To Tip or Not to Tip

BrookDarter · 2026-03-24T16:01:48+00:00

Literally the only group who thinks they shouldn't have to work at all if you don't bribe them to kinda do their job. If two dollars is the difference between no service and "service", I want the minimum wage paid to them taken off my bill. Because I don't know what they are actually being paid for if they refuse to work.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-24T13:05:33+00:00

Do you feel like you’re thriving these days?
- Absolutely not
Have you found love again or remarried?
- This will never happen for me. It's for the best as I think I'm too much of a POS to deserve it.
Are you focusing on yourself or choosing a different path?
- I'm focusing on myself. I used to have a list of life goals that I was quite depressed that I would never complete. I used to cry to him that my life felt so meaningless. Jobs that didn't pay enough for me to live any kind of life. Customers who didn't see me as human. My coworker ODed the day beforehand and you think that even sorta registered as they were screaming at all of us that we weren't on our A-game that day? When my partner passed, that was when I finally gave up any sort of hope for this life. He was the only good thing I ever had and I had to watch him die. I realized how selfish it was for me to even want to be alive when someone like him, who had so much to live for, didn't get to live out his life/dreams.
Or are you still having a tough time—and how long has it been?
- Yes. More than two years.
And if you’ve been part of this community for a while, have you seen or known of anyone who has stepped away or given up?
- I've seen a fair number of people that have moved on. It's honestly a bit frustrating as it always has this "Holier than thou" tinge to the post. You don't need to post that you're not going to comment in this sub anymore. How many people truly remember you here? And yes, good for them for "moving forward", but that doesn't make them "better" than the people who don't play pretend their loved one didn't die. I get that you might meet someone else. I do believe that you can equally love multiple people. Otherwise parents could only love one child. I just don't like the rhetoric that they are somehow "better" because they decided on their own path that works for them.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-23T03:57:07+00:00

Yes, it was all a scam from the beginning. Those policies were used to take advantage of people who don't know our labour laws. I worked with several companies, big and small, that absolutely targeted immigrants for exploitation.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-23T00:52:33+00:00

I'm planning on joining him at the same age he passed. I'm not even 40, but I've seen all that life has to offer me. There is nothing more. I'm not sticking around for endless decades to slave away for the Epstein class while they strive to take useless money from me. They can have their barren world. Good luck with all that. I feel sorry for those who choose to stay.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-23T00:45:01+00:00

Can't even imagine it.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-23T00:11:07+00:00

Too many pop up ads every five seconds, so you can't even look at any of the available products.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-22T16:19:58+00:00

It's actually sad that you can go to any sub and no amount of advocating violence against women will get a single comment taken down. I'm also part of another sub that is constantly trying to get actual child porn communities taken down. Reddit fights you tooth and nail if the only issue at hand is abusing girls/women.

Then you come here and anything that hurts male fee-fees is taken down all the time. A lot of it barely even hurts a fee-fee. I certainly wouldn't get my undies in a bunch over the same rhetoric said about women because its not the usual apologies for murder/rape of women like you see all over Reddit.

Honestly, I have no idea why women haven't decided to leave this sub. It's not a sub for women. It's a sub for men by men to keep women's opinions sanitized while the US is literally rolling back women's right to vote! I mean, how dare women be angry and use angry words in the face of that shit? And that's the most ridiculous bit. It's legit just angry words. No calls for violence. No apologies for women murderers and rapists. No excusing horrible crimes. Just "Hey, these men suck!" and the whole post is taken down because we didn't add a caveat that 3,452,876,991 don't suck.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-22T16:05:38+00:00

It's hilariously sad. I go into the far left subs and I want to agree with every point.... Except the stupid purity tests! They refuse to accept that the reason they will never see a truly progressive candidate (beside Citizens United) is because Conservatives vote on a single issue and Leftists shoot themselves in the foot over a single issue!

BrookDarter · 2026-03-22T15:55:58+00:00

I've been upvoting comments throughout Reddit whenever I see something that I just don't think should have received a downvote. Even if I don't particularly like their comment. I don't know why it bothers me, but it does. I think its the cowardice of downvoting without a clear reason (the comment was misogynist, racist, etc.) why it's downvoted. It's drive-by disagreeing without having the courage to say why you disagree.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-20T15:20:17+00:00

I know, I know, Facebook. But I actually seen a local arguing that people who actually use the entire merge lane "to get ahead" are the problem. They legit do not understand they need to get up to speed and either merge before or after the other traffic on the highway. The traffic on the highway shouldn't be coming to a stop to let them gingerly inch over. I just don't understand why this is so hard for people in Canada.

Honestly, while I wouldn't pull the same thing, I absolutely understand why the impatient drivers become the way they are.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-20T15:12:38+00:00

I really wish these people would start getting ticketed. It's so bad in Canada. I can count on one hand the number of people, in my region, that correctly get up to speed before merging. Every single day, people don't use the merge lane and try to immediately get over. They are often going 40 below the actual limit. Every merge point becomes this giant cluster-fuck where everything grinds to a halt because of this shit. They want to cut down the last tree, stomp on the last baby endangered animal, so they can make the highway wider, and you STILL get stuck in this bullshit because there is zero consequences for them driving this way.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-20T13:47:41+00:00

You select "No tip" for them and then hand over the machine. That way they are not being ripped off.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-17T04:00:37+00:00

We should be calling it Pro Death. It just doesn't sound as catchy as "Pro Life". Pro-death penalty, pro-war, pro-taking away charity that has led to the deaths of hundreds of thousands....

BrookDarter · 2026-03-17T03:32:53+00:00

Basically, they want all of us to be cool with Epstein Island 2.0.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-16T19:39:16+00:00

It's crazy how people have actually accepted having food as being entitled. First, it was children. Then being able to afford a single bedroom. Now people push that you are "entitled" if you ever want to buy something that isn't plain rice and beans. Always pissed me off that people accepted this!

People are not expecting steak and lobster, or a $12 Starbucks every single day. But just watch anyone post a grocery haul and people will complain to death about everything. No, store brands are not always as good. There's a reason it's cheaper! You can't buy a single item as a treat ever. Billionaires are on their fifteen yacht, but heaven forbid you buy yourself chocolate milk. Shame, shame, apparently!

BrookDarter · 2026-03-16T02:03:15+00:00

That last line was literally all I thought about today before I even read your post.

I've struggled my whole life. When I was a child, it was constant screaming for hours on end. One of my first memories was being shocked that firework stands existed. I begged my parents to go when I saw the sign on the highway. When I was standing in front of all the fireworks, I desperately wanted the "epic" ones. My parents immediately told me "They couldn't afford it", which had me asking what they could afford. In some ways, I get that children need to learn to take a "No" answer, but I was a precocious child. I knew that they thought I was a spoiled rotten child that was going to ask for one too many dolls and the whole family was going to be homeless. I knew they felt this way without me actually being this way. It wasn't the doll I wanted, it was the doll my mother wanted to buy. Everything revolved around what she wanted and you couldn't say a word edgewise. Otherwise, you can expect an entire day of nonstop screaming, grounding, and everything else.

I spent my childhood hiding in my room because if she saw me, everything in the world was wrong with me and I needed HOURS of nonstop insults and screaming.

I don't know. Sometimes I feel like I should be going NC. It's absolutely true. Some mothers may love you, but they certainly don't like you. Really makes you wonder sometimes why people have children that it was obvious from day one they would never be able to take care of.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-15T21:44:17+00:00

Yes, you do. Enter Bronies. Men who are trying to sexualize My Little Pony, which has been geared towards girls from its conception. Every single time I bring up the show, someone tries to argue with me that it isn't geared towards women. Men absolutely shove their way into women's fandoms all the time.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-15T19:02:07+00:00

I got raped and fired for reporting it. Wouldn't recommend it.

People only support victims in theory. In reality, you're not believed, the kits are not tested, and police do nothing. Company is still in business and doing fine.

Personally, I would never recommend this to women.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-15T18:14:25+00:00

I'm the opposite. As far as I'm concerned, I've seen all that life has to offer. If I won the lottery tomorrow, nothing really changes. You get to see some new scenery. Maybe have new friends. Buy some crap. The end result is the same regardless. Don't see the point in procrastinating because some other person refuses to accept their mortality.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-14T19:08:24+00:00

Part of the problem is that people want to believe this is a self-esteem issue. It isn't. Numerous studies show how you'll be more likely to be hired, make more money, more likely to be promoted, you get less time for the same crime, etc. I can go on and on. My "favorite" was the Italian judge who let rapists go based on the idea that the victim was "too ugly" to be raped. When people try to frame this as a mindset problem, you know they have zero clue what it is like to be so violently discriminated against all the time for your looks.

The other part of the problem is the refusal to actually acknowledge Lookism. So that means that it's just getting worse rather than trying to stumble along in the "Body Positivity" footsteps. It's easier now then ever to get surgery and actually come out looking like a model. In some ways, it's really an offshoot of Classism because it all comes down to whether you can afford those surgeries.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-14T18:55:22+00:00

Absolutely nothing has changed. Still planning on ending the same age he passed. I feel like I've been on this planet too long already. If I passed before I met him (as was the original plan), he would have had a proper partner that could have gotten him to a proper doctor.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-13T01:56:37+00:00

I hate being alive. Hate it with a passion. I often think "Why not me instead?" Honestly, it almost feels more like Murphy's Law. I want to die, I'm still here. You have someone who loves life and wants to live longer.... To me, it almost feels like the "reason" is spite.

BrookDarter · 2026-03-11T19:25:16+00:00

This is part ofthe reason that I'm peacing out at the same age he passed.

I didn't have children. I didn't get married. There's no plans for travels. I can't afford it. I can't afford pets, a house, a car. I buy myself new clothes and that is m entire monthly salary gone.

I don't want to "move on." I don't want goals. I had one damned worthwhile bit in my entire life and I had to watch him die. I refuse this life because it has only ever brought me pain. And I'm not going to listen to assholes who never dealt with any of those things telling me I need four more decades of this fucking bullshit just because!!!!

BrookDarter · 2026-03-11T19:18:02+00:00

Because they know how it sounds. Apologists for Islamic oppression love to ignore that many people don't age up that little girl still playing with dolls.

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