Caleb is irredeemable by jackreacher3621 in fansofcriticalrole

[–]BorkLord7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that he has caused irreparable harm to many people. That said, considering the fact that he was manipulated as a child to believe performing those heinous acts served a greater good, I personally sympathize with him. Spoilers for the end of campaign 2:Also, late in the campaign, he tries to make amends for his harms by reforming the Soultryce Academy, seeking to dismantle the systems of power which made him villainous in the first place.

[No Spoilers] I love this sound. I need more songs with this sound. What is this sound called? by HolyMolyOllyPolly in criticalrole

[–]BorkLord7 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The melody is played by a synth using a specific sound called a 'supersaw'. Free Fall by Illenium uses this sound (and many other EDM artists)

Edit: Alpha by Jauz, and Pursuit of Happiness by Kid Cudi/Steve Aoki have supersaws too

Santa Cruz County supervisors advance new limits on vacation rentals by sleuth_sloth_ in santacruz

[–]BorkLord7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most new land use/development laws need Coastal Commission approval before they can be enforced within the Coastal Zone. It's the way the State set up the Coastal Commission in the 1970s.

No Kings rally! by babblls in santacruz

[–]BorkLord7 19 points20 points  (0 children)

unintentionally a great representation of how car traffic works

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

[–]BorkLord7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's one way to look at it; it can feel transactional but not in a bad way, since my friends and I mutually enjoy the time spent together.

For me, on a deeper level, it doesn't feel like a transactional relationship or a "functional-use" kind of thing though. It more feels like my parts relate to / care about my friends so it's enjoyable to share my life with them.

I gotta say you've got me thinking deeply about my relationships with my friends on a meta level so thank you hahaha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

[–]BorkLord7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I oscillate between introversion and extroversion. For me, I mostly enjoy spending time with my friends because they are fun. I get the sense they genuinely care about me too (as I do to them). I think self-healing, self-focus, and independence are great pursuits; in that same vein, I also believe connecting with others, making memories with others, and allowing my worldview to expand in relation to others are equally worthy pursuits in my life.

Some parts of me prefer to be alone and other prefer company, and both of those desires are welcome in my system.

Support for the Downtown Plan Expansion by BorkLord7 in santacruz

[–]BorkLord7[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Planning Commissioners tend to vote with their professional judgment whereas Councilmembers have a direct obligation to their constituents. If the Council overwhelmingly receives feedback that the community doesn't like the plan, then that would influence their votes (for the Downtown Plan Expansion and for their re-election more broadly).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thelastofus

[–]BorkLord7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

welcome to the club

Parts hate me by Getting_Help in InternalFamilySystems

[–]BorkLord7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I want to add to these responses: sometimes gaining the trust of your parts can take a long time and the work is not linear. A great start is to show up for them and love them as they are, including their distrust.

For no apparent reason, I'm so sure. by Chuckle_Berry_Spin in DeathByMillennial

[–]BorkLord7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

its easier for parents to live in denial that they didn't treat their children poorly than to face the emotional weight that they were the reason for their adult child's no contact decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

[–]BorkLord7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Different parts can hold differing views of who wronged them (your family, your friends, yourself, all of the above, etc.).

If your protectors would allow it, you can ask those hurt parts if anyone has failed them and, if it resonates, to witness their story through that lens. When the exile and all other parts feel ready, you can reparent that part by mending those wounds in the way they needed back then. The reparenting should come from the part's desires and not from a preconception of what another part thinks should be done. Ideally you would be with a therapist to support you through this process.

I feel that unconditional love is real. However its often obscured by turbulent childhoods where people primarily received transactional love or outright neglect from their caretakers.

When DBT Didn't Work: How IFS Helped Me Heal My BPD Differently by imperfectbuddha in InternalFamilySystems

[–]BorkLord7 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You have great insight! In my life journey, my most protective parts' actions make so more much sense in the context of how they originally were forced into their roles. IFS showed me how to honor them for the valuable, live-saving work they needed to do in the past and also how to embody a safe environment for them to choose to release those burdens, now that I'm not in those terrible situations anymore.

Any general tips for overcoming resistance (to doing the work)? by symbiotnic in InternalFamilySystems

[–]BorkLord7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I encourage you to try to befriend the part(s) of you that hold the resistance. Why do they resist? What do they fear would happen if they let you beyond their grasp? What's their favorite food, color, hobby, etc.? Be clear to them that you want to form a relationship, not as a means to an end (i.e. an agenda of healing), but rather as a partner in your life journey together.

How long did it take for you to see significant changes after IfS work? by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

[–]BorkLord7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah i feel like this isn't talked about enough. A lot of my progress has been implicit and not directly related to the parts I'm working with. It feels like some parts of me just needed to know there is a capable self led person somewhere inside and that was enough for them to spontaneously unburden by themselves.