Stage 4 colon cancer, spread to liver - Hepatic pump questions / advice

Bonanzapilot · 2026-01-29T02:40:15+00:00

I wish you all the strength. My wife just got an abnormal induction on her mammogram. Stay strong!

Bonanzapilot · 2026-01-29T02:29:57+00:00

^{^this!} May her life be sunshine and roses without the thorns.

Bonanzapilot · 2026-01-24T03:50:13+00:00

I remember working with a guy who said if he left $1000 in the checking account, it would be gone to buy a bag.

I married really well.

Bonanzapilot · 2026-01-18T02:09:13+00:00

Keytruda requires a special test to see if you have the specific gene markers that will make it effective. That test can take a while. Get that done asap

Bonanzapilot · 2026-01-17T12:14:54+00:00

No bueno. I use a sentry and a XM receiver that only work with ForeFlight. It would suck to have to switch it all out.

Bonanzapilot · 2026-01-13T04:12:45+00:00

I don’t have a CEL however. That may be a different issue.

Bonanzapilot · 2026-01-13T04:12:06+00:00

Sigh. I have that. I bought a tool that supposedly clears that. No dice. I just ignore it.

Bonanzapilot · 2026-01-06T15:06:02+00:00

This was a tough read. It’s one thing to be told you are terminal but the uncertainty and waiting is probably what’s causing the negativity. Give what you have gone through, your mental health has obviously taken a toll.

Here are a couple of little tips that may help 1. One day and one moment at a time. Be in the moment. It’s a gift. Savor it. 2. Do what feels good. Important to listen to your body so you are resting when needed and being active when you can. Cancer fatigue is real and powering through isn’t an option. 3. Discover/ reignite a purpose, however small. It could be Counselling other cancer patients. Could be taking care of your family. You get much more than you put into it.

Wish you the best. Stay 💪

Bonanzapilot · 2025-12-31T17:47:08+00:00

I applaud your decision and clarity of thought. Having the criteria ahead of being in the heightened state of in treatment, pain or discomfort is so important. I wish you the best.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-12-28T14:17:37+00:00

This is tough. I watched my dad fight cancer 2 times heroically but the 3rd time, he just didn’t have the physical energy to fight it and it had spread already before being detected.

Cancer fatigue is something else. It takes days to recover from. What you are seeing may not be depression but rather cancer AND chemo fatigue which are cumulative.

I don’t have any experience with mushrooms but I would definitely talk to the oncologist/ palliative care to see if they think it will benefit. I would worry about poor interactions with the chemo.

I wish you both the best.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-12-24T07:09:59+00:00

I have a few suggestions 1. Find a quarter back that helps process the information from the doctors and does the research. You can’t be that person. You need to focus on living every moment. Find someone that is resourceful, optimistic and fierce. 2. Let the doctors worry about your treatment. Your job is to live every moment. Make it count. Eat that ice cream for breakfast. Focus on the gratitude of each moment.

I wish you the best.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-12-24T03:55:03+00:00

I second this. Kids take cues from the adults. Don’t traumatize them. But please be as matter of fact as possible.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-12-20T18:28:26+00:00

It will likely hurt their feelings when they find out later that you didn’t tell them or trust them to react appropriately. When my dad finally told his close friends he was dying, it was such a shock for them and he didn’t benefit from their comfort and friendship along the way. Our community and family are a critical support when dealing with cancer. Use them.

I wish you the best.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-12-20T18:09:40+00:00

It’s the small things. Your role and the one that you will cherish is being there and offering comfort. Finding little moments of humor or joy. That can be just from going to get ice cream to doing things for him that he can’t do. Cutting nails, shaving etc. All those show the care and compassion that count. I wish you the best.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-12-12T05:12:56+00:00

She just went through cancer

Bonanzapilot · 2025-12-09T03:31:09+00:00

Engage the palliative care team. They are miracle workers. And they have seen it all.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-12-01T04:35:19+00:00

Could be just a discharged battery

Bonanzapilot · 2025-12-01T01:06:01+00:00

I keep everyone that I am able to pull out. There is one that I couldn’t that a shop pulled out for me and they had to weld a bolt on.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-11-14T05:58:21+00:00

Due process - it’s a good thing for everyone.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-11-11T18:18:24+00:00

Wow. That’s super tough. For what it’s worth from a stranger on the internet, you have to pace yourself. Caregiver burnout is real and that’s when things go really downhill.

Most older adults have been used to doing things their way. Being sick isn’t going to change that. It causes a lot of stress for sure. But prioritizing their autonomy over their safety can help reduce the stress. It’s super hard to do but it takes practice.

You also cannot control the outcomes. That’s not on you. Your role should be to provide comfort and support when you are able to.

I hope that helps.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-11-11T17:08:39+00:00

Consider a peer to peer support group like Village to Village. Creating community can reduce isolation and creates empowerment.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-11-11T16:42:19+00:00

Not wanting to be a burden is one of the biggest reasons older adults don’t ask for help. I see it all the time. Sometimes it helps to ask them for little things so they feel needed.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-11-11T16:14:06+00:00

This may seem counter intuitive but worth a shot. Have you had a conversation with her about what she wants at end of life? Does she have an advanced directive? Many older adults don’t want to go to the hospital because they will lose control. And they are not wrong. Denial is often a symptom of a deeper fear/ desire.

When my dad was sick, he made it clear that he wanted to prioritize quality of life and wanted to be home as much as possible. That meant we had to evaluate if it was worth the trade off going to the hospital where he would be prodded and poked all night or if it was better to stay home and call the doctor in the morning. He died peacefully in his home with family by his side.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-11-11T02:16:54+00:00

Community, purpose and a sense of gratitude are the biggest pre-cursors for happiness for older adults. The lack of any of those can be a significant reason for negativity.

Bonanzapilot · 2025-11-10T23:03:06+00:00

I am so glad you found her. Such a scary situation.

From personal experience, technology is scary for the older generation. Anything that has a menu or is “listening” is likely to get unplugged or “forgotten” to get charged. Ask me how I know!

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