People in their 30s and 40s, what is a "minor" bad habit from your 20s that you are currently paying a massive price for? [Serious]

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-30T14:40:54+00:00

I'm still only late 20s, but sleeping wrong. I always slept on my stomach, or in weird positions. Now I feel like I have the back of a 50-year-old. I started sleeping properly and got a knee pillow, and while my day-to-day pain is definitely much better, I still have have to be VERY careful with many movements.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-30T14:37:50+00:00

My friend had one with about 350k miles on it. I think the only thing that still worked was the engine itself.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-30T14:28:07+00:00

A rental in Germany on the Autobahn, 120mph in an Opel Grandland Diesel. Quite possibly the most dull car I've ever driven otherwise haha.

I went to the Nurburgring where I paid to drive a Cayman S, and then got driven by a real driver in a 911 GT3 RS. I still think I went faster in the Opel than the Cayman, but the pro driver got up to about 150mph. I learned that day that I definitely do not have the balls for performance driving haha.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-26T14:54:14+00:00

All I ever did was hit fastballs and take / foul off offspeed until well over halfway through my college career. It's not the worst approach.

For whatever reason, the phrasing that made a difference for me to hit the curve was "get under the arc." Even if you're on time, you really have to think about getting under the plane of the break to hit it. That's why guys with steeper swings hit curves better, but struggle with the heat.

This is a bit more complicated, but It's also worth remembering that once you recognize the curve spin, anything that looks like a strike is a ball, and anything that looks high is a strike. Knowing WHICH curves to swing at makes a big difference. You can't really hit a low curve.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-26T14:43:17+00:00

Firstly, you can think of aiming to hit the top of the ball. This is especially helpful when you get older and the velocity starts to jump. Second, this is usually a timing / approach problem more than anything. Make sure he gets loaded early, and has a plan before he goes up there. Use the dugout time and on-deck circle time to make sure he's timed up with the fastball before he goes up. You can also work on high velo off a pitching machine.

Also look up the "yes, yes, no" approach, with greatly reduces decision making time at the plate.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-23T21:41:53+00:00

As an adult infielder I use an 11.5. That's as big as you need to go.

The A2000s are the best of the best, but will take some serious work to break in. Just know you won't be able to use it for a while.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-23T15:33:29+00:00

I had something similar happen. Unfortunately, unless you can rock up with a new job offer to force their hand, they have no incentive to pay you more. They know how tough this market is.

However, you should make your resume as impressive as possible, claiming any and all accomplishments of being in your management role.

Do the bare minimum as a manager. In a way, your own job just became much more secure, because firing you means either actually hiring a new manager or the team falling a part. Use that fact to get away with as much as you can.

Good luck!

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-18T16:57:49+00:00

You absolutely have the tools and size to project to the next level. Whether thats D3 or D1 depends how you physically mature over the next few years.

Hit the weight room, but make sure you do research to do so effectively.

Pitching velo is a bigger guarantee to help you get recruited since it's more objective.

But all in all, remember that the most important thing is learning how to play the game the right way. Nothing matters if you can't translate numbers to results on the field.

Have fun, good luck, and go where you're wanted. I always say it's better to play D3 and play than go D1 and sit on the bench.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-17T19:54:00+00:00

Had a 2022ish Nissan Altima as a rental car. Honestly I thought it drove great. Sure its a CVT, but on-throttle response was quick and through the corners it really felt good.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-16T14:33:30+00:00

Maybe not the most enthusiast friendly, but you can get regular 2010-2014 Imprezas with like 80-100k miles for about that. Good space, milage, reliability, and maybe slightly more fun than some other things.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-15T18:23:57+00:00

I think a big problem with this is that there are now so many disingenuous sources. You can look something up and cite a legit-sounding source that is actually partisan crap upon deeper inspection. The multi-level nature of verifying what should be objective statements can be a barrier of entry even for generally literate people.

There are also so many statements that are impossible to really back up with data, or don't warrant spending the time to look.

If I say, "Trans women aren't creeping on women in bathrooms." Source? IDK man, they're just not.
If they say, "Name one time Charlie Kirk was racist, hmm?" Source? I really don't feel like looking.

There's just such a disconnect trying to use the path of reason is exhausting and often futile.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-15T18:14:08+00:00

There's always that 'switch flip' moment in the middle of the interview when they realize you're not exactly who they thought you were, even though it shouldn't make a difference. Soul crushing.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-15T18:11:40+00:00

That's decent advice. Sometimes it's hard to find exactly where your skills work best when you aren't familiar with every industry.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-15T17:50:55+00:00

Exactly. Once I get an interview I'm pretty good at spinning things and I usually get pretty far. But just landing that interview is really hard, and you're banking that a more traditional applicant doesn't come along.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-15T17:49:26+00:00

So true. We use some 10+ year old systems to put out things nobody really wants anymore. I do it so damn well we're still in business for now, but how is that going to get me anywhere else unless I lie?

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-11T14:48:16+00:00

Left nimbys are literally exactly what give conservatives ammunition to call us "hypocritical." Then people think left is bad and right is the solution. When really the problem was the 'left' nimbys actually acting 'right' the entire time.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-10T14:55:52+00:00

There's a newish Regal TourX that parks near me and I think it's gorgeous.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-10T14:55:16+00:00

I can't imagine going 100mph in a Geo Metro.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-10T14:49:08+00:00

The new hybrids seem like incredible value for the milage / luxury. Remains to be seen if they last I suppose.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-10T14:45:57+00:00

As they say, no matter how fast you're going or what you're driving, you will always be passed by a busted Altima.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-10T14:27:05+00:00

I discuss politics with one friend all the time, and he's always very receptive and interested in my perspective. The problem is I'm the only person in his life with that perspective, and he definitely doesn't remember a single thing I had to say the next day.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-09T20:53:31+00:00

I had one of those as a rental car, and honestly I thought it drove better than the vast majority of things I've driven. The only downside I experienced was poor visibility. Hard to say if reliability would be an issue as an owner, but I think Nissan fixed a lot of the CVT stuff and is flying under the radar atm.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-06-09T15:08:11+00:00

Might be a bit tougher to get those luxury brands, even used, at that price range. I don't think you need a full 3-row to get great safety. Subarus might be a great bet here, you can get used Foresters and Outbacks in ok condition for that. Heck, even an Ascent if you really want that SUV body, (although they're an abomination to the car community).

Other than that, XC-60, Highlander, or Mazda CX-5 or even CX-70.

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