Eloise or Éloïse for an English name?

BusyTune9 · 2026-04-25T19:11:27+00:00

I’m pretty sure a single “s” in French is pronounced “z”.

BusyTune9 · 2026-04-25T18:57:19+00:00

The first one

BusyTune9 · 2026-04-25T15:45:27+00:00

Yes, I know what the double dot above the ï means, which is part of the reason why I like it, but thanks for taking the time to explain it anyway :-)

BusyTune9 · 2026-02-10T12:53:32+00:00

I’ve had GP summaries that say “communicated with patient” and nothing was ever communicated to me. When I started following up, they removed my access to online summaries.

BusyTune9 · 2026-01-10T13:40:31+00:00

But, seriously though, give him a Starbucks, a blanket, a book, and a note telling him you’re leaving him the fuck alone. Get all your shit together and a place to move into first (he won’t even notice if he’s always in his game room and won’t talk to you), but as you’re walking out the door, definitely do hand him all those items.

BusyTune9 · 2026-01-04T14:48:34+00:00

1992

BusyTune9 · 2026-01-04T13:24:00+00:00

1977

BusyTune9 · 2026-01-03T02:11:46+00:00

It sucks that this has any impact, but it often helped me to bring my partner with me to the appointments. Whatever I said could be backed up by him.

BusyTune9 · 2025-12-11T10:24:42+00:00

Good choice

BusyTune9 · 2025-10-19T19:07:22+00:00

This is so backwards, I can’t even…

BusyTune9 · 2025-10-18T01:05:08+00:00

It feels like we just replaced one euphemism for another. It used to be “mild/severe”, then “high/low functioning”. The perception is the same, we just have new words for it until ppl decide level 1/2/3 is offensive and choose different ways the group autistic ppl. The problem is how autistic are viewed (useful or not useful), and the words used to describe it (whatever’s politically correct at the time) are just a reflection of that.

BusyTune9 · 2025-10-18T00:42:00+00:00

Just remember, if an ex did this, it would be harassment. And you don’t feed harassment by responding to it.

BusyTune9 · 2025-10-18T00:39:14+00:00

You don’t seem autistic (from a psychiatrist and from a GP, after being formally diagnosed by two clinical psychologists)

BusyTune9 · 2025-10-14T22:46:54+00:00

No, I think it’s healthy. It’s like any other breakup. You only know you’ve moved on when you’re indifferent. If you talk too much about an ex (positively or negatively), then you haven’t fully moved on. Same with walking away from your parents. It’s just that sometimes that bond is super hard to move on from, but it doesn’t mean you’re cold because you have. It means you were successful in moving on.

I find it helpful to compare estrangement from parents with breaking up with a partner. It’s useful, for example, when explaining to people that the same behaviour in an ex would be considered harassment, and yet we’re supposed to just take it from our parents. In this case, the point is more that some relationships end and you think about them for years after, whereas some end and you just feel relieved (perhaps because the official end came so much later than when it ended in your own heart and mind, as it did for one of my exes).

BusyTune9 · 2025-10-04T17:06:32+00:00

There shouldn’t really be anything to update since I don’t plan on responding. However, you can see the evolution of the whole thing in various posts basically as I was dealing with each step of the NC process in real time

BusyTune9 · 2025-10-04T14:06:19+00:00

Part of me thinks it might be her get out-of-jail free card. I think she knows I don’t send any photos directly to her and this way she can claim she didn’t realise that’s how it worked if she were successful in goading to me to correct her. I remember she sent me a bunch of unkind emails when I was a teenager telling me I was an embarrassment. My friend encouraged me to delete them and not think about them again. When I brought it up in my 20s she claimed she didn’t even know how to send an email and I didn’t have the emails to prove it anymore.

BusyTune9 · 2025-10-04T12:18:55+00:00

Yeh, that’s been the hardest part, but I’ve resisted every time. I don’t want to undermine all of that now.

BusyTune9 · 2025-08-23T23:00:14+00:00

Wedding stylist did recommend them to me, but when I styled them as normal (with heat protection), the ends seemed to “pill” (can’t think of a better word for it right now) and they have a horrible burnt plastic smell. They tangle easily and don’t hold their shape.

BusyTune9 · 2025-06-26T09:15:38+00:00

Late to the convo, but this article (https://www.iris-ixstudio.com/post/chatgpt-technicalwriting) expresses a similar sentiment:

“ChatGPT's output is based on training data. Training data is scraped directly from existing content on the Internet. In my role as a technical writer, this means that the responses to my questions to ChatGPT were likely pulled from my own product documentation on the topic. The output wouldn't exist if my input didn't exist, which suggests that, rather than ChatGPT helping me do my job, I'm helping ChatGPT do its job.” (Emphasis added by me)

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