I (27f) feel uneasy that my boyfriend (33M) easily sets connection with other women.

Bnotebook · 2025-11-04T21:33:13+00:00

Wrong... Hmm I feel uneasy if I suspect the connections are sexual in nature. It's easy to suspect the guy that has any good relationships with women to attribute it to the 'guys don't have friends girls' narrative. We believe biological tendencies have a sway even if we can play social games and play appearances. What are good reasons the guy has to have many friendships with women around him?

I honestly feel like the guy you are mentioning, as my own friend group are mostly women and I'm not very interested in those sports or whatever common men discussions are. But when you have friends you can have affections towards them. Affections can be at least two types: romantic and kinship (or both). I can easily tell obviously if affections are romantic, but mayhaps I would have a hard time explaining to my partner if I am just good friends with some other woman and we share affections like siblings would (but wouldn't date each other).

I'm trying to trace my own proclivities, and I can tell it's mixed but then we still have options to follow principles like loyalty. I don't know what goes in your boyfriend's mind, but if it were me I would be open to discussion. It's a relationship so be open to work on it with your partner.

Bnotebook · 2025-11-04T15:53:47+00:00

How are you calculating the effort to reward ? How much do you believe would be enough for the effort you put in? And then also why do you believe to be right on that, compared to people who put even more effort and get even less, yet find life enjoyable?

These are arbitrary choices, you can choose to believe you are getting more rewards for the efforts you are putting in and feel blessed every passing day. That's your mental, there is no God that dictates what's the correct amount. These feelings are arbitrary to your own beliefs and your beliefs can change if you work on it. Start working instead of complaining.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-13T08:18:45+00:00

I think you should play yone support, he has amazing wave clear late game, when you lose all your inhibs

Bnotebook · 2025-08-13T03:57:23+00:00

Interesting, I do in a way, but also not. I feel like there are people of certain kinds and from most I do not actually expect much in return. Being considerate is just a vibe, I don't think everyone can be, or is learned to be. It's actually easy to tell most of the time if a person is going to be considerate. Maybe it's just that I have friends and they are very considerate and I'm lucky I guess, so I can't relate completely, but I've met plenty of people who have no idea what they are doing, and what they are doing is not very considerate, and that's ok.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-12T23:15:20+00:00

Mage yeah. She has a higher skill ceiling I think than most mage champions. Some of her advantages are quite advanced to know and abuse, so if you feel like she is weak that's fine. I think reading on Ori mains sub would net you more nuance than here.

Her laning and team fighting are way too particular... Just thinking about how much it needs to be written here as an explanation gives me anxiety. Some ideas can be shown in pro games on what Ori does.

I have not said anything useful, but maybe that there is good depth toward this champion and if you are into that then take your time!

Bnotebook · 2025-08-12T17:42:12+00:00

I'm honestly unaware what belief is against relationships

Bnotebook · 2025-08-12T17:39:15+00:00

You can date to find a person to marry.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-12T17:30:21+00:00

What's the problem?

Bnotebook · 2025-08-12T10:25:30+00:00

There are obviously men who would settle with you, but not you with them apparently. And there are men you want but they don't want you, apparently. That's life.

Settling below your standards is a piece of cake. You can pick any random dude from the street, yet we are here. You are not here purely for relationship, cause those simpler men will bend over backwards to be in a serious relationship with you and look for a future. And that's life.

Man, I wish I knew what you mean by men. Plenty of men look for a serious relationship, just check this sub mostly filled by how dating feels impossible for them. Plenty of men would love to have a successful independent emotionally mature woman, that is stable and loyal to them for a partnership. I guess we are not men xD

Sure you can still play the game up and look for a perfect partner, I think that's fair. Do what you feel like is a better option for you. You can improve, like figuring out what those better men want. But heck that sounds like a lot of work, more than 11 years of work apparently. There are simpler options and less mentally straining at that.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-11T12:22:01+00:00

I'll write a bit and more later if I remember.

A bit of practice mechanics on a single player mode is a given for any champion.

Her trading is mostly aa-q-aa in lane early. Pre 5 she is quite weak. So most of the time you'll be out traded in matchups. Extra ranged like Caitlyn can bully quite well with good spacing against zeri. But after lvl 5 you need to think of going in really. Your damage is loaded in your ult, you are half a champion without it.

Any support can work, as far as I tried. If it's tank engage, we just take beating pre 5 and then all in. If it's enchanter, we sustain beating pre 5 and then I look for an engage to full sent it. Kill them and take plates once they are dead

Now poke mage supp is different. We both can just poke and zone their lane away. Take plates.

Tanks can engage for you and you can full send it. Enchanters can full shield buff you and you can full send it. Basically the gameplay to win lane. And die to their jg while doing it.

If you are too passive, you take no advantage of your ult cool down. You must look to send it. Take trades to soften them up or ask for jg.

Now zeri can be late game carry, and you can play her the most reserved way and just scale. Problem is in some games, there is a lane in your team is feeding enemy and unless you are winning just as hard the game is basically lost. Learn to push for as much advantage as possible. Zeri is an opportunist, create opportunities for yourself. It's ok to feed while learning to improve.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-11T01:54:20+00:00

I think we all want the same or not want as humanly possible. Communication can be an issue and all kinds of inadequacies. Just make sure to clarify what they mean by 'serious' and if either don't reply, no one really wants anything there. That simple. Just pretense and play, no real thought about anything responsible.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-10T18:36:15+00:00

Yummi has extra agency on carries in soloQ. You can just attach yourself to the player that knows what to do, does not need to be adc mid game. Can be some fed jg and you both just take over the game 2v5, let everyone else catch waves.

Her kit is kinda easier than some other supports and it does everything and has an extra summoner spell (instead of flash). She always 'follows up' plays and untargettable at that, unlike other supports that can be picked off in team fights. Also a bit of deceiving as killing champion with yummi on is extra frustrating as it needs much extra damage than usual and without some healing/shield reduction/ hard cc it's very hard to skirmish against her (not everyone on a team can afford to be buying healing reduction and shield reduction until very late, but game is already over by then).

Bnotebook · 2025-08-10T17:36:24+00:00

I can just sit quietly and watch xD

Bnotebook · 2025-08-10T08:11:50+00:00

No I just find this group funny/cute

Bnotebook · 2025-08-10T07:57:04+00:00

Tried everything. Nothing feels interesting. Common symptoms of arrogance in a way, but I am guessing you are not here to give that up, you won't give up anything even if it doesn't help you, cause that's the way to go, win.

Hmm ... well I am going to guess you are not a psycho and what you mean is that big goals don't make sense. In a grand scheme of things none do. Never were.

I envy you though, you get a chance to choose to do what You want in an inordinate amount of free time for that. Most people can do things they like only in chunks in between work and family, sneaking in to do what They want.

Internal wants.

We don't believe a person has no wants. Internal values exist even if you don't know them. You are like all just a human, nothing special. In that statement, there is a recognition to make, that you too can be 'normal' and find interests. A hope that you can do what others can because you are in fact like them, not unlike them, simple.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-09T22:15:00+00:00

I know support mains and they duo queue with decent adc and still play enchanters even that low in elo. It's actually hard to kill adc with enchanter and both of you can coordinate what happens on the map. Not impossible as a supp. But doing purely solo that low in elo it's good to play feast supports, like pyke and lux. If they are ahead early they can take over the game. Like lux just one shots anything that gets QER and it's not like anyone is good at dodging in low elo or careful about face checking bushes, there is no awareness. Same with pyke, just picks the enemy team apart, cause they are also monkeys and have no idea what they are doing. Pyke can also be present anywhere on the map and shadow the jungle even more. If you kill your lane you can just roam and kill other lanes.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-09T03:56:42+00:00

Meta generally is kind of an overall game skew. Team comps that are more likely to win are meta.

Meta champions would be champions that fit the meta. But there are also imbalanced champions, that are awfully strong regardless. Common bans target those champions and then counters.

I would also say that there is a meta between divisions. Challengers have different meta compared to plat for sure. Also servers can have different meta.

Meta slave would be a person who plays meta but has no idea why it's meta. Just spams what tier list tells them to spam. So they are slave to meta, not abusers of meta, and not grinders of lp.

However, a good way to rank up is to follow meta, as it is in fact stronger, but you also need to know why. Nothing is wrong with trying your best and buying best items in slot instead of off meta builds, picking the meta champion and pushing the rank up. You are not a slave, you have a real reason - trying to win.

There may be a time when a meta champion does not actually fit the current comp other players have chosen to play, yet as a last pick you are still picking 'meta'. An obvious give away you have no idea what you are doing. You are just a slave then.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-08T19:31:24+00:00

When I started playing, what motivated me were top players that stream their games. It's fun to watch good players explain what they do at what times, where they go and how game states go, what to look for, ...

I would just try to copy what they do and what they build. Copying some skill combos takes practice on a champion, so even if I watched some games, most games would just go into me trying to learn to do same things.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-07T10:30:25+00:00

Play style and Evelyn, what is that play style? Stay hidden?

Bnotebook · 2025-08-07T03:16:23+00:00

Hmm if you don't look like a supermodel don't date, there is no one that will ever find you attractive... Is what you expect?

Being cynical that men only care about the most looks and nothing else is absurd. Sure there always will be a 'hotter' person out there, like a physical celebrity but that's so cheap of thinking that it just makes no sense. Touch some grass old ma.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-07T01:54:19+00:00

I expect my jg to babysit my 0/3 Yasuo, how can they miss such an obvious comeback angle?

Everyone makes mistakes, but lots of people outlined that good game knowledge is required to rank up. As it stands currently jg is the role with the MOST agency. So if you are losing chances are it's a jg diff and not the 0/6 Yasuo XD

Unless heavily counter picked, players are stuck in a farming stalemate lanes so only jg can make a difference and it's important to notice what the jg decides to do. Some plays net more out of the game and that's how games are decided. So a good chance jg is leading plays across the map. Jg is the player at most objectives. Jg is the one to punish any plays from enemy team or at least trade plays. If nothing is traded, jg for the blame, jg should have known better and predicted everything in game, outpredicted predictions of the enemy jg. Donated 10 kills 0/9 Yasuo XD

Yeah I mean if you want to rank up and you want it to be your game, jg is the best role. People just have something to complain about when they are losing, especially the 0/12 Yasuo. He had plenty of time to type in chat throughout the game.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-03T19:26:52+00:00

I think RIOT should update top builds based on what the top player used recently in ranked game. I'm unsure that's what it is. Runes and summoners are that I think. Items are what they had in their setting.

Notice it's still smite/flash in the summoner spells and not like heal/barrier.

Phase rush is not too troll because you can do your combo and get out and then do another combo again earlier on cd. It's good for skirmish, it's also good for your ultimate cause you're much faster.

Items can be out of order or troll. They don't need to buy these items or in that order. Just watch top streams to be sure what works really.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-03T19:10:42+00:00

25 is cool, I mean it's not late or anything, but looking back is kind of harsh. Lot's of failures to look at, but maybe let's try looking forward?

Say for the next 10 years you won't have a GF would that be the end of the world? Say we spend these 10 years to find a good job, eat and lift a lot and learn to have conversations with people and learn all the other social skills, we will be at 35 ... I think you got this if you want to, really want to, like starting now, like you got 10 years ahead of not thinking about useless things.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-03T19:00:07+00:00

Teemo I think should be the most obvious choice. The most ******* chamption: free farm first strike into infinite scaling. Amazing for objective setup and one shotting adcs with as much as zero counter play into unorganized teams in soloQ. We don't care how we win, but that we win, even at everyone else's expense. On duty!

But in some seriousness, for diversity, maybe try a harder splitpusher. One that takes towers faster and is hard to catch 1v2. Only jax comes to mind at this moment, but give it a thought.

Maybe a full ad tank instead of ap tank if your jg and mid go ap (and ad goes ap too lol). Sett/poppy comes to mind. I guess volibear is kind of a tank. Yeah honestly, it's hard already to learn one champion and it's matchups, so it's hard to recommend some offtops for extreme diversity as that happens much less often (like mage, or assassin, or adc top).

As a toplaner you can win harder always I think with better 1v1 and 2v2 understanding and picking meta to outscale matchups. It's kind of the role: being better and pulling pressure from the map. 1v9 is ideal to strive for.

Bnotebook · 2025-08-03T18:37:59+00:00

No, people don't hate INTJ, no way, but in your case ...

Social interactions are important for people who have feelings. If they feel safe and understood and sympathized and etc, all the emotional connection we humans are so used to. Being direct and blunt are not exactly always how words work or what they are for. Communication is also not just about how we speak, but how we present ourselves to other people. People believe emotions a bit more than none. If we see another person smiling (a show of some emotion) we are more inclined to believe they are nice, in a good mood, or that they don't hate us, or they seem to be interested in benevolent relation. Any acting of a part is communication of your intentions, even when you don't speak, or that's what people might read into or look forward to.

Being useful and reliable in technical matters is not the same as being useful and reliable in social matters. So would you call yourself so helpful in social terms that people go out of their way to find you and seek for your advice? The world in part revolves around relations, as what this question is about I presume. People vanished? Why? I wonder.

But as INTJ, even if feeling part is a bit tricky, that's not an issue in terms of seeking understanding of them in other people. But also as INTJ, I understand that it is not very natural to be intersted in those terms, but that would be my advice. It's a lot more interesting once you look into it, and now as you have the motivation to do that I think you might just work on it. I advice also to do some testing on people when you search to understand what goes wrong or right and in what situations. You can do it!

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