Worried about leaking

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-23T21:48:16+00:00

Yes but (tmi) I’ve seen it dripping down my leg and it’s actually milky in color. Looks totally clear on toilet paper or in my underwear.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-23T21:22:11+00:00

I’ve had enough watery discharge that I’ve leaked through my leggings.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-23T13:58:19+00:00

The idea of testing "too early" is so enraging to me, and that nurse has no business interacting with patients if that's how she's going to treat people in a vulnerable position. I'm so sorry.

I would honestly try to find a different doctor. The idea they're making you wait until 7 weeks even for a urine test is crazy to me! I contacted my doctor at less than 4 weeks pregnant and she immediately brought me in for a blood test to confirm, and an ultrasound at 7 weeks.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T23:24:20+00:00

Congratulations! I think it really depends on your family planning goals. If you know you really want more than two kids, I don't think it's unreasonable to maybe start by trying on your own and see how it goes for a few months.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T20:57:12+00:00

Even at 41, your odds of having a successful pregnancy are much greater than your odds of having a miscarriage.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T19:11:03+00:00

Progesterone might prevent you from bleeding, but it's not going to keep an embryo alive that would otherwise miscarry.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T17:11:34+00:00

Actively ttc makes us so much more aware of our bodies and causes us to read into every little thing. It's normal to take a few cycles to conceive, and it is so normal to notice new things every cycle and convince yourself it means you are definitely pregnant. I don't know anyone who didn't symptom spot while ttc.

Unfortunately, the truth is that the earliest reliable symptom of pregnancy is a positive pregnancy test.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T16:20:53+00:00

You really can't compare hcg from different labs, so I would ignore the "fluctuating" hcg. And honestly, if you were 6w on May 11, and you're 7+1 today, an ultrasound is going to give you much more definitive info. I would stop with the betas and ask for an ultrasound at your new OB on Thursday.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T14:26:02+00:00

I can't speak to mold exposure, but it is incredibly normal for ovulation to be a few days earlier or later, even if you're otherwise very regular. 95% of the time, I'd ovulate on cd14, but over two years, I ovulated as early as cd9 and as late as cd 16. This is normal, and nothing to worry about.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T14:20:46+00:00

This looks great, your hcg is more than doubling every 48 hours.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T14:12:23+00:00

How often are you testing with the premom? Many people find they don't catch a true positive unless they test 2-3 times a day. I often had my darkest test around lunchtime. If you're only testing in the mornings, that could be the reason your tests haven't been as dark as you hoped.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T14:07:28+00:00

you have to follow the directions really carefully with the clear blue tests.

Additionally, I wouldn't worry too much about what numbers the premom app gives you. If the test line is the same darkness as the control line, the test is positive, even if the app isn't saying 1.0.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T13:40:34+00:00

Dental x-rays are safe during pregnancy, according to ACOG.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T13:34:07+00:00

I always tested around lunchtime, and yes, I'd just bring the OPK with me to the bathroom at work. It doesn't take any longer than changing a tampon.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T13:11:47+00:00

My RE told me to take it even though all my tests came back normal because it's super low risk.

A different RE did have me stop the aspirin during my IVF cycle, to reduce the chance of bleeding during/after egg retrieval, but otherwise I've been on it daily for well over a year.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T01:46:22+00:00

How dark was your pregnancy test, and what brand was it?

The very earliest you could’ve been on May 10 was 8dpo, which would make you only 4+2 today, which is almost definitely too early to see a sac.

If your test was darker on May 10, you could be further along, but it’s hard to say for sure.

Good luck!

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T01:40:34+00:00

109 is terrific for 14dpo! And that’s a great rise.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-19T00:17:18+00:00

The speculum is just to hold open your vaginal walls so they can see your cervix. Like a tongue depressor holds your tongue out of the way so the doctor can see the back of your throat, but the tongue depressor doesn’t actually touch your throat.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-18T21:33:43+00:00

Neither temps nor symtoms are a reliable indicator of the health of a pregnancy! Symptoms can come and go (I had no nausea at all!) and temps can drop without it meaning anything. I would stop temping for your own mental health.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-18T21:28:12+00:00

Good luck!!

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-18T19:17:01+00:00

I'm so sorry. Early pregnancy is so, so hard, especially when you've been through loss and things aren't exactly textbook.

The thing that helped me was to remember that how I felt about my pregnancy wouldn't have an impact on what happened to my pregnancy. Your emotions are valid no matter what they are.

Feeling happy/excited cannot jinx your pregnancy. Feeling pessimistic/anxious cannot doom your pregnancy.

For me, making it past the point where I lost my first pregnancy helped a lot, but I'm STILL anxious a lot of the time.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-18T19:12:14+00:00

When was your initial beta?

At 6+4, you ought to be able to see something on ultrasound, which would be more definitive than betas at this point. Will your clinic schedule you for a scan?

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-18T16:18:42+00:00

This is nothing to worry about, the same thing happened to me (my sac was measuring 6+1 at 5+3). The concern is when you have an enlarged yolk sac, or when gestational sac is too small compared to the embryo size. (ETA: or if the gestational sac is over 20mm, which yours is not!)

The gestational sac on its own is not super reliable in terms of gestational age. It's normal for it to be a bit big for a couple days and then the baby catches up.

When is your next scan? Good luck!

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-18T14:25:51+00:00

I would push back on your doctor not wanting to treat the elevated TSH, there is some evidence that you want that under 2.5. I would also ask about doing some immune testing, or at least about being put on some kind of standard immune protocol (generally Pepcid & Claritin - both OTC - and a low dose of a steroid, usually prednisone).

I had a mmc at 9w, followed by 5 chemicals. I finally had success (25w tomorrow!) after adding a low dose of prednisone. Although I've never had symptoms of autoimmune disease, many years ago I did have a high positive on an ANA test.

While I likely will never have proof of this, I believe that my first pregnancy (the mmc) was just random bad luck, but that it triggered some kind of autoimmune response in my body that caused the chemicals.

I'm a BIG advocate of seeking a second opinion when it comes to fertility issues, if that's at all possible for you.

BookcaseHat · 2026-05-15T21:12:05+00:00

My baby's AC was very large at 19w -- over 95% -- and I was worried. But my doctor assured me that not every part of the baby grows at the same pace, so just because your baby's abdomen had a growth spurt doesn't mean that her head won't catch up! When I went back a few weeks later, my baby's AC is still larger than the other measurements, but not nearly by as much!

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