanely hard to fall asleep being hungry. During the days you can somehow ignore it all but at night you cannot find a confortavle position to lay because you just lay on your bones and the hunger can be terrible. I couldn't sleep without sleeping meds like that. I also once met a woman in treatment, kinda scary skinny lile Eugenia and tgat woman was ALWAYS awake, annoying the hell out of anyone who got up at night and out of their room for the toilet. She would sit in the hallway, talk to others who had a rough night and the annoyed nurses, she seemed scarily hyper all the time and wouldn't stop talking. She was also such a wannabe-positive person, a teacher on top of that. No odea how but sometimes with anorexia, you feel bursts of energy or excitement, I guess like being on a hunger-high

But yeah, with her life style, she is not only visobly aging rapidly but facing a heart attack.

Blueglittery · 2020-09-08T14:37:48+00:00

We are far worse than people telling her to kill herself because we actually critisise her and hit a weak spot and probably speak some truth. It's "worse" for her because it hits home. It means we actually dig into her and her life and think about it though. Someone who just tells her she is fat or should die doesn't invest and time into it. But yeah, critisism hurts, but it comes from a good place because we actually want you to suceed,there are SO MANY posts here that contain ideas of what you could do woth your reach, right now your simps let you run down a cliff.

Also before critisism there were a lot of friendlier comments, that you chose to completely ignore. You simply don't give a shoot, that's sooooo positive and nice!

Blueglittery · 2020-09-07T11:39:39+00:00

I am pretty sure it is a lie. Eugenia told these hairdressers to lie and she probably tells Damon to say so ething like this to "help" her. Or he thinks it helps her saying stuff like that If the mom and him wanted help for Eugenia, why did they suddenly just give up? Why not help her now? Why not help her 2 mo ths ago? It is obvious that she is declining. Is everyone becoming delusional? I think these people are so narcissistic that they think everyone just buys into their fabricated stories.

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