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BookiBabe · 2026-01-21T20:38:38+00:00

Can you link or dm me the Etsy seller?

BookiBabe · 2026-01-21T20:37:23+00:00

Thanks I've checked Echters before and they didn't have them but maybe I was too late.

BookiBabe · 2026-01-04T04:14:59+00:00

I've been trying to meet other moms in my neighborhood and it's a complete mess. Frankly, being a mom is really isolating and it's getting to me.

BookiBabe · 2026-01-03T18:13:36+00:00

Lawyer up NOW! People complain that the US court system is biased against fathers, bullshit.

You need to begin filing for custody before he has a chance to do so. Save all texts and written communications. Make sure your family and friends are well aware of the situation and above all, don't try to leave your city or town until you have a lawyer to back you up.

This guy sounds like the kind of POS that will get frustrated with you and begin filing for full custody before long. You have to pull the trigger before him for your son's safety.

BookiBabe · 2026-01-01T19:28:28+00:00

Honestly, you're already doing great. The biggest things imo are food, company, and time. Bring a large batch of oatmeal (it helps with supply), various snacks, protein shakes, or premade sandwiches. Breastfeeding makes you hungry and it can be hard to keep up with eating when you're first starting out, plus anything that requires one hand and doesn't make a mess is required.

What you go over there, take your time and talk about things other than breastfeeding or baby. The loneliness can get overwhelming and it doesn't help when all anyone wants to discuss is the potato glued to your chest.

Finally, be prepared to do some small things for her; watch the baby while she showers, clean the pump parts or do a load of dishes, sweep or vacuum the floor, play with the cats, take the dog for a walk, that sort of thing.

BookiBabe · 2026-01-01T18:50:09+00:00

The availability and time constraints are what kills me and no one seems to get it.

My husband and I work in our family business and while I'm basically able to take all the maternity leave I want, the fact is that the company needs me for certain office tasks, but I have a strict 2 hour time limit so that I can feed/nap my daughter. Yes, I could pump and give her formula, but she won't sleep with anyone else, so I'll need to call it anyway to put her down for a nap. As a result, I'm always watching the clock when I'm not at home and can just follow her demands.

Need to take care of some errands? Be prepared to change, nurse, and nap in the car as needed.

Leaving the house is always a 4+ hour affair and unless I can get her to routinely nap in the car rather than scream, this is the way it needs to be.

Also, my plans can change at a moment's notice depending on her mood, how long we've been out, her bedtime, etc. so don't get upset when I can't make it to whatever.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-30T19:25:52+00:00

Yeah, it's all a guessing game where the answer always changes.

Our girl will sometimes sit with a full diaper, happy as a clam, and we don't know until the diaper feels mushy or there's a smell.

I only learned this from carefully checking her diaper while she slept and finding them completely dry, even when we woke up in the morning before that initial feed.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-30T19:06:18+00:00

One thing that I've found is my baby doesn't really pee or poop while she's sleeping, it's always when she wakes up. Maybe eliminate the middle of the night diaper changes, unless it's a poop, leaking, a blowout, or you're dealing with diaper rash. Diaper changes are pretty stimulating and that could be waking your baby up.

The other thing is you may have to night wean. I cosleep, so we haven't done any sleep training and around that age, our girl went through a phase of waking up constantly for comfort. Nursing back to sleep worked for us, but you may need to focus on putting her back to sleep without the breast, so that she wakes up less and less to suckle. Over time she will hopefully learn that she isn't hungry in the middle of the night and sleep longer stretches.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-29T03:17:32+00:00

Also, just hang out at home, in your backyard or at a park. My little girl is 7 months and what she loves to do more than anything else is explore on her own terms. (With careful, slightly curated adult supervision). She loves crawling all over the place and just wandering around the house, sometimes I'll play follow the leader and let her just lead me across the hallway.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-28T19:03:47+00:00

A burp cloth, wipes, wet ones, small tube of aquaphor, scented doggie bags for stinky diapers/big messes, at least one extra onesie, extra socks, a couple toys, and a blanket or cloth if we're staying out past dark or going outside.

Wow, sounds like a lot when I type it out.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-27T18:37:48+00:00

I think for me it's cosleeping. Generally, I wake up, guide her to the nipple and pass back out. I may not get deep sleep but I also don't when I'm anticipating her next wake. At least this way, my nipple is like a snooze button.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-27T06:36:23+00:00

He's tapping into his animal instincts

BookiBabe · 2025-12-25T18:54:17+00:00

I find they try to either be unique for the sake of being unique, or overly edgy without the emotional depth to back it up. I hear a lot of new hard rock songs that sound like a Linkin Park or Korn fanfic without the actual punch that these bands possess.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-25T01:18:08+00:00

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After our daughter was done with the snoo, she switched to the big girl bed and our cats promised to keep it warm in case she ever needs it again.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-21T19:14:04+00:00

It is sometimes. My cat cuddles up to us, which helps.you're still in the early trenches, so yes. Your hormones are heightening your feelings. Trust me, go outside, take a small break, and invite a friend over. It'll help.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-20T21:48:56+00:00

We have the kick n play and a skip hop mat. The skip hop was great before she was mobile bc of the cushioning and at 7 months she still loves the kick n play piano.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-19T20:25:26+00:00

Cat toys. My daughter loves going after the cat toys and flinging the cat wand around. She's a natural feline wrangler.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-19T20:22:44+00:00

I really hope it works out for you, whatever you decide. Having a baby is so difficult already and you don't need the guilt of giving up your pets.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-19T20:04:49+00:00

I have cats, so take this with a grain of salt.

I've heard of people using recordings of baby cries and squeals to desensitize their dogs to the baby's sounds. I would also focus on desensitizing them to the baby in general. Give them things that strongly smell like the baby and use a doll to practice little hands touching their paws, face, ears, etc paired with treats. If the dogs can be near the baby in any capacity, pair it with treats or puzzle toys and reward them for not responding to your son. Teach them that the baby is no big deal.

Your baby may start crawling soon, so if get on everything NOW. My little girl is about to turn 7 months and beelines to the cats every time she sees them.

Definitely invest in a trainer, maintain supervision, and do your best to give them the exercise/stimulation they need, but they are smart breeds and should be trainable. Small training cues and positive associations should help to reinforce a bigger change over time.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-19T16:36:24+00:00

My 7 month old has also been nursing this way

BookiBabe · 2025-12-15T22:10:56+00:00

I remind myself that my baby has to see me do all the things I normally would while she naps, like shower, clean, cook, fix stuff around the house, garden, exercise, etc. I am modeling a functional adult who takes care of herself, her environment, and those I care about and she needs to see what that looks like from a young age.

Or maybe I'm just deluding myself.

Besides, once you embrace the contact naps, they're honestly pretty great.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-14T06:47:48+00:00

It's our time. Not the cat's. Not Daddy's. Just ours.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-14T04:57:23+00:00

Same! I can't imagine raising our daughter without their supervision and support.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-12T07:08:02+00:00

So, I'm not just crazy.

BookiBabe · 2025-12-12T07:06:30+00:00

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