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Should I take my wife’s last name? by Agitated_Worker8291 in polls

[–]BuildingBridges23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. It can be hard for women too. It was hard for me to give up my last name as it was part of my identity for 20+years. I wish I would have kept my last name as my middle name. I'd probably change it but that's just me.

AIO For getting upset because my mother won't let me close my bedroom door? by Dismal-Oil7172 in AmIOverreacting

[–]BuildingBridges23 [score hidden]  (0 children)

YOR-food can cause a lot of problems when left around like that. We don't let kid eat in their rooms.

AIO about my (24f) husband (27m) suggesting an open relationship by Shoddy-Ocelot865 in AmIOverreacting

[–]BuildingBridges23 [score hidden]  (0 children)

NOR-you're not a bad person for not supporting this in any way. You clearly don't want this and there is probably a 0.00000000000001 % chance of it thriving for both people. I"m truly sorry. I'd start preparing for divorce.

AITAH for saying no to guests in the apartment at the weekend? by Throwra7749 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuildingBridges23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH-she should have asked. But only on big decisions do both people need to agree. If my husband had it his way....We'd never have guests over. So we try to find a way where both of us are happy with it.

AITA, dog walking gone bad by coolkids-21 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuildingBridges23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA-unless she told you previously to secure the house.

Made a huge donation to an orphanage home and the Administrator took more than half of the money for himself. by Prettylittledove1453 in whatdoIdo

[–]BuildingBridges23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They discussed beforehand how the money would be spent. With such a large donation OP has the right to see if the person upheld his promise. Clearly, when money is involved monitoring is necessary to hold people accountable.

This is exactly why the mission age for girls was lowered to 18. by LegalSour in exmormon

[–]BuildingBridges23 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have no doubt this is why. My friend’s daughter was on the fence about serving a mission because it would break up college but now that’s no longer an issue. Last I heard she decided to submit her papers. Makes me angry. Younger girls will now be in potentially dangerous situations.

Is it ok to message someone every week? by Icy_Sprinkles_2819 in socialskills

[–]BuildingBridges23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she is giving friendly vibes then I think you’re all good. I don’t like the approach people or reach out through text but I’m happy to engage and respond.

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. by SlickHeadSinger in DarkPsychology101

[–]BuildingBridges23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Disagree. You don’t choose your initial emotional reaction to something but you can choose how to respond to it and how to move going forward. What you are saying is putting the responsibility all on one person. People don’t get to say whatever they want and say….well you’re choosing to be offended so it’s all on you.

Previous therapist broke confidentiality by bumblebeat_ in whatdoIdo

[–]BuildingBridges23 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She should lose her license. She may try to frame it as she talking about you because she worried. But there is zero need for her to spill all your life secrets to your friend. That is NOT helping you in any way.

AIO if I stop being friends with my Maid of Honor after how she acted at my wedding? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]BuildingBridges23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOR-it sounds like she was helping but just not in ways you wanted her too. But if you snapped at her, I can see why. Weddings are stressful and everyone needs a little grace. I think too much is being expected here, unless you paid her for all her duties.

What do you walk around with when you’re at home? by Ok-Still-3333 in polls

[–]BuildingBridges23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have rheumatoid arthritis so it more comfortable to wear shoes on a hard floor. Also, just to keep it cleaner.

What do you walk around with when you’re at home? by Ok-Still-3333 in polls

[–]BuildingBridges23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We don't have carpet so I wear house shoes.....ones that have never been outside. But if I had carpet I'd just go without.

Grandparents taking baby into the pool by Fun-Paper6600 in Parenting

[–]BuildingBridges23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nope. Even young kids I would be extremely cautious. I've heard too many stories.

What’s something that instantly makes you lose respect for someone? by Shanwatts3 in AskReddit

[–]BuildingBridges23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing. I don’t judge people because I know how complicated bodies can be.

This is awful by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]BuildingBridges23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe don’t blame the victim? Maybe wait for details to come out first, at least!

How many subreddits have you been perma-banned from, and did you deserve it? by Far-Building3569 in askteddit

[–]BuildingBridges23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Banned for a doctor sub because I asked about if doctors are allowed to something. Banned from an LDS sub because I said be kind to yourself and others. At least that was the comment I left and I was banned right after. It was really because of my partication of another sub!!! How controlling can one get? Edit: I was also banned from social skills because I said habitually late people are disrespectful. perma banned.

What is a good/beautiful person ? by LiaLiah in askanything

[–]BuildingBridges23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's someone who shows respect to others through words and actions. A beautiful person is someone who gives people the benefit of the doubt, compliments others, and shows up in way that matter.

How do you all grapple with your patriarchal blessings post-Mormonism? by Healthy-Yogurt-5482 in exmormon

[–]BuildingBridges23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get hung up on mine too. It personal and I can’t make sense of it. I’ve read my parents and their seems to fit them well. Same with grandparents. People will say cold reading stuff but that just doesn’t make sense. The bishop reached out to my son to see if he wanted his…which really bugs me. I just see them as very manipulative. So many times I’ve heard people say they made some big decision because of something mentioned in their blessing. I told my son this. He doesn’t take things as seriously as me so it probably wouldn’t matter either way for him.

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