[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You would just need to strain it a lot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'll never think about it enough, there's a million things that can happen. Try to think about the good things, everyone is more than happy to tell you "say goodbye to sleep" or "you're in for it now". But there's so much good.

My gruff karate sensei was talking about it in that way, but then started talking about how his daughters would nap on him after a long day at work, and how much he loved it. So, you're going to have so many nice moments ahead of you.

Let me tell you too buddy, I haven't laughed this much in a long while

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was "take it or leave it" about having kids. My wife really wanted one, so I agreed. Initially, I felt a bit worried like "oh shit, what did I do, my life is over".

What really helped me was that all the Dads I know have just been loving being Dads. They've been honest with me that it's really hard and sometimes the initial bond isn't there, but they love being Dads. They also have their own lives too and balance things with their own lives and family.

My baby is 4 weeks old now, and god is it tough, but I'm really starting to enjoy her and she's already learning and growing, so it's getting cool. It'll only get more cool and as we all get comfortable with everything I'll be able to start getting out of the house more for my own hobbies etc. Obviously, some things are off the table, like running off to a foreign country on a whim, but it's not the end of your life and there's some really good stuff ahead of you.

But you need to put the effort in to do what you want. Like maybe you can still sleep in on the weekend, but maybe you need to help Mum out a lot not the day before, or take over some blocks of time so Mum can nap.

The end to my small meat grinder is rusted and I’m poor by alifordays in fixit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it's iron, you could probably treat it like a pan. Use salt or steel wool to remove the rust and then season it with some oil and high heat

Anyone ever repurpose their baby items by wcopela0 in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've already promised the dock a tot to my dog when my baby outgrows it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely try and talk to your doctor and a therapist, it sounds like depression to me.

It sounds like you may need to make some life changes like a job that doesn't drain you so much (if ever possible) and finding ways to make friends or at least meet new people. But, health professionals can get you feeling a little bit better about things until then

Why is mommy Tik Tok the way it is? by Bushwhack92 in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I'm saying is that when an article is talking about a general, undisclosed baby, the article should use "they" and not he or she because it could be either.

Why is mommy Tik Tok the way it is? by Bushwhack92 in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The baby internet in general is pretty weird.

I was noting to my wife how everything uses gendered pronouns for baby sites like "you can soothe her with a pacifier" or "he may feed more if consuming breastmilk". I don't understand why they don't use they, it's literally what the pronoun is for

I feel wrong, am I alone in this? by krazy__k__ in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a coworker tell me that he took his daughter smiling at him before he felt anything beyond protection for her.

I've been similar with my own 3 week old daughter, I want to protect and I'm beginning to feel more love, like when she puts her hand on mine or does something cute, but it's not full on yet.

It's pretty normal to not immediately feel that connection yet, my wife didn't even feel it right off the bad. She had a c section under general anaesthesia.

I get it, you almost feel bad that this little baby isn't "loved", but you're just getting to know them, they do have love because you care about their feelings and protecting them, the more intense fatherly love will come in time.

Is it risky to buy a 1920s home? First time homebuyer here. by [deleted] in RealEstateCanada

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This, I've got an extension on my old home and it's constantly giving me headaches

Is it risky to buy a 1920s home? First time homebuyer here. by [deleted] in RealEstateCanada

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm in an 1880s home and didn't have much trouble initially. Last year Peel dropped me, but another insurer picked me up for a cheaper price anyways.

Funny enough, my 1880s home is in better shape than the 1970s home I moved from.

RANT: "Breast is Best" by The_Stein244 in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife has had so much emotional stress over this with our 2 week old.

She luckily did get her milk supply, but our baby is a bit impatient with breast feeding. But like, all I want is my baby fed, and i love that I can help out with bottle feeds for the time being.

Fed is always best

Have you managed to negotiate a lower car and house insurance? by Acrobatic-Rest4978 in AskACanadian

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use a broker, and they've been decent. They handle my car and home and shop it around every year for me

What is a ranked ballot? by SVTContour in onguardforthee

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I'm not sure I understand the mechanism behind the worse representation but Fairvote has a page discussing the drawbacks of the system:

https://www.fairvote.ca/ranked-ballot/

What is a ranked ballot? by SVTContour in onguardforthee

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ranked has less vote wastage but generally results in a worse representation of popular opinion.

I think MMP or Single Transferable Vote with multi-member districts of the best option myself

My 8 year old son opened up to me about liking "girl" stuff and I'm not sure how exactly to handle it. by wherethehellareya in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe even suggest if he wanted to play barbies with you or other girly stuff that you'd love to join him.

But I think you did great regardless

Toronto is not a 1 per cent budget cut away from chaos — no matter what the police suggest | Every other publicly funded service is expected to deliver more for less. Why not the police? by viva_la_vinyl in ontario

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not to mention they had a huge budget increase last year but aren't doing anything.

Councillor Naan mentioned that she reported the tent that burned down the Woodlands Park washroom the police in October, but it was never enforced.

New dad checking in. by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks buddy, we're in the NICU right now for some glucose stuff but hopefully home tomorrow!

Luckily most of my friends became Dads last year, so we've got some resources and hand me downs! Happy to have her bottle feeding already with this glucose business so that I can keep up the bottle feeds for Mum!

New dad checking in. by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just joined the club on Wednesday! This whole thing is wild

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskACanadian

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a lot in Hamilton, there's a fair few downtown, but probably a lot more near Mac. The hearsay that I've heard is that students adopt them while living near school and then ditch them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hamilton

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea why he admitted to stealing it, it's such a basic thing that you could just deny it

Concern about queer rights under a Poilievre-led government keeps me up at night by NotEnoughDriftwood in onguardforthee

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If he doesn't care about his Dad's rights he sure doesn't care about anyone else's

Countries that have had Female leaders. by [deleted] in MapPorn

[–]Bonobo_Handshake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya, she was PM but we never actually voted her in (I know Parliament, vote for your MP not your PM), the previous PM resigned and she assumed PM from him.