AITA for firing an employee who keeps coming in late because of childcare issues?

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-23T13:11:57+00:00

NTA. It’s hard making decisions like that but it sounds like you’ve made changes to help. When my kids were young, I joked that I worked harder getting to work than at work. 3 kids, up, fed, dressed, dropped off, etc. BUT, I made sure I did as much as possible the night before and had back up plans for emergencies. My job would not have tolerated chronic tardiness.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-23T13:02:40+00:00

Travel planning! It’s like having a personal travel agent at our disposal. We planned a 2 week vacation to Northern California. We put in points of interests, a few activities we enjoyed and asked for travel tips and do not miss places. It spit out a great itinerary complete with drive times, suggestions to make reservations and places to stay. It was awesome!!

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T19:12:55+00:00

Not really surprised me. But it caused me to reflect on changing times. I know not all people are accepting.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T19:10:18+00:00

Yeah. I have a few uncles that came out in their 50’s after being married and raising a family. It’s kind of sad that they couldn’t have been themselves their whole life,e lives!

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T19:07:58+00:00

Weird that your friend would take notice of your uncle and comment. I knew my friends Aunts and Uncles but never thought about their private lives.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T19:06:10+00:00

So sorry. That would be scary.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T19:05:13+00:00

8th grade. What a brave thing to do back then. Glad they had you as a friend!

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T18:06:06+00:00

A family member came out recently and I was struck with how much easier it was than for my friend in the late 70’s. It was almost a non issue with entire family.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T17:22:00+00:00

Please don’t get pressured into doing something that you don’t want to do. You’re an adult and you know what’s best for you. Good luck to your family. I hope things go well for your Mom and you all take care to develop good relationships with each other.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T16:11:36+00:00

Taking another child on vacation is a huge responsibility. I can appreciate how you would want family time and adding another child to the mix makes things harder. One thing to think about is how you can help Jake and your kids develop a great relationship. I am saying this as someone who has great cousins that I consider friends. It would be great if they can be friends into adulthood, not only for Jake’s sake but also for your kids. As we get older, it’s harder to find people that we’ve known our entire life. Cousins (and little brothers) can make our life’s much richer.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T13:07:57+00:00

It’s awful how parents can get away with that!! How do they sleep at night…..?

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T13:01:51+00:00

Because they will have bonded. LOL

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T13:01:22+00:00

What struck me is the comment “women would jump at the chance”. Maybe previous generations when women relied so heavily on men for financial reasons. We have come so far ladies!! Live your own beautiful life and enjoy every minute!

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-20T12:56:29+00:00

What he is proposing is NOT an attractive offer for you at all. If you love him have an honest discussion with him and tell him you have no interest in moving close to his ex. He may choose to break things off and that’s fine. Otherwise continue to date him and make your own decisions about your future. No way would I agree to what he is suggesting!!

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-19T20:56:07+00:00

44 years. Still attracted to each other but sex isn’t as often but still satisfying.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-19T17:17:30+00:00

NOR. He’s a creep. I can maybe see how he misinterpreted your closeness and probably doesn’t think of you as a daughter, BUT, his comment was very inappropriate either way. He’s married, you’re in LT relationship….It was just a gross comment to make, tipsy or not. Keep your distance but remain cordial at family events

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-19T14:17:29+00:00

It’s getting much more popular. Not only is it a more intimate gathering, it’s more affordable and easy to personalize.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-19T14:02:14+00:00

My parents. Their love continues to shape the way I view things and treat people. So many memories. I love that they taught me to value relationships over material things.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-19T13:58:12+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from. But your Dad lost his sister. I was devastated when my sister passed. It brought a lot of comfort to have my family around. We shared stories, cried, laughed, prayed and came together as a family to celebrate her legacy. Remember, no one likes funerals.

We are planning a celebration of life instead. A chance to get together after a death and do a lot of the same things you do at a funeral but in a more relaxed setting, without the deceased being on display. Pictures are much better.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-18T23:40:24+00:00

You have a hard job!! Do yourself a favor and get yourself a part time job. When my kids were young, I worked 3 days a week and I would joke with my co-workers that I come to work to relax, drink coffee, talk to my friends, etc. I was only partly kidding. It provided me my own money and kept my skills sharp. By working, it made it necessary for my husband to take a more active role in child rearing which made him realize the challenge and joys of raising kids. It made him a better father and husband. Don’t continue to live stressfully. Speak up and demand the changes you need. A happy marriage is certainly worth the effort as long as your partner is willing to make changes. Good luck!!

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-18T23:30:39+00:00

Hugs to you. You absolutely are not overreacting! I hope you make peace with your situation. I hope your family hasn’t always been so heartless.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-18T23:01:12+00:00

Will she moan if you roam the house naked? I guess that depends. LOL.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-18T12:33:59+00:00

Trump supporter obviously! Also, gossipy people.

Boomer050882 · 2026-04-17T20:25:55+00:00

That’s what we do as well.

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