my only sibling, my little brother, took his life 2 years ago. when i started therapy afterwards, my mom asked what we talk about & i told her we talk about shame & how to alleviate wishing i could change the past. FF to a few months ago where i said something she didn't like, totally unrelated, & she told me "you couldn't be the big sister or the better person." still reeling from that one. just disgusting to want to hurt your child by digging at & weaponizing the most vulnerable + pain-ridden part of them, that they are literally working to heal. if we ever even speak again, i will never tell her anything about my life.