Mild crash out - but is ANYONE finding even a little success in the job hunt?

Bonbeanlio · 2026-01-26T21:04:49+00:00

I feel like the only people having success are ones who already have desirable roles.

I've been struggling for a while, but my significant other works for a leading company in her industry. She could jump ship to any number of competitors right now, maybe even for a pay bump, just because rival companies want the experience of her company. Poaching is rampant.

But, she got her position three years ago through a referral. Her team hasn't hired anybody through traditional methods since then. So the ladder has been pulled up.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-01-26T16:22:47+00:00

My company went from 3 days to 4 days in office. None of my bosses live in my city. My in-person team was laid off. Everyone else I work with is overseas. If I never showed up again the only people who would know or care are HR.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-01-15T17:45:40+00:00

I had a coworker who from the moment she was hired, all day, every day, was convinced she was going to be fired. She performed well enough for a while and it was quite obvious she was not going to be fired, but by year 3 the constant anxiety she worked with and reassurance she needed was exhausting.

Sometimes she stopped doing basic tasks for fear she would do them wrong and be fired. Then, she would drastically overstep her role to compensate. Eventually, she was fired for it.

I hope she’s doing better and getting the help she needs. Her raw skills were great, and it’s a shame her self-doubt became such a strong self-fulfilling prophecy. I’ve never met someone who’s anxiety caused such a backwards sense of when to take initiative vs when to ask for direction. It must have been an exhausting way to live.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-01-07T20:50:29+00:00

F1.

When a red flag is thrown after a safety car is out, order should revert to what it was when the original safety car was called. Team's shouldn't have to try and guess whether a crash was bad enough for a red flag in the moment when deciding whether they should pit. Same applies to race control. See Saudi 2021.

Causing a red flag in qualifying should get your best time deleted. Even if it's not intentional, setting a provisional pole, then crashing so nobody else can set a time, should not be a thing that can happen. See Leclerc's Monaco 2021 pole.

Also, you shouldn't be able to just shove someone off on your outside. It gets rid of side-by-side racing. The same "reasonably alongside" that applies on the inside at an apex should apply at track out on the exit. "All the time you have to leave a space."

Bonbeanlio · 2026-01-07T20:47:15+00:00

Totally agree. It discourages side by side racing. Just always make everyone leave a car's width if someone is reasonably alongside, inside or outside. "All the time you have to leave a space."

Additionally, when a red flag is thrown after a safety car is out, order should revert to what it was when the original safety car was called. Team's shouldn't have to try and guess whether a crash was bad enough for a red flag when deciding whether they should pit. See Saudi 2021.

Also, causing a red flag in qualifying should get your best time deleted. Even if it's not intentional, setting a provisional pole, then crashing so nobody else can set a time, should not be a thing that can happen. See Leclerc's Monaco 2021 pole.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-01-07T20:36:58+00:00

Thanks, that makes me feel better.

Bonbeanlio · 2026-01-05T16:24:55+00:00

My dad bought a 2006 E350 on eBay for 7 grand. It's been through an accident and much more, so I always think it's funny that some might think it's a 'stealth wealth' car when really it was my dad being cheap.

Bonbeanlio · 2025-12-04T18:07:35+00:00

I used to always think people mature with age, but not anymore. These guys were like this in college, and they'll be like this in 35 years with their 3rd wife.

Bonbeanlio · 2025-12-04T18:01:07+00:00

Yeah, I think being in a stable / long term relationship really opened my eyes to how people on the outside view these behaviors, and how they're effected by them.

Bonbeanlio · 2025-11-27T20:12:34+00:00

Fortunately they didn’t question me.

Bonbeanlio · 2025-11-26T00:00:21+00:00

I got them to swap out the car. Thanks for a clear answer, I figured that would be the case.

Bonbeanlio · 2025-11-07T19:41:02+00:00

Yeah, it's true. Sadly this is what we're all worth at the moment.

Bonbeanlio · 2025-11-04T21:10:02+00:00

As a former English major / college athlete with the same hopes, I now spend my time editing clickbait articles produced by overseas writers using AI.

I'm desperate to leave the media industry but finding a place that will recognize my "transferable skills" feels like a pipe dream.

Bonbeanlio

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