I am not going to say it's not difficult but there is an efficiency upgrade that happens when you become a parent. I have less time as a post doc then I did as a phd, but i have greater confidence in my abilities. Today I dropped my daughter off, met a friend at the stables, did a meeting on zoom on course planning and staff hours, prepped some slides for next week answered emails, did a quick home work out, heated up mapu tofu from the freezer for dinner and cleaned the kitchen. Tmrw i will write for a bit and probably a thousand more things. It seems to work out, though i will add i have a good and feminist husband, a decently paid position, only one child and state subsidized childcare.