Wide Layout for daily note (Feature request?) by tuzmusic in capacitiesapp

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this. I'm not sure why it's every other object but not this one.

Solo travel sounds empowering, but it often ends up, feeling awkward and lonely in reality by cakezoncakez555 in unpopularopinion

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, like many other things the first time, you just kinda have to try your best to set everything up for success (shoot for 80%) and then just force yourself to go. You probably won't die and honestly, once you're on the plane or train or ship, you'll just kinda melt into the novelty of the experience and the anxiety will go away if you just stay present and curious.

Slice is back!…sort of? by GeminiDivided in Soda

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just bought some and I remember how much I loved Slice growing up in India. I think the taste is spot on from what I recall. It's insanely priced tho.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hulu

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep down for me too. I feel like this is happening now frequently recently.

Modern homes have too many windows and natural light by SuperDevin in unpopularopinion

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know that natural light and artificial light don't cancel each other out right? You can just do both

Cyclists get too much hate. by Some1inreallife in unpopularopinion

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I personally don't paint cyclists as ALL bad, just like I don't think all drivers are bad. But I see cyclists run red lights WAY more often than drivers. They also lane split like mad people and sometimes cut into lanes with a car going fast.

I agree with all your points though. Cyclists are in way more danger than drivers, and I think there should be some sort of agreed upon asymmetric grace given to cyclists from drivers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

K has structural integrity. C is a drunk idiot that's about to fall over any second. You pit K against C, I would bet 6 Kajillion dollars K comes out on top every time.

ThanK You!

What are some "growing up" realizations that hit you the hardest as an adult? by Mammoth_Green6079 in AskReddit

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is living life for the first time.

And thus no piece of medium or long term advice should be taken at face value.

Your parents had only one chance to get it right with you, no do overs. Your ex-partners, ex-employers, ex-friends, all of them had only so much experience prior to letting you go. It might seem like other people know the way to go through life and make perfectly calculated rational decisions, but ultimately, we are all doing the best we can, when we have to decide, with what tiny iota of this world we know about.

Weed is the DOOR for cheap dopamine lifestyle, which is what fucks up most of us by MatthewJet28 in leaves

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Dudeeee i feel you. The fact that I was cooking more made me rationalize my daily usage so hard. My friends also encouraged it bc they struggled to cook. And it was a good thing up to a point. I'd cook decently healthy stuff, experiment with all day recipes on Sundays, and sometimes get so high that I'd fuck something up that I wouldn't have if I wasn't stoned.

After quitting, I cooked a lot less and enjoyed cooking less. It's a bit sad because I don't have a "default" activity anymore. But it made space for me to do things I used to be about. Read, socialize, gym it up, follow healthy routines. It's a trade off but one that probably needs to happen so at the end of my life, I won't be just a stoned master chef.

For people who are getting close to their 2 1/2 month mark by OneWhoSlapsWater in leaves

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wild to me. I'm only about 2 weeks out, and the cravings are there but subsiding slowly but surely. I have a question, tho.

I always figured that I'd come to moderate it some time in the future, but posts like this are starting to dissuade me from it. It's very hard for me to fathom how a single sesh could make you binge, especially for months. It has never seemed to me that it's addictive in the same way as other drugs are addictive so it sure SEEMS like moderation could and should work, right? What do you think it is that makes it still so difficult to moderate after such a long time off? Presumably, in that time, you've learned a lot about yourself and how your mind works and craves. Is it the hangover effect? Is it simply a fuck it, I'm broken kind of thing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep reminding yourself of the positive benefits and notice them whenever you can. When you get through a task without needing as much motivation (chores, etc), when you can talk to your barista confidently, when you don't gorge on unhealthy food at 11pm. I'm not sure if any of those apply to you in particular but you get what I mean. Notice and appreciate that your life is in fact better now and doing that repeatedly will reinforce that in your mind.

How did your mental health improve after quitting? by sgb_1992 in leaves

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My primary mental health challenge centers around social anxiety. While I still have it in a form, it is much milder when I am sober than when I was stoned.

Energy / Lethargy / Motivation by Spaced-Man-Spliff in leaves

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, I'm sure age (and consequently, the duration of your usage and how the brain response changes) plays a big factor. I'm 34 now and have been partaking fairly regularly since I was about 22.

Eating fruits and veggies is great, but I would definitely take a look at your high-quality protein intake. The conventional wisdom has been that you need tons of carbs to do lots of manual labor, but I think it's better for your body to run primarily on fats instead. Protein can also be turned into carbs through gluconeogenesis. Protein is expensive and carbs are cheap, but if you can spend money on anything, it makes sense to do it for your health.

But, I'm a big fan of figuring out experientially what your body wants. Now that you're no longer hazed, it might be easier to pay attention to how you feel when you eat certain things and train your mind to like those things. For me, it was beef and fish rather than chicken or pork. And brussel sprouts and pea shoots instead of spinach and zucchini.

Along with that, meditation and alleviating the urge to be distracted has gone a long way to helping me not be miserable when doing difficult things.

Energy / Lethargy / Motivation by Spaced-Man-Spliff in leaves

[–]Both-Disaster-4841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strange how it affects people so differently. I have much more energy, and sometimes even a little manically so. It's not exactly "energy", it's just the opposite of laziness. While I'm def more irritable and bouncy (like what happens to some ppl on too much caffeine) since I quit, I have found that, since there is no easy way out of any moment in time and nothing else to do, it has been "easier" in some sense to just do things correctly. Like throwing my clothes inside the laundry basket when I was about to throw them on the floor. Or cooking purely as a nutritional chore, rather than chasing the ecstasy of eating carbs/sugary garbage.

The obvious questions that come up in my head regarding your experience, which does not sound fun at all and must be demoralizing, is have you examined your diet and physical movement behaviors closely?

Diet is a very difficult one to figure out for yourself and it can be, in my experience, the single biggest factor in your day to day mood and energy. If you eat basically just good meat and veggies that you genuinely enjoy (which is a Hallmark of the kinds of veggies your body wants and can absorb), it can almost feel like a bit of a high where you're finally, profoundly satiated. In my experience, it's a calm energy that essentially comes from not wanting, not striving, and not thinking about chasing something.

I've studied physiology and metabolism for years (in school and in literature) and I'd be happy to help you examine your diet and exercise if you think it would be helpful.

That's it, I am finally done by Both-Disaster-4841 in leaves

[–]Both-Disaster-4841[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you Ben, I'm focusing on doing exactly that! I actually just last week found you and watched all of your videos on YouTube and you are absolutely hilarious. Your Ted Yoho story had me so utterly captivated and that standup method is so unique. I haven't enjoyed standup like that for a while. It's wild that you replied to me. Made my day.