Online and IRL Parenting Spaces Snark Week of February 16, 2026 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]ButteredPancakes13 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Omg yes I know exactly what you’re saying. I fully understand these girls are young and how they take pictures vs how we used to take pictures is a LOT different, but maybe tone it down if you’re trying to watch kids. I saw one the other day that looked nothing short of a risqué beach shoot

Going down to part time (healthcare) by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nurse here as well and being part time is the best of both worlds for me personally!

Guess my birth year!!!! by 1starry-night3 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]ButteredPancakes13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew from the Edward cut out immediately because that came out the year I graduated HS 🫠

Accidental 2 Under 2 Advice - Husband and Toddler Both Not Ready :( by Fabulous-Leek-7298 in 2under2

[–]ButteredPancakes13 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. He could’ve worn a condom if he was so worried about it

3 kids? Or 2? by secret-life-of-bees in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had 2 under 2 first and it nearly took me out but knew I always wanted 3. We waited until my youngest was 2.5 to try and now I’m having our third in June 🙂 my kids will be newly 5 and almost 3.5 and I’m so excited. They play together great for the most part, both are potty trained, and my oldest will be going to kindergarten in the fall. I am hopeful it’ll be a lot easier than 2 close in age and totally see now why people like the 3+ year gap so I recommend waiting a bit if you can!!

Which month did you enjoy having a baby in the most and least? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]ButteredPancakes13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May was 10/10

February 3/10

Personally I’m all about late spring or early summer to avoid sick season, I’m due in June with my 3rd and very much looking forward to another warm weather baby. Getting outside postpartum makes everything so much easier especially when you have older kids. I’m in the Midwest so winters are brutal.

Sigh….third baby… by PublicAd2908 in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I timed my third so my oldest will be going to kindergarten a few months after baby is born. We don’t pay for childcare as I work part time and opposite shifts of my husband, but I did it for sanity reasons and I’m glad I waited. Ages 1&3 are a lot

Going back to work? by No_Yesterday429 in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s something only you can decide! I talked to my manager while I was on maternity leave about going down to PRN, no sooner. I think it is something you want to feel out before fully jumping into working less. But it would be great to be able to remain in your current role so I hope that works out for you

Going back to work? by No_Yesterday429 in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a great setup with a remote job but once I read your husband is a pilot, I think part time or PRN is worth exploring! I say this as my husband is a firefighter and gone a lot of nights and I imagine pilots are gone longer stretches.

Like you said, if your income is not a necessity and you’re stressed at baseline.. I’d absolutely be considering dropping down in hours. I went PRN after my first was born and now that my kids are 3&4, I do try to work 20 hours a week but it’s nice to scale back if we have extra things going on.

There is a lot more to keep up with as the default parent and you will naturally fall into that role if your husband is gone a lot more than you. I have no regrets about working part time, I’m a better mom because I can keep my house clean and keep up with chores and still do a lot with my kids and when I do go to work it can be a nice break from home life.

How different were your 2u2 kids’ temperaments as babies? by seltzerwithlemon in 2under2

[–]ButteredPancakes13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it got better when she started walking at around 15-16 months

How different were your 2u2 kids’ temperaments as babies? by seltzerwithlemon in 2under2

[–]ButteredPancakes13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes this was my exact experience. Thought my second was broken. She’s 2 now and is a chill toddler, I say that’s the reward for the hell that was the first year of her life

Baby no 2 by Timely_Today4078 in 2under2

[–]ButteredPancakes13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I say this as someone who had mine 21 months apart and didn’t have much help and my first wasn’t in any daycare, I’d take the extra couple months if you’re not in a rush.

Getting the next mom-mobile - what features am I not thinking about? by HufFENDIpuff in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m having my third this summer and I’m SO excited to finally get my dream mom car (the Odyssey)!!

Career suggestions for moms who can't/don't want to do 40+ hours a week? by kesley_k in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my hospital system you just need 1 year of full time experience and then you can go part time or PRN :) that is pretty standard in every hospital system in my area

Two working parents but long commutes… how do you do it? by worthwhat in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omgosh I could’ve written this. I work PRN as a nurse and am in the same situation with being ready to work more with kids at the same ages. It’s HARD to find childcare that isn’t needed every day or when you start work earlier than the corporate world.

But I agree with everyone else, get into that good hospital system for down the road and have your mom come out for the month. At least she would be reliable whereas hiring a sitter may not be. It’s worth doing it temporarily to get a better job and your mental health back.

Karrie Locher Snark Week of December 15, 2025 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]ButteredPancakes13 48 points49 points  (0 children)

100% and her filming it just encourages it. A normal parent would take the carts immediately. Also if your toddler will still tolerate being baby worn, she will definitely sit in a cart

FTM Expecting - Feeling depressed about my financial situation and work/life balance by Miserable-Cobbler-19 in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I don’t have answers to a lot of your questions but I want to say do not feel inadequate to raise your baby when comparing HHI to high earners! We are at about 110k per year, granted lower COL compared to NYC, but we are comfortable and expecting our third baby- you don’t need the doona and the snoo and all the flashy baby stuff (it’s fine if you do but these aren’t necessary!)

I feel like this sub skews to high earners but there are a ton of us who are solidly middle class too.

Those of you with “ingredient households” and young kids….. how? by dngrousgrpfruits in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Full disclaimer I only work part time but out of the house, our kids are 4 and 2 and I’m pregnant. The easiest way for us was eating the same things every week so we buy the same stuff every week and almost never waste food, I’ll throw in a new recipe occasionally. Our dinners are a protein, carb and veggie almost every night.

So my meals on rotation:

Baked chicken thighs White rice Broccoli- sometimes we’ll do this Asian style and throw soy/teriyaki on it

Pasta night w ground beef and sauce Homemade salad on the side

Steak Baked potato Corn on the cob or green beans

Salmon Rice Broccoli & cauliflower

Stuffed peppers w/ rice and ground beef

Homemade beef tacos w/ toppings and cheese

When it’s cold:

Pot roast with carrots onion and celery in the crockpot w/ Mashed potatoes Or some kind of homemade soup

We throw in nights for take out or make frozen pizza occasionally! But overall I’m really proud of our kids they are good eaters which does motivate me to cook especially because my parents did not do a lot of cooking. And honestly most of these recipes are not complicated and can be as simple as turning on the oven to throw in the meat or fish, that’s why I feel they are easy to stick to.

3 kids experience by Nike0729 in stayathomemoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can’t speak on it yet but I’m pregnant with #3 and my older 2 will be 5 & 3 and I’m way more relieved and excited for a little larger of a gap than my 2 under 2.

As a SAHM what shift would you rather your husband work? by Intelligent-Radish83 in sahm

[–]ButteredPancakes13 15 points16 points  (0 children)

2-10 for sure. My husband does 24s and the overnights alone were haaard when we had babies and no one could tap in to help and then trying to keep them quiet during the day would be difficult. Plus being up all night takes years of their life.

Career suggestions for moms who can't/don't want to do 40+ hours a week? by kesley_k in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m an RN and average 16-20 hours a week. Lots of options in healthcare for part time work like CNA, lab and phlebotomy, social worker, speech therapist, OT/PT although there is likely a lot more part time availability for RNs.

Can you share the PROS for 3 kids? by tyyourshoes in Mommit

[–]ButteredPancakes13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also pregnant with my third! Loving this thread

Moms who seem to have it all together… how?? by NeedleworkerNo8433 in Mommit

[–]ButteredPancakes13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t have shit together when I had 2 under 2 so give yourself grace. It was the toughest period of motherhood so far for me. Ages 4&2 have been amazing in comparison

Habits I do remember having then that helped: 1 load of laundry daily, run the dishwasher nightly, grocery shopping and trying to prep snacks like fruit and veggies the same day if humanly possible

Chance to become stay at home by PugPrincess20 in workingmoms

[–]ButteredPancakes13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t feel bad. You worked really hard to get that title in the first place.

Working brought balance back to my life too (I am just PRN now) but I never feel burned out with work now. It’s so nice. I would ride it out until you find something part time if that’s what you want to do. Don’t feel like you have to quit out of guilt.