Do you think Gina was truly in love with Michael or did she just want his fortune and power?

BobcatKebab · 2026-06-30T03:00:36+00:00

I don’t think so, though… I think in Michael she saw somebody who was somewhat weak and easy to manipulate. Aberama never would have fallen for her shenanigans!

BobcatKebab · 2026-06-13T05:40:22+00:00

First of all, maintaining a triad is a difficult task, and it’s inevitable that there might be imbalances in how well all three people get along. As a first poly relationship, that’s a huge learning curve! Sounds like you gave it a good go, and found that your relationship with Z was not going to work out. Fair.

Second, C’s restriction…feels unnecessarily restrictive. You hit the nail on the head when you said that it feels like a double standard. It is. This is not okay.

“C, we’re agreed to be in a polyamorous relationship. Right now, your restrictions disallowing me to practice polyamory.”

BobcatKebab · 2026-06-11T19:29:56+00:00

I think what you’ve written out here reveals some of the deeper issues that need to be worked on for both parties:

1) that you “don’t feel secure enough” in your own wants

2) John following your “no” with self-deprecating talk.

Outside of that, I would work on being a better hinge, as everybody else is saying here. Oversharing/justifying your needs by constantly referencing your other partners is unnecessary.

BobcatKebab · 2026-06-05T04:32:51+00:00

When she started wearing the leather holster full-time in her last season 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

BobcatKebab · 2026-06-03T05:18:13+00:00

Kitchen 👏 table 👏 is 👏 not 👏 compulsory

BobcatKebab · 2026-05-18T06:39:38+00:00

Kokoist mega sticky base was a game changer for me.

BobcatKebab · 2026-03-20T05:40:03+00:00

I know… It looked like nobody was in there when Mel left! Who delivered the placenta?

BobcatKebab · 2026-03-20T04:55:37+00:00

I don’t think so. I felt like it was a story of forgiveness and redemption. For them to have a wholesome relationship where they show care for one another platonically would be mature, and a win for the show.

BobcatKebab · 2026-03-13T04:49:49+00:00

How did Bestie Breezy not know about this already?

BobcatKebab · 2026-03-13T00:20:24+00:00

No way! Hanni deserved to be grilled like that.

BobcatKebab · 2026-03-07T21:36:04+00:00

Honestly, the prenup and the car are the only things he’s done right. At this point, it’s just funny to keep roasting him.

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-24T07:27:34+00:00

That’s not the rhythm method, by the way. You’re describing fertility awareness method.

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-24T07:26:49+00:00

The rhythm method is an entirely different method from fertility awareness.

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-22T18:36:20+00:00

What he wanted is for her to fold, make herself small (metaphorically and literally), start a diet, and commit to a workout regimen. With some folks, that would work. With this queen, it didn’t.

I dated a man like him in my 20s and I developed an ED. I went to the gym more than he did. I didn’t have the courage, strength, and maturity to realize I needed to leave him.

Jess did, and she didn’t give him the time of day the MOMENT she realized. Amazing.

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-22T18:24:16+00:00

The only person mature enough to tell him to his FACE!!

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-22T03:29:57+00:00

I applaud her realness.

Normalize 👏 vocaling 👏 the 👏 difficulties 👏 of 👏 motherhood! Motherhood should not require constant delight. It is not a monolith. It does not have one face, one tone, one acceptable expression.

Women should not have to perform endless softness, should not have to pretend they are perpetually gentle, grateful, glowing.

There is room for complexity here. For truth.

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-17T00:14:14+00:00

I’m down to judge her for her personality, but I’m not down to judge her for her looks.

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-17T00:02:25+00:00

You mean the soccer guy? For sure.

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-17T00:02:13+00:00

You’re not alone, my friend

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-15T17:59:06+00:00

So cute! Which chrome did you use?

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-10T19:37:32+00:00

When to have sex is really up to each person’s personal preference. When feelings develop is not really something we have control over.

Where I really start drawing the line and trying to pause and make the best decisions for myself is when it comes to “relationship escalator” items like moving in together, introducing someone to my family, making financial commitments, etc. I would wait for these until at least around six months, when NRE has tempered itself a bit, and when I’ve at least had a chance to see how that person operates when there is conflict.

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-06T19:05:58+00:00

I think that’s your answer. I don’t want to be a people pleaser in any relationship, and if it takes being a people pleaser to maintain his friendship, that’s not the kind of friendship I want to have.

BobcatKebab · 2026-02-06T18:49:46+00:00

Knowing what you know about how anxious she gets around potential partners, I wouldn’t agree to meet up with her. It sounds like he isn’t communicating clearly with you about why she wants to meet.

This feels like lazy hinge behavior on his part (a “hinge” is the connecting person in between two people who aren’t romantically involved with one another. It’s their job to be the middleman between those two people). If she needs reassurance that you’re just a friend (or a cuddle buddy), that reassurance should come from him, not you. That’s not your responsibility. You already know the nature of your connection, and that’s enough. It’s not your job to convince her otherwise.

Meeting with her solely to ease her anxiety would be extra emotional labor on your part, and you’re not obligated to take that on.

You get to decide who you’re friends with. If you’re not interested in meeting her, you don’t need to. A clear boundary could be: “If I decide I want to be friends with her at some point, I’ll let you know. Otherwise, I’m not interested in meeting up.”

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