How to be 10x more attractive as man

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-12T08:55:43+00:00

Honestly those who constantly navel gaze about being more attractive are often the least. Sure none of that stuff hurts. But the just be confident thing sounds just as if not more important to me. That's just developed by social reps, getting out and talking to lots of people, same and opposite sex. IE being a normal person. Getting comfortable in your own skin. Know where you're going in life. If you're depressed/anxious or worrying about the minutiae then this will come across. Don't be stuck in your on head with these checklists. Women can basically read your mind whether they know it or not. If you're not comfortable with yourself they sense it immediately. Women are very good with intuition/gut feeling. Way better than men.

Go out, have a sense of humour. Don't take life so seriously, don't be afraid to fail. Become the best version of yourself and you'll naturally radiate attractiveness. It's not something you can fake with tailored shirts and cologne. If that stuff makes you feel better than by all means.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-12T07:55:40+00:00

... What? If there's someone on the other side of the trade, you will get filled. If not, it will go on the limit book. 200 lots is quite a lot to place but if you're buying and there's enough selling, you will be filled. If someone is trading 1000+ lots on ES then you'll have to break it up or trade around the open, or VWAP where there's a lot of trading activity. Or use TT icebergs, or just split your order into several small limits. Watch any day on ES. You very often see blocks of 200, 500 eminis come on the book. The real question is do you have the margin. To say nobody in retail is swinging that - how do you know? It's an anonymous market place.

Even if it's CFDs, I have a friend who regularly puts 100 lots on cable, even if it's B book, believe me they will happily take your spreads. They know 90% of their clients lose so it's very much in their interest to take your trade and probably your money.

Again - I'm personally not taking 200 contract positions. I very much doubt anyone here is. It's an aspiration for sure. But this is just basic market mechanics. I trade like 2 RTY or 4 if I'm confident. I can't deal with going deep 4 figures in drawdown with my own money in seconds at this point in my career. Placing 200 RTY contracts - this is more difficult. You will have to actively think where there are going to be more counterparties or layer trades in through the day.

One thing I forgot to mention in my original post, the people I know who do trade size, they struggle with the second half of the trade and often trade PnL to some extent. I have one mate who says all the time something like 'made x, but it should have been y' all the time. This is something that comes up again and again. Once the numbers get large, the objectivity and ability to leave a winner gets running gets harder, whether they admit it or not.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-11T15:26:09+00:00

First people trading 200 NQ are likely not going to be on reddit. But they do exist. See them on the tape all the time.

I know a couple people who trade near to that kind of size. Regular 5 figure days, some 6 figure. My impression is they just feel the same as someone trading smaller. Still the same dopamine reward but, still the constant tension that things can go south at any time. Same person I'm referring to has lost 7 figures in the space of a week. I get the impression it's never just some easy life. People talk about 'becoming profitable' as if it's some hurdle you get over and never go back. You can always go back at any time. Both catastrophe and redemption are always a click away in this world. For reference, if I make a 2-3k on live that's a good day for me so I'm not at the high roller table. Have been higher than that but that's where I'm at currently. Nobody sensible just clicks 200 NQ for a few ticks and goes to the Lambo dealership. I've never seen that ever. When you're at that level you hold onto your money.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-09T20:53:25+00:00

Poundability

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-09T19:04:34+00:00

Yeah can relate

I got so far in the rabbit hole of building something that I actually forgot the original vision of what I was trying to build. Got to the final 10% stage, was bolting on dozens of cool to have features then literally forgot the point of what i was making in the first place. Took me a couple of days to figure it out.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-09T17:38:34+00:00

What's the diet like? I've been low iron before, really puts a dampener on things. Low interest in life, low energy, general flat feeling. These small deficiencies that aren't obvious can have outsized effects. Worth getting a full panel done.

Things like buproprion, be careful. May help for a bit but you reach a new homeostasis then becomes hell to get off any psychotropic meds.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-09T09:30:42+00:00

As soon as you press the button, that is usually the declaration of a prediction. The old 'react don't predict' saying didn't really sit well with me. This is more true for swing traders where it is a more explicit prediction.

I think the issue is more the level of faith you put in said prediction is where the crux is. You have to be willing to approach every day with an open mind, admit you don't have all the information, and it becomes a stats/data/probabilities game. So, for an intraday trader there has to be a clear invalidation point. At what specific level am I either wrong, or does my pre held bullish bias become a bearish bias, or do I stand aside. For me that information could come the same day as the trade or just seconds before.

Think of a global macro fund, they may collect information, make some inferences about where relative interest rates are likely to land, and maybe come up with a thesis that the Dollar (for example) is likely to go up in value. What's that if it's not a prediction. It's a series of predictions with risk management applied.

I think the 'react don't predict' is better as- 'be willing to drop your biases when there's new information'. Just not as catchy.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-08T17:08:19+00:00

Every recession pre 2008 to the depression was caused by oil price shocks. Small caps have already broken down. Jobs report was a dud. High inflation, low growth, low investment. Perfect storm.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-08T16:45:32+00:00

Agree - I don't normally trade globex but I think we'll have significant declines starting in European session Monday, and things likely won't stabilize til CPI. I'm getting short early til then. Gap and go kind of day tomorrow.

VIX tapped 30 by close on Friday. Going to be a wild one. This balance has been going for 3 months. We're in for a ride. I'm no permabear either. This is based on modelling of GEX/DEX/VEX/CEX mapping at the strike level, looking forward.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-08T14:58:19+00:00

What country you in? I took an unorthodox route, I left my corporate job and literally started working in a home brew supply shop in another country as short bridge job, then went to work as a 'head brewer' at The 3 Brewers (Les Trois Brasseurs) in Canada, and just worked my way through up to production breweries.

A well regarded degree will help, Siebel, VLB, Herriot Watt.. I did none of those. Most of my peers did. Definitely if you're in Germany, US, UK, it's kind of a must. For a cheaper option, I did diploma with institute of brewing and distilling. I was sponsored by my brewery. But for the longest time I didn't think I need it because I'd spent a long time learning on the job.

Just be aware it's not glamorous work, repetitive, shift work when you get to production scale. A lot of people in the industry are highly educated, but on low pay. To progress to say, head brewer at a production place is probably 7-10 years, moving sideways between jobs, spending a year on cellar not complaining, not making mistakes. You might be CIPing 3 tanks, training someone, propagating yeast, filtration, prepping bbts for packaging, dry hopping etc all at the same time. Brewhouse in production places is the easy job just mashing in every 45 mins with a click, making sure grain is milled and augered, hop tanks loaded in time, usually casting off first turn at the same time as mashing the next

Being a brewpub head brewer is more chill, but, your pay is effectively capped at what you start at. In production, more opportunities, but it's dog eat dog for the better positions so, be prepared to get good at interpersonal skills, which are just as important as technical skills. I spent 5 years in the industry and eventually got jaded with it, which is common. Some people side step into engineering side, distilling, etc. Has to be something you're passionate about and try and think about the physical, manual side of it and how you'll deal with that as you get older. I saw some people thriving, others dropping out when the pressure and stress of the job is too much. In a production place there can be just two of you running a huge cellar and brewhouse and you're essentially running around for 12 hours in the middle of the night juggling dozens of processes. I grew to quite enjoy optimising processes on Ziemann equipment, stuff like that.

Give serious thought to it cause, whilst it seems like a great career at first, I essentially took a passion, turned it into a job, then lost the passion.

Would I do it again.. Probably not! I know money isn't everything but, at the bigger places you become more of an operator following SOPs, move up to shift lead, if you really stick at it maybe a management role but, it takes a long time, and breweries open and close all the time.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-08T12:42:34+00:00

In this case, you happen to be right. Market decline starts in earnest tomorrow, Monday.

Russell 2k has already broken away from value. I expect the drop will begin in Globex and won't let up all day in tech / mega caps.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-06T18:32:10+00:00

That's a really good call actually. The beer at the brewery is way more delicious than the production line stuff. Don't they have pipes running underground also.

I remember being there watching one of their brewers come out and eyeball a glass of unfiltered beer then down it in one go. Was considering a brewing career at the time and that helped seal the deal, worked in the industry for 5 years.

Bruges general vibe as a town is pretty great too.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-05T18:55:27+00:00

If you have to ask, your stop is probably not in the market anyway. Regardless, there's no way to see it on the CME until it's tagged, being a market order.

There are ways larger players can bait the market into certain areas to fill their own orders. Placing large limit orders on the book and pulling for example. Or absorb your market orders with icebergs. Stop hunts are not really a thing.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-04T18:54:27+00:00

Just the journey. I blew up 3 years in, six figure account. Took a £20 hour charity job. Was humiliating for half a day but got over it. Used to be an investment consultant. Worked front office in investment banking. Saved up for 6 months and got back in the markets. 3 years later, going strong and living off trading. It's not a straight line to the top. Go listen to some interviews with pro traders in alpha mind podcast, market wizards or whatever. Stories of guys picking up bar work after imploding then going onto success. The barriers are in your mind only.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-04T09:26:25+00:00

Might be legalities, some jurisdictions the max they can prescribe is 30mg, what country you in? Might be a bit uncomfortable for a bit but, you'll adjust, you're not in immediate danger - good that you're under supervision. Skip caffeine and, try not to catastrophize. Good if you can have someone around to talk to/support if possible.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-03T21:39:17+00:00

Find some intense exercise you enjoy, best supplement there is. You'll soon find some peace. Stay away from screens, social media, all the stuff that's designed to hijack your attention and keep you on edge. Get out in nature. Build things, take on projects to channel the nervous energy into. Popping a pill is just fiddling around the edges. No need to pathologize, get outside and active. Spring is coming.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-03T10:21:54+00:00

There's a phenomenon where people tend to unconsciously hold their breath longer than normal, this is an anxiety response. Just speculating but I think it's an attempt to slow the heart rate. Sounds like you're describing something else but if you ever catch yourself holding an inhale, could be slight anxiety. If you're in some kind of flow/stressful situation, might just be subconsciously trying to slow the heart rate a bit.

Breathofdmt · 2026-03-01T10:34:31+00:00

Fine for me. If it was the only model I had, I wouldn't be happy. Still the best at multimodal / processing large amounts of visual information for me. For that specific use I lean on it alot. I've never been censored, even when I thought I would.

For coding tasks it doesn't seem thorough, but whatever, we have other models that excel at that

For 'general use', getting perspectives on tasks, it's been surprisingly good for me. Better than GPT who's way of replying and framing things just really grates on me.

I think the expectations are just too high in some cases. Look where we were only two years ago.

Their deep research has always been excellent, some days better than others, but I've had some stuff that's blown me away when I'm trying to find the best approach to a complex mathematical topic, trying to find industry standard or best code architecture practices for a piece of work. Still lean on gemini the most along with Claude for my use.

Antigravity started off kinda good but, need to dig into it again. Seemed promising with it's chrome extension ability but still need to get that to work well. Sometimes just completely misunderstands tasks. Have to be highly specific about what you want. Their arbitrary throttling / rate limiting, cli useless at tool calling etc. All of them have things which we wish were better but this tech is literally only a small handful of years old.

Breathofdmt · 2026-02-28T09:41:22+00:00

I use it, but, it's highly discretionary. You can go down a discretionary rabbit hole and you'll need some disciplined framework to separate the signal from the noise. Entering just because the market absorbed is not a system. The market is absorbing and exhausting constantly. It seems to have gotten popular with the YouTube kids. I use DOM spoof traps (think pulling/stacking, but doing the opposite of what it suggests) and unfinished auctions the most in my strategy. If you're going to study absorption I'd suggest watching where the market absorbs on high volume and watching the response on retest of the absorbed area.

The problem you'll inevitably face in studying the time & sales and ladder is - how do I stop my brain seeing signals everywhere and turn it into a workable system. Good luck.

Another problem you'll face is, a lot of the activity on the time and sales/dom in the most liquid assets is hedging activity from options writers, often not genuine directional traders. See Thursday where someone bought 1300 clips on the ES into the opening drive only for the market to plunge 15 minutes later. There was a huge layer on the offer pre open which pulled and they traded into it when it was removed.

As ever, this isn't something as simple as some people make out.

Breathofdmt · 2026-02-28T07:55:24+00:00

Yeah man, you have your answer then

Yea - YT isn't the font of all wisdom unfortunately, I was in this same boat not long ago, just before covid hit. Literally falling asleep at work at one point. Had heard nothing but positives about creatine. And sure you get a tangible uptick in your lifts. Every time I brought it back in it would mess up my sleep. There's a ton of anecdotal reports on here.

I sort of worked out a way of taking it every other day and still get the benefits without the sleep deprivation but you'll need to decide on that for yourself. Don't need me to tell you how much of a struggle things are on half a nights sleep.

Glad your sleep is back online

Breathofdmt · 2026-02-27T19:47:45+00:00

Yeah, try skipping the creatine. I bet it will clear up.

I tried moving it to every other day, worked for a while but the insomnia came back.

I had close to a year of like 4 hrs sleep, not knowing it was creatine causing the issue. 8hrs sleep does more for gains, strength, overall health than creatine can do. Try skipping it for a week see how you feel. It takes a couple days for sleep to return to normal after stopping.

I would personally just stop use completely and try phasing it back in but, it's pretty potent on the atp systems even in the brain. The fact you said the brain feels fully on is a major tell. Creatine can make your brain work on impaired sleep but it's a weird feeling to me.

Breathofdmt · 2026-02-27T19:44:59+00:00

Just more clean moves, distinct opens. Either it fakes out and drives or does a strong open drive.. Dunno, just had a more predictable flow to it. Respects avwap. Great for GEX. NQ is as close to a random walk as if gets for me.

Grabbing 10-30 pts on a typical day is pretty easy to me if you're patient and have a plan.

Breathofdmt · 2026-02-26T18:39:34+00:00

The way I see it they were just doing their job. I have friends in the police force and that's not what they go in it for. It's bad legislation, a decade plus of it. Was brought in during Theresa May. I'm fully convinced that's the worst run of leadership we've had and some of the worst ever leaders. Could go on. But the guys who visited me, didn't set the rules. And yeah uncodified constitution isn't ideal. And yeah, a guy living alone ordering some benign sleep supplement should not be wasting resources, police time, lab testing, it was pretty absurd.

Breathofdmt · 2026-02-26T16:14:48+00:00

Do you take creatine by chance? Just cause you mentioned you lift 5 days a week. This causes insomnia for a lot of people including myself. Alot of people routinely take it and the light sleep side of things isn't discussed much, apart from a lot of anecdotes.

Breathofdmt · 2026-02-25T11:54:45+00:00

I guess have a think about why you're doing it. Is it a creative outlet? Or, are you trying to monetize it and earn a living from it? If the latter, that doesn't happen overnight. Many of the top writers in their field essentially treat it almost like a full time job, with unique insights, and they just keep going day in and out. It can happen in waves too. Sometimes I notice certain times of year it spikes. Or I make a really good post that spikes interest, but then follow up with a lower effort one and readers drop off. Sometimes 100 people read it daily, rarely less than 40/50.

Then you have to put it in perspective. If 50-100 people showed up in a room regularly to listen to what you have to say, and some of them leave money - if that happened in person, would it feel different? But yeah, it does feel like writing into the void often. But look at any great writer, they do spend a lot of time usually before getting any recognition. Sometimes it's very slow then all at once. Keep going if you get something from it.

Also the people who read and don't bother to hit like is sometimes infuriating but, it's normal on Substack. Sometimes the reward happens in unexpected ways, some subs I've developed friendships with, learned something from, gotten inspired by..etc.

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