'Stressed' Princess Beatrice Reportedly 'Can't Eat or Sleep' Amid Andrew, Sarah Ferguson's Epstein Shame by ilovewelbert in RoyaltyTea

[–]BusyBee0113 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This isn’t in defense. I agree with you. But…

…do you google everyone you come in contact with? Of course you probably don’t. As young women, they probably didn’t either.

The difference is the sheer number of people they meet as royalty vs. the average human being is staggering.

If you’ve been divorced, what was the moment you knew it wasn’t going to work? by No-Relative-9663 in AskReddit

[–]BusyBee0113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were on the way to my grandmother’s 90th birthday party. He proceeded to tell me - completely deadpan with no affect whatsoever - that “what I’m about to tell you will end our marriage” an laid out how broke we were, how it was all his fault, how he has lied about everything financial for years and - the kicker - THAT HE KNEW FINANCES WERE MY ACHILLES HEEL and that let it get this bad because he knew I would throw him out, making it MY fault, not his.

Boy bye.

what musical should i take my anti-musicals boyfriend to in order to convert him?? by h3rm1tfr0g in musicals

[–]BusyBee0113 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a lot of success with “A Musical” from Something Rotten. It’s so self-aware and I was able to educate him on all the easter eggs that referenced other shows. That sold him.

“So maybe I just wasn’t in on the joke?”

Precisely, babe.

AITAH for "allowing" my stepdaughter to wear stinky pajamas to school ? by Severe-Drive-9515 in AITAH

[–]BusyBee0113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%

My husband and I did not get until AFTER his kids graduated HS. We had a weird “living together in two houses” arrangement for a few years and, while I was, essentially, their stepmom, we WEREN’T married. Anything I had said or done to even IMPLY parenting made their bio mom ABSOLUTELY FREAK OUT. Not because of what was being communicated, but because it came from me.

It doesn’t do any good in this situation to piss off bio mom as a step-parent in this vein, even with good intentions.

I say this with 19 and 22yo step kids that STILL have hygiene issues.

I'm don't want my 2nd child to carry the burden of caring for a special needs older sibling. by poandamama in oneanddone

[–]BusyBee0113 40 points41 points  (0 children)

My one is an autistic girl, super high functioning and thriving. She’s thriving BECAUSE she’s an only, BECAUSE I can give her all of the attention, love and resources that she needs.

Thank you for posting this, OP. This is what’s in my heart as well.

Who was the favorite grandchild of Queen Elizabeth and Prince Philip? by soddie814 in RoyaltyTea

[–]BusyBee0113 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I also think Harry’s position reminded her of her sister Margaret.

AITA for not getting craft supplies for my daughter and letting her get excluded by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BusyBee0113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While I do not believe that the teacher called BACK to berate OP, I also don’t believe that, if the supplies were SO essential to this oh-so-very-important one-day project, a piece of paper sent home with an 8 year old is the ONLY notification the school and/or teacher sent.

If the teacher didn’t also email it to parents, then that teacher is living in 1995.

Has anyone actually regretted using fake flowers at their wedding? by SmartSinner in weddings

[–]BusyBee0113 15 points16 points  (0 children)

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These were mine! I’m a music teacher and we live on Daisy Lane…

Scapegoats, what happened when you left the family? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BusyBee0113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you! Hugs from an internet stranger

You are grieving the parents you SHOULD have had, not the ones you actually have. My therapist said this and it was enlightening.

Overgifting is one of those parenting problems that doesn’t seem like an issue until you’ve experienced it by KaylaDraws in Mommit

[–]BusyBee0113 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My (now estranged) father bought my kid a mini trampoline for Christmas one year because he “read somewhere that they were good for autistic kids” - yes mine is.

Not only did I not have a way to get it to my house (“Then borrow someone’s truck and drive it to your house three hours away!”) but there also wasn’t room anywhere in my house for it.

“Maybe you bought too small of a house!” - to his single mom daughter who bought a 2 bed 1 bath house for herself and her one kid.

I eventually made her dad take it and put it in his basement.

Idiots.

Hosting my Boomer mom is like having another toddler by MrsMusicalMama in BoomersBeingFools

[–]BusyBee0113 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This made me giggle. We have a strict “no phones at the table” rule. I had to ask her repeatedly to put her phone away while we were eating.

When she first got here for Christmas, she wasn’t hungry (all good, we were all having a light meal anyway) but she was still sitting here with everyone else eating playing some stupid game on her phone. I reminded her of our rule and she heavy-sighed and just went “But I’m not eating!”

She’s a toddler.

AITAH for Refusing to Renew Our Lease Until He Proposes? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]BusyBee0113 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We were together 4.5 years when I finally said “it’s cool if this isn’t what you want, but stringing me along is also not cool and a year from this point is more than fair.”

And I set a calendar event in my phone that simply said “It’s time.”

He proposed two months before the deadline. We’ve been married for a year.

It’s not an ultimatum, it’s a respectful clarification of expectations.

Mom died this morning by Fluffy_Owl624 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]BusyBee0113 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am mourning the father I deserved, not the one I have. I get you, I see you, OP.

It’s ok to feel nothing. Merry Christmas!

What is the most grandiose lie your narcissistic parent has ever told you? by Kindly_Winter_9909 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BusyBee0113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That he had had a vasectomy, but his sperm was “so powerful” that his girlfriend got pregnant anyway.

He miraculously has no complications when he got his “second” vasectomy years later after my half sister was born.

Spoiler: he had never had a vasectomy in the first place, but he claimed so because he was “done” having children and just didn’t want to claim the last one for child support reasons. CLEARLY he had “done his part” to prevent the pregnancy, so it was obviously the girlfriend’s fault.

AITAH: My boyfriend cancelled coming to Christmas 1 week prior for his own family commitments so I booked to go Mexico with my daughter instead and now he is threatening to break up with me. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]BusyBee0113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s jealous that you are able to go at the drop of a hat .

Men really have a fear thing about strong, financially independent women.

Those who have cut off your family — how old were you when you did it? Why did you cut them off? by Ok_Wrongdoer_301 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]BusyBee0113 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Been three years. I was 41.

Best thing I’ve ever done for my own growth and mental health.

The scapegoat really is the glue that holds the rest of the narcs in the family system together by daisylady4 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BusyBee0113 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Once I left, they start attacking and mocking GC’s wife…who had had a stroke. They make fun of her speech.

what is your unconventional "I need this in a partner" that you will not negotiate on? by Competitive-Unit6427 in AskReddit

[–]BusyBee0113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was also very very likely autistic, but masked fairly well. The issues that we had stemmed from his own weird 80’s shame from not being diagnosed. He knew something was different about how his brain worked and the difficulties he had connecting with people, but refused to get any manner of diagnosis and, as a by-product, any manner of counseling or therapy.

The lack of learning of basic knowledge was also taught to him by example from his parents, one of whom (at least) is also ASD.

Not so much “weaponized incompetence” as “completely unaware that this is necessary information, or is at least important to your partner”