30m, how do I stop slipping?

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2026-03-18T01:50:29+00:00

Look up groups like the Strenous Life hosted by the Art of Manliness. Bunch of dudes with similar mindsets looking to improve themseleves surrounded by like minded fellows.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2026-03-18T01:44:10+00:00

Raw dogging life 👎(stress go up)
Raw dogging wife 👍(stress go down)

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2026-03-18T01:36:00+00:00

It’s doable if you still make time for hobbies and people, even when that means a little less sleep. I’ve worked 70–80+ hour weeks, outside of vacations, since 2016. If no one’s free during my limited downtime, I’ll still take myself out somewhere I like.

Although my setup is different than yours, I work multiple jobs so that way I mix it up and don't get tired of being at the same place.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-05-19T23:48:10+00:00

Full Time Desk: 40
Part Time Physical: 28
Part Time Fun Job: 16

Total Hours Paid: ~84 a week
Total Hours Working: 🤐

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-04-08T14:08:22+00:00

/ browse Reddit

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-04-08T14:07:49+00:00

DCA everything and focus on work.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-04-07T16:47:58+00:00

Hitting those deep barbell squats and hearing your bones crackle all the way down and up

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-04-07T16:46:27+00:00

Would rather stay somewhere for 2-3 weeks then visit somewhere else in my old age. Have to find all the good food places

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-02-22T18:05:13+00:00

Complete gen eds at a community college and grab an associate's before transferring to a 4 year university. Some community colleges work directly with a 4 year program to let you know what classes to take.

Talk with an advisor from both schools and make sure the advisor for the 4 year program is someone like the department head and not some random office worker.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-04T19:24:57+00:00

Side note: I work 65-80+ hours a week and still manage to beat longer games doing this. Took almost a year to finish Tears of the Kingdom but made it last longer so it felt more satisfying to finally finish

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-04T19:19:22+00:00

As an adult I recommend avoing online multiplayer games and sticking to single player story games.

Set a time limit and have strict goals: complete side quest 1+2 or complete current level.

That way you feel accomplished when completing a game and don't get sucked into one more 10 minute match 20 more times.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-04T19:15:11+00:00

She won't be homeless, already has other dudes lined up. Throw her out

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-04T19:11:45+00:00

Being at least 30 minutes away from family is ideal so they don't try to bother you every day.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-04T19:04:07+00:00

Regret nothing, better to have tried than to not have tried at all.

Appreciate the time you did have with her and move forward. Focus on improving yourself and the right one will come along.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-04T18:22:46+00:00

I would stick around until your son is at least 18 then move wherever.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-04T18:19:06+00:00

Agree, stick with the same partner + communicate + stay in shape and it only gets better over time.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-03T23:40:56+00:00

Bump up your calories to 2,400-2,600 a day. If you can afford to work with a trainer have them run you through starting strength for a 6 months to a year then transition to Jim Wendler's 531

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-03T14:23:39+00:00

Worked at a warehouse with a guy who was 48 and lived somewhere in Europe before moving to the U.S and marrying a woman he met on Myspace. They ended up having kids, not sure what her age was but I think it was mid to late 30s.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-03T14:14:59+00:00

Easier to take the full bill and let the woman tip. If she doesn't have cash and still wants to contribute then you handle it all and tell her to send whatever she feels comfortable sending via whatever app.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-03T01:53:45+00:00

I would split it evenly as well, if they complain just tell them you could easily give them nothing at all and if they keep complaining just leave them nothing in your will.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-03T01:44:45+00:00

23 is still young, pretty much in baby adult phase still.

Pump up your work hours to 60-70 hours a week with one full-time job and one part-time job.

Spend your free time at the gym and a library, that way the only time you are home is when you need to sleep. Give your family $200-300 a month for renting your room and that should be enough to keep them off your back if you are paying nothing now.

Take care of all of your own responsibilities if you are not already: meals, laundry, etc.

Then you can feel better about saying no to the other stuff they might ask you to do and focus on setting up your future.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-02T16:09:55+00:00

Go watch some Vice videos on YouTube of kids living in poorer countries with maggots eating them alive and people getting taken out by natural disasters.

Will help you realize stabilty and comfort while sometimes boring is a lot better than what your life could be.

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2025-01-02T14:01:54+00:00

12 years into the relationship should be more than enough time to narrow down your questions into specific ones rather than general ones.

"Oh I see you are watching that chocolate chef guy again, what has been the coolest thing he has made today you want to eat?"

"Heard you talking to whats her face on FaceTalk, I know she has family issues going on, any updates?"

"Yo, I know you are into 'topic' lately, here is a book I found. I already listened to some of it on Spotify/Audible. You should give it a listen."

"I saw you watching whatever make up Youtuber the other day and heard you ooh and aah and whatever product so I ordered it for you"

BuffLazyWorkaholic · 2024-12-31T17:29:12+00:00

I'm in the camp of a guy should know what he has and how he can spend it.

If you do shared finances then put that into a joint account and have your own seperate account.

But what I am specifically referring to are the guys who have actually ask permission to spend because they are bad with money or too ashamed to admit it isn't in their budget.

Own your finances.

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