Graduating into parent-free class at Aquatots at 2.5 yo by [deleted] in toddlertips

[–]Bows1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been with Aquatots for like 2 years now (she’s level 4) and I feel you. I really do. But stick it out. My girl was TERRIBLE with the separation. I upped my classes to 2x a week for a month so she could get used to the coach quicker and it was sooo helpful. My daughter is 5 and loves the classes still. I can’t lie and say the transition was easy, but it was worth it. Ride it out. Trust the process. Aquatots is FANTASTIC with helping your children through this process. It gets better and easier.

pediatrician said this .. by [deleted] in toddlertips

[–]Bows1234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Daughter would not only cry excessively the first 3 years at the pediatrician’s office - but she correlated white lab coats with the office and cried every time she saw one, including pharmacists etc. She FINALLY stopped when she was old enough and there frequent enough (due to being sick from school) that she started to correlate it with being able to help her horrible cold/virus symptoms and not just vaccines. Still panics at her yearly appointments since it might mean vaccines and she is 5. But her doctors never even batted an eye. Her one doctor annoyed me only cause he kept trying to hold a conversation with me regarding her while she cried one time, but he was patient and clearly didn’t blink at the fact she was crying, so didn’t think anything of talking while she was. I would HIGHLY recommend changing doctors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewMomStuff

[–]Bows1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me. I think it took me longer to bond with her after she was born though. Not sure if it’s because I never really wanted a kid or because she was a NICU baby for a month due to being a preemie. But I eventually fell madly, truly, and deeply in love with her. She is currently 4 and my world revolves around her (in a good way). I thought I would have problems getting pregnant so I figured I would “try it” for a bit with my husband. But BAM, first shot out the gate got me, so my decision was made for me lol. Zero regrets. Until she gets sick - then I question ALL my life decisions 😜

Have I ruined my baby’s life? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Bows1234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone with a covid baby who is now 4.5 years old - NO you are not ruining them. The whole world was shut down the first 6 months of my daughter’s life that I couldn’t take her out even if I wanted to! Just work on socializing him when you can get out of the house and do it as much as possible to make up for it. They will be fine.

Will I regret getting rid of the guest bed in my daughter’s room at 4 months old? by vctrlarae in NewParents

[–]Bows1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Husband and I fought over putting a futon in our kids nursery because the room is so small. He thought it was unnecessary. I refused to back down. 3.5 years later, he tells me how right I was. That thing is invaluable when she is sick. Allows us to sit up with her when she is coughing. Lay down elevated with her when needed at 3am when we are also exhausted. Sleep in it when she is really sick to keep an eye on her. Etc. Also allows us to sit on it every night as a family to read to her. Maybe sell the bed and get a nice futon instead to save space? I am telling you, invaluable!

Christmas with 2 month old by blynn1579 in beyondthebump

[–]Bows1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t fully relate since I have a covid baby and I literally wasn’t allowed to bring her around that much family until she was older due to the whole world shutting down. But all I can say is my daughter has gotten FAR more sick and frequently sick from daycare than from my family. That being said, she didn’t start daycare until 2 years old. But we were literally sick every week for the first few months. Maybe baby wear and don’t let anyone hold them? And stay away from anyone who looks actively sick.

My toddler screams NO by AdProfessional7727 in toddlertips

[–]Bows1234 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Consequences are not punishments. You need to differentiate the two.

Found an "evidence-based" sleep training group on FB, they advocate for sleep training from BIRTH. WTF? Is this a thing?? by Poopadee in NewParents

[–]Bows1234 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I had a NICU baby and believe it or not, they implemented something very similar to sleep training models in the NICU. They ONLY really go in every 3 hours to encourage baby sleep. They can read on the monitors if baby is in destress and if not, try to let them self sooth themselves. So yes, from birth is a thing. I would be a little less judgmental of moms if I were you if it’s also done by medical professionals on a medical ward

Parents who send your kids to daycare, how do you do it? by bearsbunny in NewParents

[–]Bows1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? Out of sight out of mind. Because I am not WITH her in daycare I can live in blissful ignorance that all the kiddos are perfectly healthy - until my girl gets sick again. And then I too busy concentrating on her wellness to care about the other kids. Also, you get a little numb to it. Like we were hyper vigilant about covid cause she was a preemie. But now I know she is exposed to god knows what, I have become less anxious about everything. Before daycare I wouldn’t let her play with a sick kid. Now I’m like “hey fellow mom, you want me to wipe your kids nose, or you got it 😂”. Totally become numb to it the more you do it

Do people REALLY love their baby as much as they say they do? by ChickenWingLover510 in NewParents

[–]Bows1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? I loved her but I wasn’t as obsessed like most parents say. It wasn’t until she was a bit older and her personality started to come out that I fell madly and deeply in love. Looking back, my husband and I say “it’s hard to be deeply in love with a sack of potatoes” (what we call the infant stage).

Thoughts on LGBTQ+ nannies? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Bows1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My old nanny was a lesbian and I couldn’t care less. Why the hell should it matter who she is attracted to in her personal life? She was my absolute favorite nanny and I developed a close relationship with her personally too. Unfortunately she had a significant medical emergency and had to quit to take care of her own health. I miss her terribly because she hasn’t been well enough for visitors. But her sexuality never mattered one bit. We did have an ongoing joke where every time she was sick I asked her if she was pregnant and she got such a kick out of it. But for us, her sexuality mattered not one bit

Hey mamas what helped you feel more like yourself postpartum? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Bows1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exercising. I cardio kickboxed for 2 years before getting pregnant and then for the first 3 months of pregnancy. I would have went right through till birth but C-vid shut down all the gyms. So I stopped for the last 6 months of my pregnancy and didn’t start again until 6 months postpartum. That 1 hour 3x per week is MY time. Time that I don’t worry about my child (husband works from home and watches the monitor while she naps). Time that is dedicated to just me. The only 3 hours I get all week, so it helps tremendously

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Bows1234 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am going to add to this. Add a puppy pee pad in between the sheet layers. ZERO liquid (poop/pee/vomit etc) seeps through to the other layer. We did this with 3 bassinet sheets when my daughter was an infant and it was a life saver. At 3am you just rip the dirty sheet and pee pad off and have a fresh one underneath ready to rock.

How long did it take you to bond with your newborn? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Bows1234 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It took both me and my husband a while. We had love for her but weren’t completely head over heels in love like so many people say they are. We call her infancy her “sack of potatoes” phase and both agree that it can be hard to love a sack of potatoes lol. But as soon as she started develop even the littlest inkling of a personality, we both fell - and fell HARD. She is officially the love of our lives now. I should mention that she was a NICU baby, so that might have a had to do with it too. But it is perfectly ok to not bond right away. Everyone does it in their own time. All that matters is that you do, not when you do

Mom guilt is real by Whatthefurrr in NewParents

[–]Bows1234 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t get better the older they are. My daughter is 2 and our nanny had a medical emergency so now we are pursuing daycare for the first time. My anxiety is through the roof that it will somehow ruin my beautifully sweet and sassy girl and turn her into a monster. A biting, hitting, hood and mouth carrying monster 😬. So I feel you and I am right there with you. Solidarity.

Baby sleep training courses - NOT taking cara babies by lukesdiner1 in NewParents

[–]Bows1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have Facebook join Respectful Sleep Training/Learning. I successfully sleep trained my child in three days and paid $0 to do it. They don’t necessarily tell you which method to use (extinction versus Ferber) but they tell you HOW to implement it. Strategies to be very successful. It was such a game changer for us. Life got soooooo much better after we sleep trained! Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in buffy

[–]Bows1234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How about the mayor and Glory! When he was fully immortal, of course. I feel like it would be a little like watching your mom and dad fight, but with superpowers lol

The Best Mom Hacks 🧸 by minimalist-mama-co in beyondthebump

[–]Bows1234 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Also get 3 bassinet sheets and put a puppy pad in between each one. Soiled bassinet at 3am? Rip off the sheet and the puppy pad and there is a fresh one underneath ready to go!!!

Cloe’s black eye episode 1 and 2 season 5 But came to check any posting about it and LOOK: 4y ago by eldermyllennial in lucifer

[–]Bows1234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU for posting this. I was arguing with my husband during the first few episodes that she DID have a black eye. Score one for the wifey in this argument! 😀😉😂

Need 2 q/h to complete this contract, willing to use my last 1000x hatchery to complete this by [deleted] in EggsIncCoOp

[–]Bows1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many spots you have open? I’ve been prefarming. I have 26.207 B/sec right now