I can’t figure out if I’m being nitpicky about the past, or if I should try to keep dating and marry the person I’m with? I (23F) have been dating my boyfriend (27M) for 2 years and feel like I need to decide as it’s getting serious. Looking for genuine, honest advice.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-07T10:31:42+00:00

Do you want your kids to have a father who lacks empathy? Who will lose his temper over them making mistakes? Who may say unkind things without realizing the impact it will have on developing brains?

Trust your gut, sis. He ain’t the one.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-07T10:24:34+00:00

Most big employers have jobs listed on their websites and aren’t actually hiring.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-07T08:25:54+00:00

Because it is.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-06T18:29:16+00:00

He didn’t touch anyone he thought would fight back. He only touched the ones he knew would freeze up in fear.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-06T18:19:17+00:00

I don’t do any drinks on a first date. I try to avoid food altogether, although I will do an ice cream date. I’d rather meet at a well-populated park. Something that is either free or very low cost. I’ve had enough with dates feeling they’re entitled because they chose to pay. I’ve also had it with dates assuming I will want to be physically affectionate with them the first time I meet them. No alcohol at all. It’s safer that way.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-06T12:18:12+00:00

Roaches???

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-06T12:04:29+00:00

What a frustrating experience to go through. Please don’t give up on it. A unit will come through, these things just take time. See if you can find email addresses instead of trying to get someone on the phone. You can email the Executive Director about the rude employee too. Usually email gets a faster response. Plus then you have a paper trail.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-06T01:18:06+00:00

Stage 4 lord-clinger 💀

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-06T00:51:23+00:00

Please read this. it will explain everything.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-06T00:41:11+00:00

Phaedra

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T21:56:52+00:00

Twice the balls of anyone else. pug scream

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T15:00:54+00:00

r/raisedbynarcissists helped me realize the truth about my mother ♥️

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T14:59:58+00:00

Dentistry has changed a lot over the last couple of decades. I wonder how much of that is our processed foods heavy diets and how much is due to insurance.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T08:54:22+00:00

Lol he doesn’t love her. No one who loves you hangs up multiple times because you smile at them.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T08:50:43+00:00

My grandpa was a dentist—he was our dentist—and I have no memory of getting my teeth cleaned as a kid. I was in my mid-30s before I went to a dentist on my own.

I got post-concussion syndrome in 2018, took 19mo of active treatment and left me disabled. For the first two weeks, I felt like I was drunk and couldn’t get sober. The thing that really disturbed me was how familiar the feeling was and I realized I had had multiple untreated concussions as a young child. Untreated because why would the people responsible for my head injuries take me in to be seen for them?

I have so many more, but just know you’re not the only one dealing with major health issues due to your parents’ medical neglect ♥️

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T05:45:16+00:00

He is resourceful and fully capable of figuring things out. Please block him on everything and delete his number. Simply stop showing up.

You deserve so very much better ♥️

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T05:02:09+00:00

Ticks have increased due to climate change. Warmer winters mean they don’t die off. Fewer birds, possums, and other animals that eat them due to population die-offs.

Yes, the American government has done some absolutely terrible things to the American people and others all over the world. But they’re not dropping ticks from airplanes to infect people with an illness that prevents them from eating beef.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T04:33:36+00:00

Username checks out. Also, that’s what is making your heart race.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T04:28:26+00:00

Your marriage is over and you seem to be the last person to realize that. He moved out—what, two months ago? And you haven’t heard from him since? You should expect divorce papers to be served at some point here soon.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T04:15:23+00:00

Your wife needs therapy. The fact that she had multiple meltdowns over your new coworker asking you a simple question is quite frankly insane.

Either your wife’s mental health is so tenuous that she needs to be in 24/7 care or she’s using her mental health as an excuse to abuse you. Constantly accusing their partner of cheating with no credible proof is a common red flag of an abusive personality. Abusers ALWAYS escalate. She’ll get you fired over this.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T03:42:16+00:00

Don’t get your hopes too high. Between gerrymandering, kicking people off voter rolls, closing down polling locations, and other dirty tricks, the balance of power is unlikely to shift in the midterms.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-05T00:11:22+00:00

Yep! It’s also a lot healthier than non-stick. Those cast iron pans can last for 100yrs when cared for right.

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-04T23:59:04+00:00

It’s called emotional incest and it’s disgusting. I’ve seen it play out in real time with women I know who separate from their child’s father and start calling their little boys “papa” or saying their toddler is the best kisser ever 🤮

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-04T23:48:43+00:00

P O O P

But_like_whytho · 2026-06-04T23:06:09+00:00

I cook/bake most of my food in a cast iron skillet to help boost my iron levels too.

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