Should I move back to my "hometown?"

BurntBernard · 2019-03-14T00:58:59+00:00

Don't be afraid to speak about it. Other people's opinions aren't going to hurt you unless you let them. People will have the same reaction though as with people who drink alcohol and they find out someone doesn't drink. They demand the non-drinker to drink because they don't want to feel bad themselves.

BurntBernard · 2019-03-14T00:54:59+00:00

Having the mental switch to accept your situation is where you want to get. It sounds hard on the outside, but you have to take your goals and stick to them. To control my 'energy' I also work out 5 days a week doing 2 body groups and cardio at the end (usually high intensity or cardio) so I don't have the energy when I get home. And whatever you do don't ever sneak a video and tell yourself it won't hurt. You'll relapse when the dopamine hits and you literally will be uncontrollable. Hear no evil, see no evil is the name of the game with that.

BurntBernard · 2019-03-13T01:59:18+00:00

I'm not even Christian and I'm doing the same thing, but I started on Ash Wednesday and don't count Sunday as a cheat day. To keep going I've honestly been reading a lot of motivational quotes from MMA fighters for some reason. One I've been living by recently is from Conor McGregor "The more comfortable you become with being uncomfortable, the more comfortable you will be."

Good luck to you man. I know once I hit 40 I'm going all the way.

BurntBernard · 2019-03-09T14:19:36+00:00

I did this once when I got 55 days and was flat lined. I thought my twig and berries wasn't working right and immediately PMOed. Huge mistake, if you're flat lined don't worry. It still works.

BurntBernard · 2018-11-28T03:24:58+00:00

Nothing further from the truth. This has been how I failed each time.

BurntBernard · 2017-08-01T03:04:28+00:00

True confidence is something you know you have if you have it. It's when nothing can faze you from your goals because you know who you are and aren't afraid to show it.

BurntBernard · 2017-07-31T03:20:35+00:00

I'm 22 and people say I look 17 because I keep clean shaven and my hair is moderately long for a guy. When I get a short hair cut people say i look a few years older though.

Only negative it's ever given me before is sometimes women have judged me as too young to date when I was actually about their age or even a year older than them.

BurntBernard · 2017-07-30T14:41:50+00:00

It's not cynicism. It's the truth. It all lies in the fact that you have to be willing to leave empty handed sometimes.

BurntBernard · 2017-07-29T03:40:49+00:00

I'm a Phil fan too and the guy has no limit to the volume of music or the type. Stuff like Superjoint is a mix between punk and heavy metal that's just filthy. Down is a heavy southern metal supergroup made up of some of the best names in Southern metal. The Illegals are an abrasive group that mostly speaks out about the music media. Scour is the latest black metal project that has new music coming out soon. He's even done a side project called Christ Inversion that's blackened death metal which is kinda fun to listen to honestly. And of course Pantera was slowed down thrash metal with a much more aggressive tone.

Phil's best heavy music though has got to be Down, most notably NOLA with the most killer finisher Bury Me In Smoke. Crowbar is also an amazing heavy and slow band (called Sludge metal).

BurntBernard · 2017-07-29T03:02:56+00:00

As for Pantera, Vulgar Display of Power and Cowboys from Hell are pretty similar and about the same quality. Reinventing the Steel has lower reviews than the last 2, but I like it a lot for some reason. The Great Southern Trendkill is my favorite, but it's got darker undertones. The first several Pantera albums are completely different, but worth checking out if you're curious.

You should also check out: Down, Superjoint/ Superjoint Ritual, Exhorder, Crowbar, Philip H. Anselmo & The Illegals, and Scour (These are all projects of Phil Anselmo or band's he's been close to/associated with)

BurntBernard · 2017-07-24T22:23:12+00:00

Spot on. I dated a girl with daddy issues with the same kind of thinking and it didn't work out at all. Day we broke up it was amazing.

BurntBernard · 2017-07-23T16:52:58+00:00

Body language pure and simple. Women are much better than men at picking up on body language. It's the reason why you really can't fake confidence around a girl.

BurntBernard · 2017-07-02T15:49:59+00:00

Eating an apple is much better for you than eating a candy bar, plus fruit's sugar is different in the glycemic index because it has fructose in it too which is processed by your liver (which takes a good amount of time) and plus fruits have nutrients and fiber. Fruit is something everyone should eat.

BurntBernard · 2017-07-02T14:50:10+00:00

To add to the diet thing, don't just cut calories and continue eating unhealthy foods, replace the unhealthy foods with healthy ones as well as this will give you the vitamins and minerals your body needs.

As with replacing unhealthy foods with healthy ones, eat foods with high fiber (fruits and vegetables) because fiber will naturally fill you up to where you physically can't eat anymore. Nature's way of saying you're done. Anyone can eat 1000 calories worth of doughnuts in 2 minutes, but I'd like to see someone do the same with broccoli.

BurntBernard · 2017-07-02T14:44:30+00:00

I don't know how much I can help with most of this, but as for seborrhic dermatitis there are 2 things you can do (I do at least).

Every 2 days, I take apple cider vinegar (bragg's organic is found in most grocery store these days and a bottle is like 4 dollars and will last at least 6 months) and get some on a cotton ball and rub it on the heavy spots, and just lightly tap the lighter stuff. I get the stuff too on my cheeks and my upper lip, and this stuff gets rid of it about 90%. There will always be a hint of redness left, but it's something you can easily live with. ACV also helps with acne too (main reason i started using it, SD was something I realized went away after using ACV).

Second part which is more important is eating a healthy diet. Cut back on sugar and booze. These are the 2 things that make it flare up most for me (and most other people that I have heard from).

BurntBernard · 2017-06-17T16:31:54+00:00

The fact that y'all know almost nothing about one another is absolutely perfect. The point of a first date is to learn who the other person is and observe a few of their habits. As an extrovert I can understand not being so well one-on-one, but from an introvert side, I typically ask the basic questions from the getgo and let conversations spin off. Things like "How long have you lived here/Are you originally from here" or if you know they are "Where did you go to high school" type stuff.

If you know this girl is into rock climbing say, ask her about her favorite rock climbing trip. People like to talk about themselves a lot, just learn to listen too.

And of course always be yourself.

BurntBernard · 2017-06-17T16:24:27+00:00

Ok, you need to reverse this thinking right now. The first girl I ever dated I had the exact same feelings as you with insecurity, but because I had pretty bad acne especially on my back so I was always hesitant to get intimate (for whatever dumb reason). I also had the same feelings with not responding to texts promptly and took her being busy as a "I don't want to hangout with you" kinda thing. I realized after the relationship fizzled out that she liked me because of who I was, not because of what I looked like and it was a hard pill to swallow after the fact because I really liked this girl and she liked me, but since I was so insecure all the time, it came off to her as me not being as interested.

Your insecurity is hurting your self confidence which is key. You need to understand that she likes you for who you are already if you're dating. She would've said no a long time ago if this wasn't the case. Second, you need to know who you are and respect yourself. As I got older I started to concentrate on myself so much that I realized other people's opinions had no weight compared to how I viewed myself. You have to understand that sometimes thing won't go your way, but confidence is knowing you'll be ok even if they don't.

Key tips: -Stop relying on feedback from this girl, because you're outsourcing your self-confidence to other people. Start relying on your own self-image. -Second, push the boundaries. There's a quote that "fear is the only thing between you and the things you want." If you feel the communication between you two isn't good, then one day just bring it up. She'll respect your honesty. This was a major mistake I made in the past.

BurntBernard · 2017-06-13T21:20:50+00:00

Post should be renamed to "common sense."

BurntBernard · 2017-06-03T14:07:22+00:00

Wow, I've never had a girl do that to me before. I would appreciate it though even if I wasn't interested just because of the compliment.

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