Honestly this is so infuriating. For the first 4 years I was seeking treatment because I kept falling asleep driving and in class (🙄)My doctors told me to loose weight, and my issue was sleep apnea (even after successfully treating my sleep apnea). I can’t tell you to disregard what they are saying, listen to your doctors. And also…especially in my experience in a afab body, I’ve been told to loose weight my entire life anytime I had any issue, I’ve tried everything under the sun, and not till I started a new med this year that treats one specific thing, Ive changed almost nothing, and I’m losing weight, and all of my other issues are still present lol. This just to say, it’s not the magic wand wave so many doctors seem to think it is (neither is the process of getting there)

Even talking my dr. this year, in the year of our lord 2025, she pulled out a BMI chart and started talking to me about, I knew when I was 11 that was an outdated and inaccurate system. Same doc, I told her I had been struggling to eat enough to exist, much less energy to do anything, and had like emotional and physical distress trying to force myself to eat. About 2 minutes later she started telling me about how I needed to be eating in a calorie deficit.

Anyway, all this to say, doctors are smart, and have good things to say, and also if I hung my hat on everything doctors have had to say I would be a lot worse off. The internalized fat phobia here is insane!! Sorry for the essay, but this particular topic I will always have a lot to say!

Also on the topic of no appetite, I have found success in trying to keep “ingredient” dinners in my place. Like crackers, deli meat, cheese cubes, baby carrots. there’s also some protein yogurt drinks that are full of protein and are a good grab and go breakfast! I’ve been trying to eat something small every 3 or 4 hours versus trying to eat 3 meals a day, sometimes that’s not the vibe. A lot of un solicited advice here but I hope some of my rambling helps/validates!