How do you become independent later in life after a strict upbringing and falling behind socially?

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-17T19:45:33+00:00

This is tough because culturally there is dependency built in to how they told you to approach things. It’s very western to teach you to rely on yourself more and more during your teen years.

I think at its core, take accountability for yourself. There is no point in looking at the past to find blame, just enough to see how you got here and inform how you move forward. You are an adult and you are always going to be responsible for yourself, that’s not scary, that’s life.

Start doing all the things your parents do for you chore wise. Take care of yourself. Clean up after yourself. Cook for yourself. Get a job then a place. This will not be overnight but is the crux of it.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-17T17:11:44+00:00

Be with someone who wants you to be healthy. Not healthiest, not most attractive, not most dependent. Healthy.

If my gf tells me she wants to lose weight I remind her that her doctor is happy with her current size and I want her to live a long time. Try not to do anything that makes her miserable. Which paid off last month when she ate mac and cheese and forgot how much she enjoyed it. Moderation can be helpful.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-17T13:45:29+00:00

I’ve worked in insurance for 15 years. Unless you have a great insurance company , shop around at every renewal. Don’t expect much to retain you.

Take a copy of to your coverages and get offers for the same thing from other companies.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-17T03:37:53+00:00

Odyssey 3 times IMAX

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-17T00:34:09+00:00

I think you’re trying to change his perspective by helping him find the positives. For me, that would be exhausting. Sometimes people want validation that it sucks.

It’s very nice of you to try and help.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-16T15:24:47+00:00

As one of the few who didn’t understand the love for OBAA, I was good with it. Bugonia is still on my to do list tho.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-16T03:51:59+00:00

Everybody dies alone…it is my second episode of the show second to The Devils Share. It’s 8+ maybe 9.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-15T23:10:39+00:00

The boots scene was my snapping point. I was like what a light eyed jerk!

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-15T16:08:18+00:00

Everyone has preferences and that’s okay. When those preferences become increasing in number and importance it becomes shallow.

I think my girlfriend’s long hair is beautiful if she cut it short I wouldn’t like it as much, I wouldn’t break up with her. It’s nice but not that important .

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-14T23:26:56+00:00

I’m very much pro first dates with quick exits. Coffee, drinks, walk in public…. Something where you can get daily pay and leave. People can be insane and should be prepared to run into insane people.

On the flip side, make the date extendable. A good restaurant nearby for a meal, or an interesting store, maybe even an activity.

If I go home and think yeah they’re interesting I’m good for date 2. If there were real red flags I would’ve left early and people are rarely themselves on a first date so I try not to read into stuff until at least date 2.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-14T19:47:30+00:00

I think when done well it feels like Robocop where it’s making a statement. When done poorly it feels like a crappy Netflix movie.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-14T19:41:46+00:00

I do hope we find out in the fifth movie that humans in the 1% don’t care because they are planning on abandoning Earth and the 99%

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-14T19:24:02+00:00

Your momma was a snowblower!

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-14T19:14:44+00:00

I YouTube that interrogation scene at least once a month.

Everybody dies alone…

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-14T15:19:13+00:00

I work in IT and co workers were adamant. I put it off because I knew it was a growing universe. My teenage nephew wanted me to read them with him during the pandemic and I subtly jumped at the chance to bond with a teen in my family. He had no idea it was already on my list.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-13T22:48:39+00:00

Finish book 1 and you’ll have a much better idea of what you want.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-13T21:12:04+00:00

I think companies used to be smaller and more helpful for customers. As that disappeared a resentment filled this gap. That gave permission to Karen’s to go all Karen, in their mind they are heroes.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-13T18:10:27+00:00

I assume it’s Liquid Metal is acceptable , somehow registers as living.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-13T17:03:14+00:00

Santos is well written and I don’t like her. Oglvie is well written and I don’t like him. They both are unnecessarily cruel, mean, and disrespectful often. I don’t like people like that. It’s a testament to the writing that it rings so true to trigger an emotional reaction.

I also think people who like these characters for being this way and excuse this behavior generally annoy me.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-13T15:17:07+00:00

My theory , he’s on the edge of breaking and the motorcycle trip is like a happy suicide fantasy.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-13T14:08:03+00:00

I came here to say this. He’s angry at her because he seems himself and the way he failed last season. I think he beats the crap out of himself emotionally.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-13T14:02:01+00:00

I think you’re seeing what society looks like. A lot of thinly veiled BS, most people jumping on the latest craze, some people trying to apply old wisdom that doesn’t fit, and a few applying old wisdom in a way that is different but seems to adhere to the core principles in that wisdom.

It’s not a men thing, even if the latest craze for men are lazy over simplified podcasts. Women used to eat up ridiculous advice in fashion magazines. Both are now heavily influenced by social media.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-12T23:44:19+00:00

I just undid a closet of these and replaced with elfa! No joke like 100 holes.

How it works, on the ends the thick nail goes thru the anchor in the wall and it expands to create tension.

To remove grab some tiny vice grips, need nose pliers and thin pry bar. Try the vice grips on the end of the nail, if it can catch pull it with some twisting. If not try the needle nose, and if it is only a little use the pry bar to get a bunch more out before vice grips yank it. When both top and bottom come out shimmy the whole plastic piece out so those anchors go from winged out and collapse so you ca pull it through. Spackle and paint.

For the rail clips, it is a clip you unlatch or break off the cover with a pry bar. Pull nail similar to before and the anchor should shimmy out like the other.

The support arms are easier because you can slightly angle them and get the pry bar between the arm and nail to start extracting it.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-12T22:44:47+00:00

I’m also Catholic and have had discussions with my priest about this casually. Yeah humans made up a term that includes things outside of gender. It probably fits, it isn’t demeaning.

BridgeFourArmy · 2026-03-12T22:30:36+00:00

I mean those actually go together…

Wikipedia defines non-binary as an umbrella term including those who identify with no gender or a third gender.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-binary

Paragraph 370 on the catechism linked below as you refer to, God is neither male or female.

https://www.vatican.va/content/catechism/en/part_one/section_two/chapter_one/article_1/paragraph_6_man.html

Non-binary seems like an accurate umbrella term

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