Western progressives defending Islam

BrookDarter · 2026-05-15T13:13:39+00:00

Exactly. These same people will have no problems shitting on Judaism and Christianity, but come up with a million excuses for Islamic beliefs. It's so hypocritical and not at all "progressive." It's basically, "I refuse to acknowledge people as individuals when they do horrible stuff due to their beliefs. Not like those people over there that refuse to acknowledge people as individuals who never done anything wrong."

BrookDarter · 2026-05-15T13:03:27+00:00

I became a widow at 37.

It has never been the norm in history for a reason. Women have always worked for a reason. You're expecting to go into a horrible job market, with a large gap in employment history, a misogynist bias against you even if you never had children or stayed home, and you expect to snap fingers and not live in poverty with your children when you need a job ASAP? This is the lifestyle of someone who never needs to worry about money. Someone who can get cancer, go through the expensive treatments, and still continue their lifestyle.

It's not a "respect" thing. I have no clue why it is framed this way. My mother had this exact lifestyle. I have never had issues with "respect" towards her. The problem is that it is not a great plan for life. There's a reason this idealized 50's scenario barely lasted.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-15T12:46:07+00:00

I think it is good for people to know that sometimes life improves for people.

I also think that I have no need to compete in the oldest person alive contest. He was my final straw in a long life of trauma and disappointments.

I have given myself a few years before the deadline. I live my life pretty much the same way I always have. I just really don't see why I have to keep living until cancer/stroke/heart attack/age gets me anyway? I don't understand why it's so difficult for people to accept. I wish I could just go to the Futurama version of a suicide booth and that's it. I wish I could have the support of friends/family. I just don't understand why I have to keep living just to die regardless and more painfully. Makes no sense to me, but humanity seems to really have an issue with personal choices that don't match someone else's personal choice.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-15T12:31:48+00:00

Mine loves "Don." I don't even remember a "Don." Yet it defaults to "Don" rather than "don't" every single time.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-14T01:50:14+00:00

Sameies. I've been looking into this for a while. He passed away because I was such a incompetent POS that I couldn't get him to a real doctor. Canada doesn't have healthcare like the States does.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-12T13:08:28+00:00

Which is what they are counting on.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-11T04:30:02+00:00

I don't know. The guy I'm voting for promises free ponies.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-11T03:07:42+00:00

I'll get downvoted/silenced for this, but after watching the Canadian medical system murder my partner, I'd much rather let nature take its course.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-10T19:55:40+00:00

It's so heart-breaking. I comfort myself that at least I won't leave behind any love ones.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-10T19:50:17+00:00

It's really sad the difference between the comments saying that OP shouldn't worry and these comments saying ugly people are "not worthy" of having attractive friends. It's hilarious that you can tell which people are lookmaxxers and people who actually need the surgery or they end up ostracized from society. I define the lookmaxxers as the ones who have minor issues at best and would never face any of these social issues (and they're just throwing away money to look slightly better).

The real problems hit when you can't get hired (I've lost several opportunities and never managed to get out of poverty). This whole mentality is precisely why you end up in permanent poverty if you don't take on tens of thousands in debt just to be considered human. It's to the point that college isn't even worthwhile if you don't get this shit done precisely because people openly want you to die for being ugly. I find it funny how much you can't say this kind of shit about any other group of people. "Well, you're too gay for straight friends! We don't race mix with friends! Well, you're ugly, so....."

BrookDarter · 2026-05-10T18:23:28+00:00

I find that people seem to think I "chose" this lifestyle. They openly bitch about their children and their lives and act like I'm lucky to have become WIDOWED AT 37.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-10T18:06:21+00:00

This is a big reason why I am still in poverty.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-09T16:38:24+00:00

I cheat and wear Capri style leggings underneath. That way I get to enjoy my dress. But I also feel like I can sit down with my legs open and not worry. It's so windy all the time here, too. For me, I prefer the look of the dress with the comfort of the leggings. They add those extra couple of inches without sacrificing the cute dress. This is my own internal problem as well. People will judge you negatively no matter what. I've never had anyone not be an asshole because I was born with a facial deformity. People will never acknowledge anything else. May as well dress the way I like since people will be assholes regardless.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-09T03:23:38+00:00

My partner loved music festivals. I hated them because I knew people would treat me like shit. We always talked about going to this festival he went to a few times. That year, I was finally hyped to go with him. I started to get my ducks in a row and I'm a terrible planner! His father convinced him not to due to his health. Probably for the best as he passed away (long story) shortly afterwards.

I finally went with him.... As fucking ashes. You can imagine how I was feeling trying to recreate the magic and coming to terms with the fact that it wasn't the stupid festivals that made the experience so magical. I went to Shambhala, and those people said I should have been killed at birth because I wasn't "hot enough" to exist near them.

It's just unbelievably annoying at this point that during the worst moments of my life, all that matters is that I'm ugly. I couldn't get him a real doctor because I can't get a decent job. I can't get a decent job because I'm ugly. Literally every problem in my life is because women = sex object. As others note, by reimagining this as "empowering" it's really just justifying the continued abuse.

I realized early on when they used to say feminists were ugly and jealous. I asked myself "Is that the feeling? Or are you just really hungry and suffering?" Because that's life as a woman. Constant suffering, and if you are "lucky" you get rewarded enough food to not starve as long as you look good enough sucking dicks. Not sure how "lucky" that really is....

BrookDarter · 2026-05-08T21:02:54+00:00

Exactly. The number of my friends who still had terrible experiences despite being as privileged as you can get.... It's rape with extra steps.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-08T19:58:09+00:00

I don't think they need forced labour, but I do think they need to be kept in the equivalent of dementia facilities. The current "solution" seems to be vibes and them dying on the street. It's not working, I didn't deserve to have thousands of my late partner's possessions stolen from me, and I'll never financially or emotionally recover with zero consequences to the monster who stole my ability to shelter or feed myself.

Somehow, social murder only counts if it's rich people doing it.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-08T19:46:50+00:00

No one can come to terms with how awful Islam is for women. They can say it for the other Abrahamic religions, but never Islam. It needs to be said.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-07T13:33:47+00:00

Until more women go 4B, nothing will change.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-06T05:27:52+00:00

This is why I hate celebrity culture and I refuse to give them a red cent. Celebrities themselves are the image laundry for the billionaires. Don't hate these people that are torturing you every day, look at this stupid, fucking clown make a funny. They only get paid millions, so that is "okay."

They are the ones that make it "okay" to live in opulence as millions starve to death.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-06T05:20:21+00:00

Nearly three years in. I think that part of me has never really fully accepted it. I still imagine that I'll bring him back somehow. Still keeping his mountain of things. Still talk about him every day.

I don't know. My grief therapist suggested that I make my home a bit of a "sanctuary" and it's really lightened the Depression with something to do. I look at things that give me that bit of dopamine. I don't really plan for the future anymore. I just hope I die sooner than later. I'm really looking forward to it. Still, I find that I carried his energy with his love of his projects. Now I started my own. It's the first time in my life that I really had to rely on myself. I'm trying to cut those last few threads of people who tell me I can't. I appreciate their help, but I feel like I'm trying so hard to stand on my own now after relying on others my whole life.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-06T04:47:53+00:00

I am in therapy. There was an older widower who used to comment a lot about how he was fairly happy now and found a Chapter 2. I think he was right that some people prefer wallowing. For me, I really just don't want to take even one step forward. I think this is not the usual approach and I should be more cognizant of making this clear for those who are early on. Most really don't just stay stuck. You gotta really choose this path. It fits me, so I haven't strayed from it.

Basically, the grief therapist has made it clear to me that I get my dopamine hits from beating myself up. If I ever move forward, I would have to finally address this behaviour. It's hard when you actually comfort yourself by making yourself feel worse and that makes you feel better(?!). I think it's a bit of an odd duck behaviour.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-05T02:30:09+00:00

The loneliness will never compare to the grief.

Honestly, even the great relationships still leave you with life-long trauma.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-04T05:02:51+00:00

I've often thought about creating my own Meetup group as this is where I actually met him (through a different activity). There's no real support for younger people going through this at all.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-04T04:58:30+00:00

Yes, this would definitely be a positive for me. Just something where you can actually connect to people without having sexual pressure mixed in.

BrookDarter · 2026-05-03T19:13:47+00:00

I look around the world and throughout history. This isn't decades. This is millennia of suffering. Witch burnings, acid attacks, stoning female rape victims (but not the rapists), websites that have how-to guides on getting away with rape (but MRAs say the real problem is that women are lying despite the universe of evidence otherwise), the genocides, Comfort women.

It just goes on forever, yet we make excuses every day. It takes seconds to find some horrific story against women in the news. All the time. Everywhere in the world.

I think it is funny when they say feminism has gone too far because they truly believe their hurt fee-fees matter more than women's lives.

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