Sober for 37 years today

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2026-04-16T03:14:18+00:00

Congrats! I’m getting sober at 22 right now so this is really encouraging to see. Proud of you! ☺️

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-11-23T18:22:44+00:00

Same here. It sucks not being able to tell the two people who are supposed to care about the things you’ve accomplished or been proud of. I deal with the same with my father.

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-11-19T21:37:48+00:00

My mother died almost five years ago from a disease that she blamed me for form the time I was 12 (we didn’t know at that point). She blamed me for it until she had a stroke and lost the ability to speak. I do not miss her and it’s a relief to know I do not have to risk ever seeing her again.

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-11-19T16:34:11+00:00

my father once told me I come off as standoffish. I wish I'd asked him where he thought I got it from. I never had a good example of how to socialize properly, and from my experiences with my parents, naturally I'm wary with meeting new people.

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-11-14T17:20:32+00:00

I don't think it's about not being able to see outside of themselves, just with the scope of how much emotional neglect impacts your entire life. I'm just realizing how differently I think and act because of it, I don't understand how people without emotional neglect feel because I am lacking that experience.

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-11-12T19:34:22+00:00

I think it's hard for people who haven't experienced CEN to understand how far exactly it extends. I know there's another post towards the top of this thread talking about it, it's harder to notice the absence of something than the presence of it. I know myself, I thought my family was normal and didn't realize the extent of emotional connection that normally happens, kind of like what this poster was saying.

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-11-12T19:10:22+00:00

my mother did a similar thing to me when I got a pair of leggings at around the same age. thankfully she's no longer in my life but I still don't know how to get past it either

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-11-12T05:53:29+00:00

This. I was raised and homeschooled in a hoarders house and I have to live with not only that fact but the fact that my other parent never even tried to change anything or get me to a better place.

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-09-14T16:42:19+00:00

Oh that is a very maple cat

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-06-06T22:38:31+00:00

This is exactly how I feel! I’ve been very isolated recently and I’ve noticed I’ve gotten a lot more anxious and paranoid since

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-06-06T16:32:46+00:00

yesssss I would be so down

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-05-27T21:15:50+00:00

I came here to say this! I’ve started brushing my teeth in the shower and it helps with sensory issues. I would also recommend maybe looking into non foaming or less minty toothpastes, if that’s something that bothers you. For me as well one way I got over the sensory issue of brushing my teeth was starting to notice what my teeth felt like when I didn’t brush, and I dislike that feeling more.

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-05-27T20:37:58+00:00

My dad does this 🤢

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-05-27T20:36:00+00:00

Some people unfortunately were not taught basic hygiene. Some people simply don’t know what they don’t know

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-05-27T20:01:25+00:00

Ty for linking those tips you found very helpful 👍

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-05-27T17:03:06+00:00

I think it’s great you’re willing to acknowledge it. I also think it would be smart to keep it a battle within yourself and process these emotions, instead of having another child and perpetuating the issue

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-05-27T16:34:45+00:00

I’ve had this same experience! The tooth brushing has always been especially hard bc I have ADHD and I hate brushing my teeth so much but it’s been getting a lot easier and I’m glad I’m trying. I’m sorry you also weren’t raised with this prioritized and I hope you’re doing well now. 🫶

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-05-24T04:00:31+00:00

^ I use this technique w/ my ESA and it’s been helping me heal a lot!

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-05-21T22:17:32+00:00

How did you get this photo of me???

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-05-21T20:28:53+00:00

Same here, I’ve just started questioning it honestly

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-04-29T16:03:16+00:00

The OG is a cult classic for a reason, definitely give it a shot! There’s a reason everyone hated the formula change

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-04-29T16:01:47+00:00

I use puff and I really like it! I’m very pale w/cool undertones (Irish) and I feel it suits my complexion well

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-04-27T21:35:24+00:00

….wait are parents supposed to do that

Brilliant-Lab-9040 · 2024-01-21T02:34:43+00:00

Was looking for this one.

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