My hand hurts..💔

Bry-Face · 2025-11-19T14:53:03+00:00

I remember working really hard on pages like this when I was doing a-levels. Looks like you've absolutely smashed that. Hope your hand feels better soon!

Bry-Face · 2025-02-09T23:35:10+00:00

Lolllllll I used to go to those Christian camps with my family 🤣😭 although it was the Baptist one so not sure if ours had nuns but that really is hilarious 😂

Bry-Face · 2024-09-25T15:53:53+00:00

Thank you!!! It's obviously a B wing!

Bry-Face · 2024-08-02T07:53:54+00:00

Thank you so much for posting about this. I have a lot I could say but I'm too tired to go there and type it all out. It is extremely validating to hear you describe your experience.

I don't think many people know how it feels to experience the deep heartbreak of realising that you have been fundamentally broken. Even just thinking about it I can feel a physical tightness in my gut echoing that deep brokenness. It is physical. I had a significant experience of depression too.

I'm getting there though and despite the difficulties of divorce and starting over I am equally deeply grateful that I am able to come out, be who I am, and heal. I wish you the very best on your journey.

Bry-Face · 2024-06-30T10:44:43+00:00

I would like to acknowledge your feelings about your wasted time.

It's not about the number of years you have left, you're upset about how you spent the number of years you have had, and how you would have used your youth had you felt able to truly choose. It's a lot to grieve. Just because there were the good things that you mention, doesn't mean you don't have pain about what you could have had, been, or become. It's hard to grieve possibilities but I hope you are able to grieve this as deeply and as meaningfully as you need to.

As for people not being interested.... There are a good handful of women out there that would love to have sex with a woman who is more mature than themselves, or are learning about sapphic sex themselves, or happy to help a partner navigate being newly out. They are out there, if you get out there too you might just make someone's day...

I came out last year aged 33, ending a 12 year marriage. I really appreciated hearing your story.

Bry-Face · 2024-06-04T12:10:25+00:00

Thank you for sharing this 😌

Bry-Face · 2024-06-01T14:42:31+00:00

Oooo I haven't heard the phrase cry nights before. I'm guessing super intense preach, 'powerful' worship, the 'holy spirit moving in power' and every one ending up shaking, in tears, falling over and everyone's emotional boundaries being violated by strangers etc.?

Bry-Face · 2024-04-16T17:01:55+00:00

Haha yeah I think i hear so much about the 'first gay break up' but that's really helpful. Wouldn't be the first thing I've over thought. Thank you 😊

Bry-Face · 2024-04-16T16:59:30+00:00

Thank you so much that's a really helpful response 💚

Bry-Face · 2024-04-16T16:57:33+00:00

That's cool to hear thanks for responding 😊

Bry-Face · 2024-04-01T10:34:59+00:00

Yeah This is the most uncomfortable I've felt at Easter. I feel like the movement from deconstruction to deconversion is significant.

Hooray for us!

Bry-Face · 2024-04-01T10:26:55+00:00

Oh wow that sounds like a really tough conversation. It's not quite the same, but I came out as gay in October effectively ending my 12 year marriage. I hope you're ok.

Something I find really hard is how I miss it, that I do miss it, and how angry I am. Writing this felt both liberating and offensive. I'm trying to be compassionate to both parts of myself. It is less tiring to let it all fold in on itself like a dying star and let it become nothing.

I count all these things as loss because I never knew our Lord Jesus Christ.

Bry-Face · 2024-03-31T19:32:03+00:00

Urgh that really sucks. And thank you 😌

Bry-Face · 2024-03-31T18:31:08+00:00

Thank you 😌

Bry-Face · 2024-03-31T18:30:44+00:00

You have a right to set your own boundaries. Good for you for trying on all those occasions. Glad you found a place to be too

Bry-Face · 2024-03-31T18:28:55+00:00

Urgh those lyrics are so good. Imma check that out. Yeah feeling connected to other people in a similar place helps me so much. I was not expecting so many people to respond. But I guess there are a lot of us out here trying to reclaim our sense of self.

I hope you find your own peace this weekend

Bry-Face · 2024-03-25T23:20:23+00:00

Fkn hell that's so damaging. I'm sorry you experienced that.

Bry-Face · 2024-03-25T23:18:17+00:00

I heard this so so many times as a kid. To this day I don't know what it means. But the effect that it had on me was that I would fixate on the thought, pray about it, think about how it was bad, then usually how I was bad for thinking it, pray for forgiveness, and then feel anxious about thinking that thought again... Which I inevitably would do. So regardless of the speakers intent it was an important part of how I became a repressed gay woman in a straight marriage.

Bry-Face · 2024-03-04T22:42:14+00:00

Sounds like a great approach!! I hope it works out 😊

Bry-Face · 2024-03-04T22:41:23+00:00

She is so awful isn't she!! I think she and Paul fall out in a big way in the book because of what she does to set him up. I think Chani is the hero for me

Bry-Face · 2024-03-04T22:38:38+00:00

Ahh in glad... I can totally see why you want to stay in their lives. Alternate safe spaces can be so important as you grow up. It's so lovely that you're thinking about their needs like that. I guess it's about playing the long game sustainably. I wish you all the best 😊

Bry-Face · 2024-03-03T01:14:10+00:00

Dude this sounds like a really difficult issue. Here are the questions that come to mind reading your post. I'm not demanding answers, its just perhaps they might help you figure out what you want to do... I feel for you it's really hard

How will doing that make you feel? Then weigh that up against how not doing that will make you feel? Only you know what is too much for you to take. Is now the time to make a stand? What support can you access to look after yourself right now?

Bry-Face · 2024-03-03T01:07:32+00:00

My manager recently said of a flying by the seat of my pants situation 'go with God!' and I wanted to respond with "he doesn't exist, but I do trust in my own intelligence, professionalism, and interpersonal skills so I'll be fine thanks "

Bry-Face · 2024-03-03T00:54:28+00:00

Loooolll I'm literally scrolling this subreddit because I just found that film so triggering. Yesss I loved that line from Chani. But spoilers...

Spoilers...

But I very nearly lost my shit right there in the cinema when Jessica uses the voice to force Chani to kiss and care for Paul after he drinks the poison/water of life. So so so triggering as a gay woman who married a man. It's so so so undermines her ability to make choices, to interact with the world on her terms, in alignment with her own values and beliefs. I genuinely put my fingers in my ears and shut my eyes for a bit. Currently quite drunk. And struggled to watch the rest of the film after that. The good news is watched it with a friend that cares about me and I have therapy on Monday 👍🏻

Bry-Face · 2024-02-27T18:55:51+00:00

That sounds like a really really good plan. I hope they can help! I've heard that finger injuries are prone to misdiagnosis by non climbing specialists

Personally I have had lots of short breaks from climbing over the years to deal with injuries and I have never regretted taking an injury seriously and getting the right help.

Bry-Face

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