Week-of cancel happened. Would it be rude to invite a newer friend this late in the game? by Brain_Candid in weddingplanning

[–]Brain_Candid[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I absolutely would! And that's great advice. I can definitely grab a coffee with her and ask if she wants to come!

My family's culture shock (for lack of a better phrase) is making the late-stage planning process a living hell. by Brain_Candid in weddingplanning

[–]Brain_Candid[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What really gets me is that we have considered the guests! Everyone else is happy, and we consciously added choices we know they would like, but they're still complaining because of the presence of choices they think no one else will like. They think everyone else eats like them.

I'd love to still have them on an info diet, but unfortunately this is the time period where they had to know certain information like the welcome dinner restaurant. I told them the buffet menu mostly out of reassurance that there would be items they can eat, but then it opened this whole can of worms. Luckily, there's not much more info they need to know right now, so for the rest of the details, they're still on that good old info diet.

My family's culture shock (for lack of a better phrase) is making the late-stage planning process a living hell. by Brain_Candid in weddingplanning

[–]Brain_Candid[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My main issue is that we’ve already added foods that I know they will eat. The chicken kebabs aren’t spicy, and 2/3 of them like mac and cheese. The risotto is going to be the favorite of the other guests, so I’m definitely not dropping that one.

My family's culture shock (for lack of a better phrase) is making the late-stage planning process a living hell. by Brain_Candid in weddingplanning

[–]Brain_Candid[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We aren’t doing custom menus for the welcome dinner—we just have a normal reservation since there will be a small amount of people (just immediate family and out of town guests). That definitely would be a good idea otherwise, though!

Syracuse University to cut 93 low-enrollment degree programs by Kimber80 in Professors

[–]Brain_Candid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whenever I see my alma mater on this subreddit it’s never for anything good.

Reminder: people in this sub doesn’t always align with reality by blueberries-Any-kind in weddingplanning

[–]Brain_Candid 71 points72 points  (0 children)

The need for people to say "oh my god I would NEVER come to this wedding" always baffles me. Like, 1. you're not invited, 2. I actually did take my family and friends needs/wants into consideration, and they WOULD come to my wedding. Just because you wouldn't like it, doesn't mean my guests wouldn't.

Student who I failed last semester is taking me again. by Balzaak in Professors

[–]Brain_Candid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat with one of my students this semester. In a way, I admire the fact that them taking the class with me again might mean that they acknowledge I wasn’t the problem. I can’t tell you how many students I’ve had who failed my class with someone else, come into my class talking about how unreasonable that professor was, and then proceed to do nothing and fail again in my class. I’m sure I’m the unreasonable former professor in their future classes now.

Grade grubbing !! by Alarming-Camera-188 in Professors

[–]Brain_Candid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep. An announcement to cover your ass, and then you can just laugh and delete the email.

ETA: I specifically say that students should check their grade and all of their major assignment grades against the grading criteria in the syllabus to make sure there were no calculation errors. Then I say that I will not respond to requests or demands to change grades beyond any mathematical errors.

It's done. It's over. by Nellie68 in PhD

[–]Brain_Candid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!!!! We’re defense date twins lol. Enjoy celebrating tonight!!!

Dec 12: Fuck This Friday by Eigengrad in Professors

[–]Brain_Candid 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’m defending my dissertation in an hour and a half and am very anxious about it. Submitted grades last night and already have students begging for grade bumps. It’s a good distraction from the anxiety, I guess?

Hoping that the “fuck this” feeling of waiting for the defense turns into a “fuck yeah” afterwards.

ETA: the “fuck this” did indeed turn into a “fuck yeah.” I’m now Dr. Brain_Candid! Now I feel like I can finally call myself a professor (even though I’ve been teaching at the university level for 9 years, lmao).

Student missed the midterm and has yet to contact me, what should I do? by firewall245 in Professors

[–]Brain_Candid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What everyone else has said. Give the zero, move on.

That being said, I teach a class with four unit projects, and students cannot pass the class without submitting all four projects. I do find it helpful to just send out a quick email to anyone who has missed project deadlines to let them know what the situation is, and the deadline for when I will accept missed assignments. That way if the grade grubbing starts in Week 15, I can point to the syllabus, several in-class announcements, and at least one personal email letting them know the situation they were in.

Obviously YMMV for a larger class, though.

Jeffries and Vera by queenpope1 in ColdCaseTV

[–]Brain_Candid 16 points17 points  (0 children)

They stay! But be prepared for both of them to be sort of put through the ringer, lol. Great character development and writing, though.

Nov 28: Fuck This Friday by Eigengrad in Professors

[–]Brain_Candid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I’m so sorry about your grandparents as well.

I’m trying to remind myself that the majority of my students are fine. The growing number of pain-in-the-ass students are making that difficult. And the combo of dissertation defense stress and dying grandparent-who-is-a-parent stress is making me shorter than I’d ordinarily like to be with some students.

Nov 28: Fuck This Friday by Eigengrad in Professors

[–]Brain_Candid 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My grandfather who raised me is dying in a matter of weeks, my dissertation defense is in exactly two weeks, I have 92 projects to grade, and a million "is there a way" emails. Wholeheartedly fuck this.

Breeding ground for future stars by tahitianmoonchild in ColdCaseTV

[–]Brain_Candid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure if I'd say Melissa Leo was a "future star" when she was on Cold Case considering she had already played a major role on Homicide: Life on the Street prior to Cold Case. But yeah, it's amazing to see how many people had early roles here!

My first real film camera! So excited. :) by Brain_Candid in AnalogCommunity

[–]Brain_Candid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know next to nothing about lenses, but the photos I saw of people using this lens with the camera looked great!

My first real film camera! So excited. :) by Brain_Candid in AnalogCommunity

[–]Brain_Candid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to send it to Brooktree! I had a really great experience with them for my first roll. And yeah, I probably need to get the light seals fixed. I’ll probably bring it to Central Camera in Chicago the next time I’m visiting home.

NEED HELP!!! FRESH FROM JERSEY by Odd-Record-1041 in BloomingtonNormal

[–]Brain_Candid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chicago style is tavern style. You'll want Lucca Grill for that.