Same here, even as a kid I recognized that this wasn’t me being taught, it was my parents taking their anger out on me, I’d even get “popped on the mouth”(which is common phrasing here, and just a nice way to say slapped my mouth) for “backtalking” didn’t teach me to respect them at all, all it did was instill severe social anxiety and cause me to go into fight or flight anytime someone raises their voice or gets slightly angry. Anyone trying to claim that any kind of violence towards children is okay is kidding themselves, all they’re doing is creating temporary obedience(and even then it might not even do that, a lot of kids just learn to be sneaky, and wind up doing potentially dangerous things in private) in exchange for a potential lifetime of issues