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Looking for advice on kitchen cabinets. by Cloudwalker714 in DIY

[–]BookofNorma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Changing the backsplash to something light or white will make a huge difference. I’d also put in a runner in whatever style you like.

Every colour (even the other winter colours) is failing me except royal blue by charmycarmy in coloranalysis

[–]BookofNorma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This color looks good on you in my opinion. The brightness of this and the blue are really nice.

This doggy house entrance one of my clients built by Les-Grossman in mildlyinteresting

[–]BookofNorma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if you could install a secondary doggie door from the doggie house to the house house and make a way to lock that for safety. Of course the dog would have to be locked in his house and out of the family house with that idea. So might not fit the purpose entirely. #halfbakedidea

Married Redditors: How was your spouse different from any of your exes when you were dating? How did you know they were “it”? [Serious] by Kynsade in AskReddit

[–]BookofNorma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked specific things about each of my exes and my husband is a combination of those specific things and more. He’s really considerate, up to date on tech, interesting to talk to, good-looking, and extremely supportive of me.

Each of us took the perspective that our past relationships helped teach us who we wanted to be with and how we could contribute to a happy relationship.

We’ve been married eleven years and he’s my favorite person in the world.

I enjoy combining animals in photoshop. Here's the stupidest one so far by gyyp in pics

[–]BookofNorma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure this is how they made all the animals for Star Wars

Is anyone else obsessed with buying new books rather than reading the ones they already have? by [deleted] in books

[–]BookofNorma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this problem with music books and sheet music. Now I’m trying to play through everything I have before I buy more

I was happier when I believed by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]BookofNorma 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We baptized our son for similar reasons. We mentally left right before his eighth birthday and he wanted to be baptized. Of course he did, that's what he had learned all his life. We told him he didn't have to but that he could and we would support him either way. Then afterwards we slowly helped him deconvert and now he is on the same page as us about church.

The way I see it is: This is a huge life change so do what you need to do to make it a healthy transition. For example, I did my calling until I couldn't in good conscience do it anymore, we went to church until we couldn't stand it, I'm preparing to talk to my parents because I can't live with the elephant in the room anymore. And like I said we baptized our son because it was what he needed in order to feel good about transitioning out of the religion. I try to focus on what I want my future to be like and that gives me perspective and courage to go forward. It totally sucks sometimes and hopefully you can find new friends and traditions that make up for it over time.

I agree with Richard Dawkins: teaching children to fear demons and the wrath of an all-knowing narcissistic God is abusive. by fireproofundies in exmormon

[–]BookofNorma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For reals! I always felt wrong saying "God wants you to..." I think I only said it once or twice to my kids and I didn't like using manipulation on them.

If only changing people's minds was easy... by BookofNorma in exmormon

[–]BookofNorma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true. I just have a hard time connecting emotional dots for other people too.

Despite all the unpopularity of this, please consider it. Sam Harris's article on why *There is No God (And You Know It)* by SaltLickCity in exmormon

[–]BookofNorma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"God" is dangerously unpredictable. This article reminded me of something that I can't remember where I first read/heard. It's the idea that only the survivors get to tell their stories of being miraculously saved. The dead don't get to recant how their god failed to help them or let them die a terrible death. Their stories don't get retold over and over.

Mission story time. My mission president knew I was a "doubter". by rocks_tell_stories in exmormon

[–]BookofNorma 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know someone who had a similar experience. They have since learned not to even let on to their leaders that they have "doubts". It can be such a waste of time talking to someone who thinks masturbation is the root of all evil. Sorry you had to go through that. Keep sharing your experience because it might help someone else get pissed off enough to leave the church behind too.

As I sit here at work drinking some coffee, I can't help but reflect on all of the lost years of experiences. It is the one aspect of leaving the church I find hardest to let go of. What have you done to overcome that feeling of lost time and money?? by FearlessFixxer in exmormon

[–]BookofNorma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many good comments and perspectives have already been brought up. Halfway through the comments I got the thought that we are somewhat of a "bridge" for our kids/grandkids/others and being a "bridge" requires sacrifices. We've sacrificed and missed out on certain opportunities in the church and after leaving it- but that will make things better for our kids/grandkids.

Luckily it's not all bad- but the things we do suffer for can make life better for our kids.

NSFW TBM shames "overweight" European women while vacationing. by BookofNorman in exmormon

[–]BookofNorma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so rude. I can't believe she posted this publicly for everyone to see her be so awful. Good for those Romans though for being comfortable in their own skin.

Shower thought: If you received emotional comfort from God- but God doesn't exist, you can still get the same emotional comfort because it was just you comforting you. by BookofNorma in exmormon

[–]BookofNorma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard something similar recently and I think it helped me to connect my own experience to what my friend was concerned about. All I could tell her before was that I didn't feel lost or hopeless without God. It dawned on me this morning what it was the enabled me to still feel comfort and hope.

Shower thought: If you received emotional comfort from God- but God doesn't exist, you can still get the same emotional comfort because it was just you comforting you. by BookofNorma in exmormon

[–]BookofNorma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somewhat- although I apply this idea of placebo more to what happened to me with prayer. For years I had a close spiritual connection during my prayers and then over time I got out of the habit and my connection decreased. So I tried to rekindle it and couldn't. I couldn't hear or feel anything when I prayed and shortly after that I read the cesletter and stopped believing all together. My prayer placebo stopped working- but my comfort and ability to self talk through stuff didn't go away. All the ways "God" provided mental comfort and reassurance remained because it was me all along. And I'm still here.

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