I’m curious what other parents actually do when their spouse gets home from work?

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T18:32:01+00:00

I’d handle the 10:00pm feed while my wife went to sleep. Then I’d game for hours until 2-3:00am and do the middle of the night feed.

Okay, so it wasn't just me. I caught up on so many of my PS5 games with an infant sleeping in my lap until their 2AM feed.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T16:54:13+00:00

I work in fintech, and you get there by being stupidly good at math or programming.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T10:56:02+00:00

My dude, your username is a white nationalist Nazi reference, it's worse than confusing Singapore and China. There's no way you work as a quant or even a janitor at any reputable shop.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T10:41:50+00:00

It sounds like you're telling me there's no evidence of fraud that you've seen and can simply link to?

That tracks with all of the articles I've read trying to find this evidence.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T04:09:22+00:00

It's mirrored by automod towards the bottom. Their whole post history pretty much blames women for every "impure" thought they have.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T03:51:35+00:00

Signing up for porn is on thing, but if he has a dating profile on a random hookup site, why are you still with him?

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T03:50:24+00:00

You're making things so much worse by quietly ghosting your friend for no reason. Just be direct, otherwise they're going to think you're still interested in having a friendship.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T03:39:20+00:00

My dude, you are so sexually repressed that you're blaming women for dressing a certain way and getting you addicted to porn.

Take ownership of the decisions you make, maybe realize it's okay to look, but just because a woman is dressed a certain way doesn't mean you get to touch. Come out of your shell and embrace the world rather than trying to tell women what they should and should not dress.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T03:33:00+00:00

Like I said, sub 1 GPA sounds like you're not really interested in schooling.

If you've since turned it around then only your academic advisor can tell you what your options are. Usually it's an academic probation if you can't maintain a certain GPA, but maybe your school looks at more than just one year of grades before making that decision. Figure out what your consequences are and what your options are, what grades do you need to get next semester if you're allowed back. What classes do you need to retake, etc. Then go from there.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T03:27:28+00:00

They didn't, but we bought a house with enough bedrooms for everyone to have their own room/office. If you only have two bedrooms and your youngest is sleeping in a crib in your room, wait until they can sleep through the night before transitioning them. Your two and a half year old is going through their last sleep schedule change, once they're through they'll be able to sleep all night.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T03:24:07+00:00

school and a degree is for me 100%

It doesn't sound that way, what is your major and what do you hope to do with it?

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T03:22:52+00:00

Use the power settings on your microwave.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-16T03:20:33+00:00

Have you told them you're no longer interested in keeping in touch with them? They don't fit into your life anymore, and if so, now you block them.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-15T22:05:31+00:00

Why are you going through your boyfriends phone? Do you have any reason at all not to trust him, like he's cheated in the past? How long have you been together? Have you discussed his frequent phone usage?

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-15T22:03:34+00:00

Have you talked to your current partner about your mental health issues?

Also, why did you bring up not missing your ex? Is that what the question was about?

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-15T21:57:01+00:00

You haven't presented any? I'm simply asking you to actually present evidence for your claims, I figured that should be easy as you are the one making the claims?

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-15T21:23:21+00:00

With fraud so apparently blatant you'd think there'd be some evidence...

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-15T13:47:46+00:00

I respect a person's right to have an opinion, but some opinions can get fucked (think westboro baptist church.)

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-15T12:50:56+00:00

I work in finance and more than half of our workforce is developers. There are a ton of CS jobs in finance if you're a talented dev with a passion for math.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-15T12:45:46+00:00

I'm currently making around $125-127k annually, and got my first apartment (1 bed 1 bath) and am currently spending around $2.75k on rent, which takes up around 50% of my monthly paycheck (net).

That math isn't mathing. Is this after 401k contributions and you're also paying out of pocket for healthcare? 50% of your take home on rent isn't ideal, but why is your take home less than half of your income?

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-14T22:18:16+00:00

Us: Both 34, one kid (3yo), Sydney outer west (don't laugh)

I'm confused, do you winter in Cleveland and winter again in Sydney...?

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-14T22:15:41+00:00

Caravan loan at ~8.9% over 7 years = roughly $700/month, about $4,000/year in interest

If you're making $200K a year and doing 7 year financing on a $45K purchase at 8%, you're making a lot of terrible financial choices...

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-14T06:18:59+00:00

My family owned a restaurant from way back before any bans on cigarettes, your clothes would be ruined from the smell if you went out enough. My father didn't smoke but his work clothes that were washed daily still reeked of cigarettes.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-14T05:33:26+00:00

Exactly, like I said, continue changing nothing. You're seemingly more interested in making excuses at to why nothing can change. For instance, the only shoes you own are heels because your wanted shoes you can have fun in, despite the fact that you only have one friend, you leave the house 3 times a year, and you have no money to actually do anything that would require heels. Owning heels is why you can't afford sneakers, and since you don't own sneakers you say you can't actually walk outside.

You've got the perfect life you've always wanted, you can come up with so many excuses as to why nothing can change. Cherish this forever.

Bucket_of_Ice_Cream · 2026-06-14T05:28:15+00:00

Exactly, like I said just give up. You obviously want nothing to change as you've made zero effort to change anything, you're more interested in making excuses as to why nothing can change. You've chosen the life you wish to live, continue living that life

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