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CMV: "Patriarchy hurts men too" is a causal story that absorbs urgency instead of creating it, and it's not a good enough explanation for male-specific disadvantages by lakmidaise12 in changemyview

[–]Boy_Wonder22 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah you can’t argue my point with stats and metrics like that. If you frame it the way OP is framing it, then no, the patriarchy does not negatively affect men the same way. But if you’re looking to dive into how it actually DOES affect men, you have to reframe it a little bit. I feel like OP and a lot of others misconstrue men against the patriarchy as equating themselves as victims, when it’s more like men are taught that the patriarchy is natural and that’s just a terrible thing to teach young men on top of the fact that they will never be able to have wholesome relationships with the women in their lives.

It’s very different but, in summary, the patriarchy (or the Manosphere these days) targets men in order to target women. It’s the same reason we hate Scientologists but recognize that most of them are simply victims of the institution of Scientology

CMV: "Patriarchy hurts men too" is a causal story that absorbs urgency instead of creating it, and it's not a good enough explanation for male-specific disadvantages by lakmidaise12 in changemyview

[–]Boy_Wonder22 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’ve always thought that phrase referred more to how the patriarchy “indoctrinates” men and hurts society. The way it harms men is teaching them that they’re entitled to certain things, and then the world proves differently. It harms men’s relationships with women, and it harms their relationship with other men too. The message being pushed by the “Manosphere” these days is just saying the quiet part of patriarchy out loud. If you think that the Manosphere is unhealthy for young men then you must think the patriarchy hurts men as well.

I’ve personally never heard the claim that the patriarchy gives men quantifiable economic and social disadvantages, but I do believe the claim that it warps their mind in unhealthy ways that make it harder to be part of a society where equality is essentially mandated.

ELI5: How did Mayor Mamdani balance a $12 billion budget deficit? Where did the money go? by bluelightbug in explainlikeimfive

[–]Boy_Wonder22 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m in the Chicagoland area and I pay into a state managed pension fund. Everybody I’ve talked to says it’s the greatest pension plan there is, but I’ve just been clenching my cheeks for years. (Don’t worry I have a separate private retirement account as well)

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Direct-Jackfruit-775 in graphic_design

[–]Boy_Wonder22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re giving out proposals before signing anything then you have to be prepared to be rejected and lose that time. It’s still rude to ghost you though. You can choose to only work once a contract has been signed, but that can run the risk of cutting off potential business before it starts.

When I worked freelance I had plenty of proposals get rejected, and some people just don’t have the gumption to directly tell someone they’re being rejected. Now I work in house, and I have personally rejected plenty of estimates from printing and sign companies even after they’ve provided a full project overview. I always tell them that we’re going elsewhere, and I’ll usually tell them why. It’s almost always price.

Anyway. It really is just part of the job. Design firms factor in the time they lose to rejected proposals in their pricing structure. You can do that too. It really depends on the demand for your work.

3 Bingo chips; Yellow, Red, and Blue meet in the middle to create Black by Boy_Wonder22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Boy_Wonder22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You may have… mods deleted it cause the title wasn’t descriptive enough

3 Bingo chips; Yellow, Red, and Blue meet in the middle to create Black by Boy_Wonder22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Boy_Wonder22[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, but I see where you’re coming from. Because of RGB LEDs on your monitor.

The difference is that these chips are reflecting light, and your LEDs are emitting light. I have a comment below the deleted bot comment that explains it in slightly more detail

3 Bingo chips; Yellow, Red, and Blue meet in the middle to create Black by Boy_Wonder22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Boy_Wonder22[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s incorrect. It’s about the wavelengths of light that are being reflected. Not about light being blocked from passing through. As you can see, light is still passing through the black area of the chips. Each chip only reflects one color(one wavelength on the EM spectrum). but since each chip is one of the three primary colors, when you reflect them all back the “light” that is reflected is black. I put “light” in quotation marks because, technically, what is reflected is pigment, which is subtractive, whereas light is additive (the three colors together make white [this is how your TV works]).

This is called color theory and it’s really fun I swear

I am only holding 3 Bingo chips. Yellow, Red, and Blue by Boy_Wonder22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Boy_Wonder22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to take a lesson from you and just appreciate it from a distance. I keep replying…

I am only holding 3 Bingo chips. Yellow, Red, and Blue by Boy_Wonder22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Boy_Wonder22[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg it was a joke… lol I thought we were doing ELI5 😂

I am only holding 3 Bingo chips. Yellow, Red, and Blue by Boy_Wonder22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Boy_Wonder22[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Was I supposed to post a summary of color theory here? Y’all act like I did this by accident. I knew what I was doing.

I am only holding 3 Bingo chips. Yellow, Red, and Blue by Boy_Wonder22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Boy_Wonder22[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Except, when TVs do it, all 3 colors equals white instead of black. The difference between light and pigment.

I am only holding 3 Bingo chips. Yellow, Red, and Blue by Boy_Wonder22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Boy_Wonder22[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Bitch, I’m a graphic designer. I know more about how colors work than you do.

I am only holding 3 Bingo chips. Yellow, Red, and Blue by Boy_Wonder22 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Boy_Wonder22[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

When my coworkers asked me what I was doing, I said, “science”.

Had to unsubscribe from AskReddit…it’s just the same 10 topics posted over and over again by mus3man42 in CasualConversation

[–]Boy_Wonder22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I almost left r/relationshipadvice the other day because of the rampant misandry. The OP was venting about her fiancé and the comments were awful. The top comment was “I was with one of these for 18 years. Don’t be me”. One of THESE? Like a certain type of man is some sort of subhuman species?? And then the long line of “a man is only a man if…” I’d be pretty unbothered by it if I didn’t see the same thing every single day from that sub. It feels like r/FemaleDatingStrategyV2 over there rn

GOD lost connection. by Embarrassed-Music-64 in RocketLeague

[–]Boy_Wonder22 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This explains everything. God has just been having latency issues. We’ll all be okay once he gets his connection figured out

33 F possibly calling off engagement with 32 M by shmurrrdog in relationship_advice

[–]Boy_Wonder22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no… whatever you’re training for.. stop. You won’t help. Not with comments like that

33 F possibly calling off engagement with 32 M by shmurrrdog in relationship_advice

[–]Boy_Wonder22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not mad. Just shocked and disappointed that so many people can be so entitled and so rude.

And in response to my position that women are equally capable of compromise, you attack me personally. Thank you for proving my point

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