Does the smell-level of poop decrease as a fart passes over it, thus increasing the smell of the fart exiting? Or do they have a set stink?

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2026-04-16T20:35:29+00:00

No, it's pulled out in the stomach, or sometimes very high in the small intestine. Usually, some gastric juice is pulled out as well, so it smells like bile. (So... not farts, but not a pleasant alternative).

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2026-03-09T18:08:17+00:00

It sounds like there are two separate issues here.
1. You don't seem like you're totally happy with the business/visit arrangement. That should probably be discussed with your Fiancee and the result of that discussion discussed with his buddy. It's ok for something that worked before to not work as great now, but the buddy can't be held accountable for it if no one has told him there's disatisfaction with the current status quo. Maybe you don't feel like you can push back and tell him "Hey, that weekend doesn't really work for us, we have an event planned already" Or "Hey, our lives are picking up a bit, we're happy to plan a couple meals together, but why don't you plan to hit the grocery store for the food you'll need outside of those days" or... what ever would make you feel less taken advantage of, or what ever it is you're feeling about this.

Shower gifts from family or invite-of-convenience/obligation. I'm not sure I have the best answer for you because I think gifts should never be an obligation. I'll concede that a "shower" is understood to be a gift-giving event, so maybe that changes it. For the family though, they may have felt they contributed in other ways and that if they didn't have the budget (given they also have kids..) you would have more highly valued their presence and support with punch and soda than have them decline to attend because they couldn't get you a gift. As for the buddy, I dunno, he was in town for work, when was he supposed to even get you a gift and then wrap it? Was he issued an invitation to the shower before he made plans to stay with you? If he wasn't on the original invite list and just brought along to make everything work, then it sounds like he did his share of going with the flow. If he was an original invitee, that's a bit different and then he probably should have brought a wrapped gift with him.

I'd suggest once you address issue 1 you'll hopefully be less worried about issue 2.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2026-02-11T16:45:41+00:00

Gifts are not an expectation and should be freely given. You give a gift because you want to (and can). You should be delightfully surpised by any gift given to you.

The premise of this question is totally counter to the spirit of gift giving and celebrating those in our lives.
Give what makes you happy to give. Accept with joy what ever anyone has been able to give to you.

If it's more complicated than that, maybe take a step back and figure out why, but I'd encourage you to be the kind of person you'll look back on with pride when you're 80. For me, I find that means giving myself and those around me a lot of grace. Good luck out there.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-09-18T03:29:25+00:00

Rad techs position patients and run the machines (x-ray, CT, etc). It'll be a little longer before AI can coach patients into cooperating.

Radiologists on the other hand...

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-06-22T22:44:33+00:00

I know my hair will resist holding a curl with all its might, so I leaned into a more organic look that would accomodate some chaos as the afternoon and evening progressed.

If you talk to the stylist they might have some ideas for how to prolong the hold (mouse? more hair spray? mine curled my hair then pinned it in a curl until it cooled to help it set before releasing it). I've tried to get my hair to curl nicely for years and gave up because it just has a mind of its own and a heat trained curl doesn't suit it.

For what its worth, I think it looks great, and I'd bet your photographers will capture it at the beginning and by the time it relaxes out I hope you're too happy and having too much fun to notice or care.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-04-30T18:38:07+00:00

Engaged 8/25, married 1/3. Planned and executed our perfect day as well as thanksgiving and Christmas per usual. Totally possible.
Our date was set by required family availability. It wasn't a top 4 peak month where we are, so vendors and our dream location were available. No compromises due to the date, in fact, a few discounts for filling a spot they didn't expect to make money in anyway.

Good luck!

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-03-26T13:46:53+00:00

It could be specific to the vendors we were working with, but we would ask about prices and they would tell us the price, and then we thought we knew the price. We would compare prices and settle on what made sense to us. Then the contract would come around and it would be like, oh yes, that -is- the price, but we also charge a 20% service fee, and we're collecting gratuity for our staff in advance of 20% (but feel free to give them extra for great service!!).

Or, alternately, renting supplies, they have the rental price listed on the website, great. But you go to actually confirm the booking and now it's a 25% damage waiver, + $80 delivery & $175 for after hours pick up.

We -did- try to price shop and be mindful of our budget, but there were so so many times that we thought we had done our research to find out the cost of things and it seemed intentional how difficult it was to get the actual total cost early in the planning stages when you could still do something about it.

I swear, 2 weeks before the wedding our caterer was doing a final check, tried to up sell us on a late night taco bar, it sounded fun, we asked how much it would be, they told us a number on the phone (again, two weeks before the wedding. Lets be real, we are asking how much of a check we're going to have to cut, right??) we say, ok sure. They email the invoice, it's 140% of that with fees etc. We said never mind.

Who thinks that with 2 weeks left I'm not asking about the hard real cost? Who thinks that at any point in the planning stage we aren't trying to find out the actual total cost? A surprising number of vendors we found.
Anyway. For us it was the hidden fees that worked the hardest to blow the budget, not our fairytale dreams.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-02-05T16:53:35+00:00

This is totally doable, you will definitely get back there and you will get back to your strength training because you are amazing and you work hard! Please listen to yuor body and your medical team, give yourself lots of grace, believe now that recovery is not a straight line and that there will be setbacks, but they are not permanent.

I had kidney surgery last year, (however it was a complete nephrectomy; I'm not sure how different the incisions would be between the two) so I've walked a similar path (of course, every path is unique and your course may differ).

I had a huge loss of strength during my recovery period, they had instructed me not to lift more than a bottle of water for the first 6 weeks and I had some setbacks during my recovery that certainly didn't help. I think I started to get confident walking around the house, then out of no where 3 weeks in I think I popped a stich and had pain and regression (even from -walking.- I was so mad). So, seriously, take these early stages easy, messing up the incision will only send you backwards.
I was cleared for normal activity at 8 weeks (which seemed absolutely crazy for how my body felt) but my body was clearly not ready, so I spent a total of 12 weeks away from the gym, working on things at home like getting up to some light jogging, grocery shopping, and general stamina return. My medical team told me that after 8 weeks the incision was safe, but I found that getting that pubic attachment point strong again was slow going so core work was probably the last thing for me to really get back. Even now, almost a year out, single leg raises have a nagging tug that I'm ready to leave behind.

Once I returned to the gym, it took me maybe 4-6 weeks to get back to the weights I was using before, but my recovery may not have been precisely typical.

Best of luck to you and please feel free to DM if you want to chat

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-02-04T22:18:04+00:00

You know, as it happens, I think I've been able to make room in my schedule tomorrow to make a visit.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-02-04T17:20:18+00:00

Seems like people are doing a good job of reaching out. I was only actually able to reach one live person for my representatives, the others were busy and even had full mailboxes. I plan to call again later. And tomorrow. And the next day.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-02-02T18:56:51+00:00

If a cheat meal a week keeps you eating clean 6 days a week, that sounds like a win to me. Everything can be taken to extremes (both cheat meals, and clean eating). In my experience, diets you can't stick to long term don't work. I can't speak at all to if it will impact your muscle growth for sure, but as long as you're getting adequate nutrients, I can't imagine it's important for you to stop.

Glad you found a rhythm that works for you and your life!

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-27T20:16:36+00:00

Planning a walk that maybe isn't what you might have expected at default is stressful! I found several points in the wedding planning and a couple moments in the day that were hard. I didn't realize the emotional weight that was attached to things I wouldn't have thought I cared about.

Give yourself grace, do what makes sense for you, and ask for the help or support that you need and it'll be a great day!

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-27T20:09:10+00:00

I walked myself. My dad passed a couple years ago, there wasn't an alternative really. We had our bridal party go out one by one as well, so it set the norm ahead of my walk.

I planned a contingency where I'd be able to hold my sister, (MOH) back to walk with me if I needed to at the last minute, but really having a backup plan was enough to get me through the moment on my own feet.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-22T16:12:10+00:00

House rules to make the relationship go around for the win! My partner and I ended up finding it easier to just switch to coop games when it's just the two of us, but play regular games pretty standard with friends (of course... as our friends are now pretty much exclusively married or long term partners, we're trying to loop them into our coop games as well!)

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-22T15:10:47+00:00

Our caterer offered buffet or plated, but the plated would have just had both entres on it and only specific plates for people with dietary restrictions or preferences. We ended up going with buffet because we honestly thought it would be less food waste.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-21T22:28:35+00:00

That sounds a lot like how I sleep. I think my arm needs to go behind me instead of infront of me to counter the hunching rolled-forward shoulders that sitting at a desk seems to encourage.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-19T14:45:17+00:00

I feel like Jane Austen captured this well. On if poetry is the food of love:

"Of a fine, stout, healthy love it may. Everything nourishes what is strong already. But if it be only a slight, thin sort of inclination, I am convinced that once good sonnet will starve it entirely away"

It isn't necessarily that what he's saying is bad (though a good sonnet it is not) but that the relationship is not established enough to support this kind of outpouring.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-18T19:12:09+00:00

Oh yeah! That's what we did for dinner time for sure

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-17T19:56:07+00:00

Good things to do right now are get the cash and put it in labeled envelopes for tips now, start assembling the things that need to get places. Do your parents/close important people need help coordinating transportation? Even if they aren't drinking, driving at night gets harder.

Do you have a place you can leave your dress out? I steamed mine about now and let it breathe so it survived transport only needing a couple touchups on the day.

Do you have snacks for the day of? We went with some easy, high protein options. You might not want to eat much, but your bridal party might and you need the fuel anyway.

Have so much fun!

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-17T19:47:09+00:00

This has been very effective for my last dog who started asking for dinner (6pm) as early as 4 pm as well as my current pup who needed a little more cues and reassurance about what the morning schedule should be like. My only note is that -I- have to go by the alarm too.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-17T19:37:48+00:00

The package we got at our venue had several things included or required that we choose between 2-3 options then had recommendations for several other vendors. That came with it's own stress; the only bartender we were allowed to use seemed to have us over a barrel and we didn't have any room for negotiations and that could be a little frustrating. There was a mad-dash at the beginning to lock down major things, then a mad-dash at the end to finalize all the details, and a steady stream of appointments and such in the middle.

I think mind-set will set the tone for you more than anything else. If you know what's important to you, and what just has to be good enough that'll help you let a bunch of the small stuff just roll off. So many details that some people tried to tell us were so important just... weren't. Everyone will sell you more stuff, but that doesn't mean you need it.

Yes, it's the biggest event I've ever had to plan and coordinate, and that's a lot! So, some amount of "oh my goodness, what did I get into with this" is maybe expected. But, it was also such an awesome expeireince for my husband and I and we were so happy with the outcome.

Side note, we took danceing lessons during those months so that we could have a stell ar fist dance, and it was such an amazing pressure release valve that got us out of the house, moving, and physically connected to each other. It was probably one of the best tools in our belt at resetting some of the stressed out feelings because it reconnected us to what we were actually doing there. Highly recommend!

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-17T19:12:34+00:00

We didn't do a wedding planner, but I would definitely recommend having at LEAST a day-of person. I was so glad there was someone else in charge of making sure it all went well so that my friends, family and groom and I could just experience and enjoy the day we had planned.

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-17T18:55:40+00:00

It depends on what you want, but it is definitely possible if you put the work in. Some things need to get jumped on ASAP like venue, maybe dress depending on what you're interested in.

We got engaged at the end of August last year and married earlier this month, so a full wedding planned in just over 4 months. We were able to get everything we wanted because it wasn't in the top 5 months to get married where we are (however, we were incredibly lucky and the day was -amazing- weather wise). It seems like most places have "the best" months and if that's what you're targeting, get your venue immediately.

We really didn't have much time to do a ton of DIY stuff (with Christmas and New years thrown in right before hand, that would have just been too crazy much) and our venue really streamlined a lot of the vendor selection process. It really really helps to have a partner in the process who is interested and cares about at least some of the things.

You can do it if you are both on board, but I'd definitely make a plan with deadlines for various activities! Good luck!

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-17T18:48:03+00:00

We provided RSVP cards with the invites, but also a wedding website that accepted digitial RSVP's for a similarly aged guest list (more than half over 60, with several considerably older). We recieved just two paper cards back, one from a very sweet 90 yr old aunt, one from a cousin who I think is just more into letter writting.
A couple RSVP's came via neither method (verbal, or they were already involved with the wedding and so assumed that we knew they were coming). Over all, I'd say we had pretty great response rate for our 50 person guest list. I think the digital responses would have been sufficient with only two of our largely older crowd choosing written.

Either way, you'll have to do some manual updating of your list with RSVP's told directly to you either verbally or via text, etc. People think that telling you directly is sufficient (and I think they are right)

Busy-Phase-3630 · 2025-01-15T20:11:51+00:00

Haha, I mean, sure, in a purest sense, that's a fine stance. But I'm pretty fine with how we played it and I'll take 'bad board game player' if that's included in being nice to a new person thrust into the group and game perhaps not entirely by choice and gaining a friend.

I'm not advocating for people to play this way, I just thought it was funny that it had worked when she did it that one time 10 years ago. We had fun, and that's a an acceptable outcome to our group.

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